What to say

She does not seem to understand that this is not a competition about who has it the worst. You can discuss whether having a potentially deadly disease is worse than having one that bombs the quality out of your life, but is the point of that?

Her saying you are weak shows her own weakness and lack of knowledge of what she talks about.

You can in fact divorce your relatives. A number of people with this disease has to do exactly that. Energy is heavily rationed, and you cannot afford to waste energy on people who does not want to know, and drains you because of that.

If you do want to see her again, the only advice I could give would be to understand that she is under pressure and make allowances for that, in the understanding that this is about her, not you.

Good luck with it all.

 

Interesting question that I’m sure everyone would handle differently. In response to her saying she wish she had what you had, I would respond....”I wish I could take that cancer from you so you could be healthy”.  Always take the high road. Love your family, pick your friends.

refer her to the current research showing this to be an illness research shows inflammation markers and mitochondrial damage in terms of metabolism. the latter shows a bias away from sugars to amino acids (men) and fatty acids (women) diet shifts to include that have shown improvements (note improvement not cure)eps in view of brain fog. Antihistamines do also show and improvement effect though of course their side effects don't really help. However a person showing such lack of empathy become s very hard to want to be supportive of or indeed "worth the effort" in discussing your onw condition with.  ask her how she would like to cope with the feeling of flu / glandular fever every day... but then cancer also has such a huge impact and the life limiting threat i would imagine would make some people much more selfish and misguided with their own reactions. Not an easy situation to try and manage......... all good wishes...