What's wrong with my sister? Is she really a victim?

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My sister is never happy. She has had hundreds of bad relationships and always ends up being the victim. She has been beat up by most of her boyfriends. She has been arrested and has had others arrested. She gets violent and abusive when triggered by someone who she cares about. Then she hates the person forever. She has been to several psychiatrists. She has been on many different medications. She is 31 and this has been going on since she was 13. She was never accurately diagnosed. Different diagnoses came back as personality disorder, anxiety, depression, and ADHD just to name a few. It's definitely like walking on ice around her.

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    Hey DaisyDaze,

    I would say what thoughts she currently had when she started dated the first boyfriend as to weather it was a normal relationship or not might have only been confirmed by herself alone. Then repeatedly doing the same with every relationship there after became confirmation from the last. Ultimately now there is a common ground she has to stand on by doing this which feels like home and so repeat again and again etc..As we stop a vicious cycle there will always be resistance. Like a drug addiction. She has to realize something is wrong with her pattern of thinking and change her ways of relations with significant others to break this particular cycle. Until then she will always feel like a victim.

    Goodluck

    Damian

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    I am afraid this seems to be part of her illness that she is struggling to cope with.  I think she needs support in trying to cope with all these diagnosis's that she has been found to have.  Does she not have a case worker that you can chat to and get some support from?

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      No case worker. She has actually been "dismissed" by doctors and kicked out of therapy. At one point, she had 19 different drs. listed that cared for her. I think they all pray she leaves their practice. They seem to always suggest a different form of therepy. The groups suggest a private therapist. The private ones suggest group therapy. Just a way to get rid of her as a patient. I wish there was a doc to take on the most challenging patient in the world!

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    Visit the GP with her and ask to be referred to the Community Mental Health Team.  They are more equipped to deal with this kind of thing.
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