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What is your Gyno/Dermo/Specialist like?

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Guppy007
Guppy007

My Gynocologist is Chinese, very bright, no problem there but she took photos of my Vjay and didn't delete them all.  When I called her out about it, she lied to me....incredible as it may seem this happened TWICE because the first time I thought I had imagined it and gave her the benefit of the doubt.  

I suspect she possibly wanted the photos to sell as we are all so different looking down there... its left me feeling violated.  

I can't bear to think of any other reason for it...

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  • susan43705
    susan43705 Guppy007

    Posted

    Hi Guppy, how creepy. I''m sorry you experienced that. Did she want the photos to compare with other visits to see improvement or not?  What was her reasoning to take photos. 

    • Guppy007
      Guppy007 susan43705

      Posted

      Hi Susan,  the first time my Gyno took photos of my Vjay on her mobile phone to show me how my LS had progressed and so that we could both discuss it.. at the time I thought it was a very good idea but I left feeling slightly confused as I was sure she hadn't deleted all the photos...I never said anything to her at the time. 

      The second time I was discussing an area of skin nr my Vjay and I felt it would be ridiculous to say no to the photos as I was unsure by now whether I had imagined it as it was over a year since my last visit and so when she took four photos and deleted three I pointed it out to her..and she flatly denied taking four photos.  This time there was no doubt at all.

      I think if I wasn't in a predominately Spanish speaking country I would have reported her, but it is too late now anyway as this happened in January.

       

    • susan43705
      susan43705 Guppy007

      Posted

      Yikes. I feel like we are so vulnerable when we go to our gyns and so trusting of doctors.  Next time have her use your camera and you can compare visits on your photo library, not hers.  All these experiences just make one smarter.  We have to be so self protective under all circumstances.  Take it easy.  Even if she sells the images, hopefully it isn't your face or any other part of your body anyone would recognize.  I suppose you could pursue it with a lawyer.  Our instincts are rarely wrong.

  • brigitte_27336
    brigitte_27336 Guppy007

    Posted

    Hey Guppy ,  the idea of comparing from one visit to the other by taking a photo is not bad I find,  perhaps making some kind of a log book ( for each patient) would be great.  But weirdly she’s denying that non deleted photo. I can only imagine how you  feel.... sending you a great big hug 🤗 

  • Nancy_K_B
    Nancy_K_B Guppy007

    Posted

    Oh guppy that is a hard call for me. I understand the need for scientists to be able to use anonymous images for their own research work - it all goes to be helpful to the larger community.  If that were my experience I would only care that the photos were definitely being used in an anonymous numbering system manner.  Though denying something is not too integrous. How did you even find out that she still has some photos? 

    My point being my guess is that my guess is that she has no reason to SELL photos, but does she any kind of powerpoint educational presentations, do you think?  just my thoughts.  I think we westerners are so much more sexually immature as a culture than the eastern a body is just a body to them when it comes to such practicalities. 

    • Guppy007
      Guppy007 Nancy_K_B

      Posted

      Hi Nancy, if she had asked me if it would be okay to use one of my photos I would have said yes, but to take photos on two separate occasions and then lie about it to my face is tantamount to stealing in my view.  

      The reason I knew was because on that second occasion I VERY carefully watched her take each photo and there were four photos taken and I then watched her delete three. 

       

  • karen23320
    karen23320 Guppy007

    Posted

    My god! What a violation! The Gyn who took my pic signed into a secure website, took the photo with his cell, downloaded into my file, deleted from his phone- all with me watching. DO NOT GO BACK TO HER! And I would report her to the State Medical Board- do you hv that in the UK??

    You have every right to feel violated, she was completely in the wrong!  

    • Guppy007
      Guppy007 karen23320

      Posted

      It is a violation..I can't tell you how upset I felt after that appointment...I got into my car and I was crying..it was just awful.

    • Guppy007
      Guppy007 karen23320

      Posted

      Karen I meant to say although I am English I am not living in the UK, I am living in Costa Rica, in Central America and things are sometimes not always done properly out here..the level of care isnt always great.
  • pat0423
    pat0423 Guppy007

    Posted

    😮😮😮 WOW! Horrifying!!!  Of course you feel violated. No one (even myself) has or will take pics of me now!

    So sorry. Do you have any recourse?

    • pat0423
      pat0423

      Posted

      So sorry I just saw this happened in January and you feel you have no recourse. 😪

    • Guppy007
      Guppy007 pat0423

      Posted

      Hi Pat, there is nothing I can do as this happened in January and how would I ever be able to prove it.
    • Nancy_K_B
      Nancy_K_B Guppy007

      Posted

      HI Guppy ~ oh, yes there IS something you can do. 

      We don't have to use a court or medical board systems to be able to 'Teach' a person some ethics and some compassion who apparently didn't get raised the same as you and I. 

      For me in that position, I would be doing something so that the cycle of disrespect stopped there; so that you become a standard bearer for other women of all ages.   Guppy YOU can write a letter to the doc to let her know how it made you FEEL; and you can tell her the same things you have told us! It will be up to her to learn and grow (or not). Her choice; not your responsibility. BUT you will be making a powerful statement.. an opportunity for that woman to make a paradigm shift.. that might not happen if you (all women) keep silent. 

      p.s. in psychology or writing class years ago, I remember that people learn to do better, NOT from being attacked in their person.. but in being shown how it made YOU the WRITER FEEL.  Speak/write from YOUR perspective - not "how awful" what she did was, but How  disrespected it made you feel.   You can even let her know you would have been happy to have given permission for an anonymous use IF she has asked. Then let the it drop honey, don't let it continue to fester in your immune system - grin. 

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