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Hi Lovelies, hope you're all doing well. Wishing you all a new n brighter 2016. Don't want to be a harbinger of gloom but the new year for me seems to be in doubt, everything meno has taken its toll, namely tearful outbursts, reduced oomph for anything, not feeling right/well etc my marriage has hit rock bottom, have slept apart for weeks now, I feel lonely & not close to my husband anymore....he's angry with me for not being 'right', he says he or we have no life or relationship because I'm not 'right', he doesn't want to do counselling, he tells me I'm the one who needs help so he can have a better life which also includes more sex! He tells me all women manage meno but I'm different because I'm finding it all hard to cope with. I'm apologising for myself every day...so...the new year for me? don't know, I'm done & don't want to be here anymore. Never thought my life would be over at 56 😰 Just passed the one year mark, when will I feel better? or is there still a way to go?
All the best to you allÂ
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lennie45832 NuttyNan
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NuttyNan lennie45832
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Take Care.
lennie45832 NuttyNan
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becky221 NuttyNan
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NuttyNan becky221
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ImagineOneDay NuttyNan
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NuttyNan ImagineOneDay
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Keep WellÂ
Zigangie NuttyNan
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Go and see your doctor. Are you on or able to take HRT?
The poor husband's really don't understand it at all. Mine didn't he just kept saying it's one thing after another with you and saying I was a hypochondriac.
I went all through the peri not knowing that all the strange symptoms were my hormones.
I had most of them but didn't really know about perimenopause. So I hadn't read about it until after my menopause.
I was actually congratulating myself on doing quite well as I hadn't had night sweats and very few hot flushes.
It was the lack of libido that got to me. Lack of libido is an understatement. I was avoiding it it went from being a bit of a chore to positively yuk go away.
I did a lot of reading and decided I needed some hrt including testosterone.
My GP would only prescribe livial (the only HRT containing testosterone unfortunately it didn't agree with me at all. So I had to stop.
I read as much as I could came upon Professor John Studd and what he recommends.
I knew my GP was against testing and prescribing testosterone from our earlier appointment so I found a place where I can buy it without prescription.
Within 3 days of using the testosterone I was up for some sex (the first time in probably as many years).
I found that although my sex life had improved considerably over the next week I was very dry and uncomfortable. Also not hot flushes but generally hot all the time.
I went to see my GP again with the list of what Professor Studd advises. Luckily she was happy to prescribe the estrogen and progesterone. Oestrogel and Utrogestan. She said "Oh Professor Studd? I'm surprised he's still practicing. He was the menopause guru when I was training. "
It took about 5 weeks to improve the dryness and other symptoms are slowly getting there aching feet better after a few days and mood also and I think still improving.
You also sound like your suffering with the menopausal depression. It's really not nice. I have just had the best Christmas in about 10 years.
I'm just coming up to 8 weeks on testosterone and 6 weeks on estrogen and had one 12 days of progesterone. The only thing I have had that I could have done without is a period.
The rest is really all good. I'm hoping that by the time anyone thinks I need to come off it all further trials will have established that HRT is safe to remain on indefinitely.
Hope this helps.
NuttyNan Zigangie
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Take Care
susan556 NuttyNan
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Those who have very undertsanding partners are very fortunate, nothing worse is there than being made to feel like your abnormal and need to sort it out, oh if only it was that simple. My heart goes out to you. Â Dont know about you but i all the lubriaction in the world wont give me the desire back. Â Yes all women 'try' to manage the meno but an undertanding husband helps towards that managment!
Last thing we need is to be classed as abnormal.Â