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want to live but can't move on from my past

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nige20448
nige20448

Hi    for over 3 years  now    I  have been   thinking  24/7   of my past   I lost my  partner   of 20 years   and step  kids     house   job  with cancer research UK   which I loved    and  lot of friends      my  partner   she  finished with me   my step  kids still want to see me but  I don't go out  no more    because    I can't cope   I get scared    frighten     that my life is over    I am lost    lonely    and  all I think   and   see is my past     and because   I been  back    living    with  my   parents   I  feel  left   behind   I have one best mate    who  wants me to  go    stay with him  which I would love to but scared  I am not    going to last   much  more doctors say it's depression  but I can  not live  a life  without  my past  even  if I want too I think  it's more a  mental  problem .what do   any one else  think.thank you   nigr

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  • chrisk89
    chrisk89 nige20448

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    From your post I can tell that you are in a dark place. You are dwelling on the past and you can never move on until you stop doing this. If you continue seeing everything in this way, you will only continue a never-ending cycle where you will spiral into more and more bad luck. I have had relationships lasting several years and I can't lie, it does hurt when you lose them. But you need to let this pain make you stronger, not weaker. Remember that you still have a life of your own, just because your partner is gone it doesn't mean your life ends there. If anything, everything should feel brand new and you can do whatever you want now.

    I know it's easier said than done to remove this negative mindset. Believe me, I've struggled with it in the past. It is all controlled by your thoughts though, it really is. I don't think anyone can really comprehend the power of a single thought. One thought can create unimaginable things. Only you can decide whether you want those thoughts to create greatness or destruction. Maybe an anti-depressant stimulant could help you to get into a positive mindset. Just don't stay on it long-term (over 1 year). After that it does more bad than good. From your post I would say the doctors are right, you are clearly suffering from depression. But don't let this bring you down, it's normal. Especially after everything you have been through.

  • borderriever
    borderriever nige20448

    Posted

    Nige

    If not already I would discuss your Depression with your GP. Make a list or take a copy of your letter this will help you explain your problems and hopefully move you on with some treatment

    Make a double appointment, Monday and see how you go

    BOB

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