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I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now, we live together (still with his Mother) we're very compatable considering the room we stay in is tiny. We do argue a lot though, and I try to have serious talks with him about how he upsets me and I wish he would treat me better but he just doesnt get it. He thinks everything's fine and doesn't listen to me... Or he'll blame the reason we're arguing on something silly or really irrelevant but he doesn't simply understand that he makes me unhappy? He's not very romantic and he doesn't like talking (which is the complete opposite to me) He'll pretend he's ill or really tired even if I ask him a silly question - e.g what would you do if you won the lottery? That's how silly the questions are, but it's fun to ask silly questions and actually get to know your boyfriend better! I just want to know how I can make him realise, or maybe make him treat me better?
He didn't really grow up with a dad so I'm guessing that might have something to do with how he is. I know he loves me but why does he treat me so badly? How do I make him more fun? I feel like it's my fault sometimes, he is a very nervous person and quite awkward too. So I'm just trying to figure out if there's an actual reason or that's just him and he won't ever change? Maybe he's unhappy with himself?
Also he never helps me with my problems - family, anxiety, worries etc
It's like he doesn't know how to show that emotion of support? So I can never talk to him about anything because he doesn't care...
If I tell him a story about something he wont be interested and he'll basically say it was rubbish at the end. He puts me down on the things I like. I just don't know what to do?
I do love him, otherwise I wouldn't still be with him but I know this relationship won't last if it's not sorted. It's just depressing being with him. If he ever does listen, he'll go really nice and makes me feel okay and then I forget about how horrible he was and how strongly I wanted this to end and then it happens the next day! Just confusing me and stressing me out.
Thank you if you take the time to reply, sorry about how long it is - I just have to get it off my chest!
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