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What is "love"?

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mami5
mami5

Love is something I crave so much, yet don't know what it is!  Can anyone help me?  Please??

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  • patricia44773
    patricia44773 mami5

    Posted

    Oh, Mami, love is what you feel for your children....at least it's one sort of love....there are many more.  I love you as a friend and I worry about you because I love you.

    I wish you could find that love which you crave and I believe you will....you just need to be patient.  You are a lovable person, you just need to meet the right person and I believe that will happen.

    I am sure you will get better replies than mine, so just hang on in there.

    Pat xxxxx

  • elizabeth20203
    elizabeth20203 mami5

    Posted

    Love is when you feel a warmth inside your heart for someone. We love our children whereby we want the best for them and protect them, don't want them to suffer and want them to be healthy. Adult love is similar where we want our friends to be happy and be there when they need us and when we need them.  Friendship and trust. Love between two consenting couples is where we want the best for them and to share our lives with them, friendship, trust and loyality. Sex is a part of this too. Sex is an expression of your love for that person. Having a mutual attraction is a must otherwise it wouldn't work. Being kind and not wanting to hurt them. Compannionship and sharing our ups and downs. I find it hard to love because of my childhood and having not being shown any physical contact, no cuddles and being neglected, emotionally and physically abused. Like yourself I crave for someone to Love me, to care for me and be a compannion. Sex is a very small part but with the right person i wouldn't rule it out. I want to share and give so much to the right person. I maybe wrong in all this but you would know if you loved someone and they loved you, its a warm feeling. I don't know if i have truly loved before. Sometimes we can be mixed up and we think it's love and be confused. I have someone who loves me but i do know that i do not love them, it is very hard. I have no desire, i am not attracted to them. I only care about them and i think they have mistook that as i have feelings for them. I am in a dilema now as i don't want to hurt their feelings. I have told them it's friendship not a romantic relationship, thou it doesn't seem to have had any effect. I hope this as answered your question. Maybe someone else can answer it better.  
    • jran
      jran elizabeth20203

      Posted

      Hi

      I have never been lucky in love. I was too scared to love them in case they didnt love me back.No self esteem,very insecure all my life. My childhood was similar to yours. I am 63 would love to find someone to love me but at my age i dont think so.Sex is not even in the equation, but if it was then that would be nice too. To have someone to lean on in bad times and good.

      Cheers

  • jemimah88932
    jemimah88932 mami5

    Posted

    Hello mami,

    Love is the moment your parents felt when they first saw you,the same feeling you have when you first saw your own children.

    Love is a small still feeling when you know the person with you, will be with you whenever you need him or her.

    Love is when someone will do anything for you no matter what the cause.

    Mani if you want to find unending love Go for someone who never leave you nor forsake you, if you search for Him, You Will Find Him. He will always be there for you. You might not see it in the darkest times but He is.

    If you are looking for a love that never goes away look for Jesus. He loves you and He will never ever stop loving you no matter what. I hope He helps you find what Love is.

    Take care my friend!!

  • mami5
    mami5

    Posted

    Thank you for your replies.  I am so confused.  I've had people, including two husbands, tell me that they loved me, yet they treat me so badly and cause me so much pain.  Some people still do, close family member.  If this is love, I don't want it, but still can't stop craving for it!
    • jemimah88932
      jemimah88932 mami5

      Posted

      Mami sometimes in this situation is not love. If they treat you that badly that's not love, did you try talking with them about it, trying to understand why they are doing this to you. Maybe it's out of love they are doing it, I am saying maybe, not all situations are the same
    • elizabeth20203
      elizabeth20203 mami5

      Posted

      I am sorry mami5 it wasn't meant to confuse you. Abuse is not love that is a form of control a power over you. There is a fine line between love and hate. I have family members that abuse me yet I know deep down they love me. If they were not close family I would not tolerate it as I have much abuse in my life. No abuse is acceptable but it is very difficult when you love them. Have you spoken with a counsellor. You may need to be assertive. Hard I know but there needs to be mutual respect.

      Elizabeth

  • Inmate88
    Inmate88 mami5

    Posted

    Hi Mami. I am 28 years old and have never been in love.. And I have always distanced myself from my family so I don't really know what it's like to experience their love. So unfortunately I cannot answer your question. I hope that one day you find out and have any love experiences that's you desire
  • theitalianman
    theitalianman mami5

    Posted

    Hi Mami

    ​Love is when you appreciate each other, feel great when you are in each others arms, feel good when you are snuggled close, feel good when you talk on the telephone and have a connection all the time,

    Love is when you are not with that person and you are hurting to see them and be with them,

    I was in Love for 23 years and then I lost it !

    ​OMG I am seaching for it again, NOT sure I will ever find it again

    ​4 years and looking

    ​You will find it be happy and my friends have told me when you are not looking for it, Love will find you.

    • jran
      jran theitalianman

      Posted

      Hi

      To love someone like you did and loose them what happened to it. I can only dream of someone loving me like that & It will never happen now.I hope you find it again.Cheers  

    • mami5
      mami5 theitalianman

      Posted

      Hi and thank you.

      Think you are very lucky to have found that kind of love, sorry you've lost it.  I've never experienced love like that, can't even imagine it!  Unfortunately for me love = pain, a lot of it!

      Hope you find you're kind of love again. xx

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