walking stick nerves
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Well its me again. A few people on here know that iv been very nervous anout getting a walking stick. I have finally gettin a nhs one that i have pinched from my auntie. The problem is im 19 and incredibly self concious due to bullying about my condition, legs and limp so going out with a walking stick is going to give people more of a reason to look at me and my limp and the way my legs stick out.
My fiance is taking me on a short walk around locally at the weekend to help break myself into using itm but im literally petrified even though i know im being silly i just cant help it.
Any words of advice?
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sue1957Geo sarah1996
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sue xx
sarah1996 sue1957Geo
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But thankyou for your lovely words xxx
ScubaRob sarah1996
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Before my op, I was using a stick for abou 2 months.
I'll say, being in my 30s, it felt a little weird for the first few days. I spent a good bit of time looking at peoples reactions, or worrying they'd think this or that... but then I realized after a few days I was thinking about that and not how much my hip didn't hurt after being up and moving for a half hour.
So, I'd say give it a few days. You won't like it very much at first, but once you get used to it, and realize, really, most people are actually quite nice and helpful around you.. it's really nice and makes trips out so much less stressful/painful
Post surgery, I didn't even think about it really. As much as I can't wait to not need my stick, it's really become something I take for granted when it comes to going out.
You're brave and wonderful. You can do it =)
sarah1996 ScubaRob
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Its nice to know im not the only one who has these feelings. And its wonderful that having a stick has worked so well for you
renee01952 sarah1996
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I still can't walk elegantly (is this a word?) with a cane - Always fiddling with the height and hitting people - the worst or most emberassing thing is , that the cane always falls down - no matter where I put it - at hairdressers,in restaurants, doctor's waiting room, grocery store, when visiting friends ,you name it, the darn thing always falls down with so much noise -- And someone else needs to pick it up for me
Just do what you are doing right now - you already sound so much more confident !!!
big warm hug
renee
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sarah1996 renee01952
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Rocketman_SG6UK renee01952
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anonymous333 sarah1996
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tpeter60 sarah1996
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It does not matter what others think. If people are shallow enough to bully or harass you about your using a cane or limping, they are not worth your time.
My biggest hurdle was going from a single point cane to a four point cane, because I saw that as an old person's cane. In the end it doesn't matter.
My wife has seen me through 4 hip replacements, if your fiancé is in it for the long haul, which it sounds like he is, you got a good one.
If you can handle the pain that comes from hip issues, you can handle what others think. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
sarah1996 tpeter60
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I think i find it hard because its all iv know through my school and college years since it was birth defect its just always been there.
But its now left me in a very self concious and nervous state. One GP once told me i have always had "mental health" such as anxiety since a child due to the bullying. I dont think i was very happy about the way he put it.
But yes, aslong as i have my Fiance i should be ok even though it is incredibly scary knowing im getting my first thr very soon and the fact that it could potentially make things work doesnt help 😂
tpeter60 sarah1996
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