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sheena4572
sheena4572

So here I go again haha....

January is when my symptoms begun and it's now may and although I don't feel any worse I don't feel any better either.

I just wanted advice off you lovely bunch.....

My doctor doesn't want to treat my symptoms as all one thing and will not even consider peri as my blood test was 7 which is normal and I'm still having periods

My periods are all over the place, really heavy and with clots and have gone from 28 days to 23, 27 and 25 over last 3 months.

He has suggested going to see a gynecologist to have coil fitted if the are causing me hassle but won't link them to the rest of my symptoms which include....

Warm all the time

Anxiety

Doom

Back ache

Rib pain

Sore boobs

Lethargy

Nausea only occasionally

Lack of confidence

No sex drive but very understanding hubby haha

Stomach cramps

Constipation

I've had all sorts of tests from internal, stomach and pelvis ultrasound, bloods, breast examination all clear. I'm seeing physio for back rib problems as doc thinks muscular. He also wants to stick me on anti depressants which I'm not keen on.

Anyway I'm just wondering does anyone think it would be worthwhile seeing gynecologist to see if they would listen or just go it alone??

Opinions would be great. Sheena x

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  • louise44105
    louise44105 sheena4572

    Posted

    Could you not find yourself a more sympathetic doc? Mine is marvellous. I have a whole load of symptoms, some of which you have mentioned. If I go to her with any new symptoms, all the nasty stuff is eliminated and then she takes the time to listen to me. She's very understanding, being in the same position herself, I never feel like I'm being a nuisance and she is very reassuring. It really does help to have a doc like this. Personally, I'm trying to get through this without coils, tablets and medication, but it's obviously a personal thing that only you can decide. I wish you all the best and hope you find answers x
    • sheena4572
      sheena4572 louise44105

      Posted

      Thanks

      Believe me I'm trying to find someone to listen I've seen two nurses and two doctors up to now. I'm just wondering whether going down the referral to gynecologist may be worthwhile as they deal with us women all the time so may be more knowledgeable and understanding. Unfortunately we aren't all as lucky as you to have someone who will sit and listen to us, the first doctor I saw told me I had 8 minutes to pick the symptoms that was bothering me most and we'd deal with that.

      I too wish to stay away from tablets etc but need to know that it is perimenopause before I can learn and treat myself naturally.

      X

    • angel368
      angel368 sheena4572

      Posted

      Hi Sheena,

      In my experience gynaecologists are less likely to listen than GPs (but I do have a GP who knows me well and I trust him). After my procedure to sort the fibroids and heavy bleeding was successful they weren't interested in my other symptoms and sent me back to the GP.

      But since this is their specialty they should be able to discover how to treat you effectively quicker.

      Do you know what time of treatment you would like? Eg: HRTand/or hysterescopy and/or coil or if you are looking for natural methods maybe a Naturopath would be better.

    • sheena4572
      sheena4572 angel368

      Posted

      Thanks for reply.

      I appreciate your advice as I'm new to this. Not normally ill but feeling crappy at the minute. I did wonder whether it would make any difference seeing a consultant over a gp and it probably won't but I was just thinking about it. I would prefer to do the natural way never been one for taking tablets all the time. What does a naturopath do ? x

    • angel368
      angel368 sheena4572

      Posted

      They use a combination of diet, lifestyle changes, exercise, herbal medicine, homeopathic treatments etc to cure the whole body. I tried some herbal remedies a few years ago and a few of my symptoms improved slightly , but it was expensive and slow so I gave up. I have friends who swear by natural remedies, personally I think they are good if you are already healthy and want to maintain your health but it's much harder to use natural methods to improve your health once it starts to decline.
  • angel368
    angel368 sheena4572

    Posted

    Hello Sheena,

    I took the antidepressants for a few years and it helped with the anxiety, low mood, lethargy, lack of confidence and I believe it even helped to relieve my nausea and sweating. I also had fibroids and it helped to exaggerate my peri symptoms. The medication didn't cure everything but it did help me to be a lot calmer and make clear decisions about the treatment for my fibroids. Fibroids are now treated, I still have a few per I symptoms but it is much better than before and I am now off the antidepressants.

    Medication is not for everyone but for me it helped a lot.

    • sheena4572
      sheena4572 angel368

      Posted

      I've been on anti depressants in the past and I know they work. My mood seems to have balanced again. So will see how I go.

      I'm glad they seem to have reduced some of your symptoms and good luck in your journey x

  • michelle50768
    michelle50768 sheena4572

    Posted

    I agree with angel. I was also on an antidepressants for a year. I came off it four months ago. I believe I coped with the peri symptoms much better when I was on them. Rightly said it doesn't take them away but it helped me cope better.

    I came off as I wanted to see if I could cope without them.

    I am coping but not as well as I was so currently deciding Wether to go back on them. My go wants me too. I was on mirtazapine and it really helped with my sleep.

    It's trial and error really and a personal choice x

    • sheena4572
      sheena4572 michelle50768

      Posted

      Hi

      I agree it's a personal thing I've used them before and had good results. I'm just concerned at the fact that the doctor seem to be keen without actually agreeing that it's possible perimenopause. And it's frustrating that they don't want to treat my symptoms as one problem but as separate unconnected things which is bizarre as they all started together. Anyway at the minute the physio seems to be helping my rib and back pain so at least that's a little positive.

      Everyone's journey is individual and we all get thru it eventually go our own way. Good luck to you and if you need to try again with tablets then do it if it gets you thru the day xxx

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