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Was told today my results are positive :(

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Zipzn
Zipzn

I think I am in shock. I don't have any feelings at this stage. I am totally numb. The most bazaar feeling I suppose. Not what I thought my reaction would be. It's 3:46am and have been awake since 1am. I'm not looking forward to the unknown journey that lies ahead. 

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  • sammiboiii
    sammiboiii Zipzn

    Posted

    I'm really sorry to hear that, I know exactly how you feel as I'm in the exact same boat.

    All I can suggest is try try think and stay positive try not think about it as best as possible over the next few days it'll be hard but after the third of fourth the worst is usually over you won't feel so selcluded just make sure you come here post to me or others and we can help you with any questions.

    I myself am still trying to over come to the fact I am positive to this virus but it does get easier!

    • Zipzn
      Zipzn sammiboiii

      Posted

      Thanks very much Sam. Thinking of you. I hope you are doing ok.
    • sammiboiii
      sammiboiii Zipzn

      Posted

      You're welcome, I'm only my 5 day in from being told so I new to this as well.

      I took a beaten when I found out. Barely any sleep and constant over thinking.

      But over the next few days it becomes less of a burden. Make sure you get some medication, because sooner you clear the outbreak to sooner to start to foget you even have the virus.

      When it comes to telling your partner or future partners well, I haven't gotten to thst yet and frankly i'm still worried. But it's a bridge i'll cross and we all cross at some point.

      Just stay positive and think positive and it always makes any situation lighter.

  • gloom
    gloom Zipzn

    Posted

    I know how you feel. I am surviving but I have loat my will to live. I have no one to talk to about this. I cannot accept myself anymore and I just really want to die.
  • gloom
    gloom Zipzn

    Posted

    I feel the same way. It has been 4 days for me I believe. I haven't really eaten nor slept properly. I haven't had any symptoms and don't even know what type I have. I don't suffer physically from this but I am greatly suffering psychologically.

    I no longer have a will to live due to this. I cannot believe that I have this.

  • sunshine44960
    sunshine44960 Zipzn

    Posted

    Hi Zipzn,

    I totally sympathize and empathize with you as I was at that stage about 2 months ago. It's a shock and something that will definitely have an impact on your life but the amount of impact that it will have definitely depends on you. When I got infected I thought my life was over. I thought about all the things I wouldn't be able to do and to be completely honest with you, I was dramatic because it was all new and I was in total shock.

    After getting medication from the doctor, I got down to reading as much as I could about herpes. I talked about it to my best friends who were very supportive and also researched and supported me. I wouldn't advice you to push away the feelings. I know you are still in shock but when realisation finally dawns in, don't ignore your feelings. It's part of "healing" and accepting your condition. Trust me the first weeks after my diagnosis I had emotions all over the place, I couldn't focus at work, I couldn't eat, I cried out of the blue and I was lost and now days goes by that I don't even think about it. There is absolutely nothing you can do about it so why beat up yourself? Stressing over it will only increase your chances of getting outbreaks and that is something you want to avoid.

    As ironic as it may sound, herpes has helped me adopt a better lifestyle, I eat healthy, I exercise regularly and control my stress level. I also have daily intakes of pineapple juice following the recommendation of a member in here with vitamins. I don't know if it helps but I haven't had a second outbreak since my first outbreak. For a single person, the upside is you will choose your partners carefully and will think twice before going to bed with just anyone.

    As I mentioned before you are the one to decide how far herpes will impact your life. I like to beleive that it's a mild nuisance and shouldn't take up my time. If you pay it to much attention then it will definitely take up most of your thoughts, time and energy (for no reason at all) you stop thinking about it then it becomes minor.

    Just go through the phases, let the feelings come, cry for your herpes-free body, take your medication, talk to a trustworthy friend, eat healthy, exercise regularly, eat pineapple or drink it and please LIVE YOUR LIFE! Don't give herpes the satisfaction of taking that away from you.

    Good luck smile

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