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chuck24117
chuck24117

Ok , I am sorry for bringing this up, but I figure i will probably never meet any of you. But  am 40 yr old contractor outdoor guy that had a thr posterior rioght side 3 weeks ago. Ihad a major swelling set back after week one. But I am now back to PT and doing a lot and working towards a cane. My big question is what about sex??? My beutiful wife that is taking care of me so good and combatting our kids 3 and 8 yrs old, She ppretty much says I dont want to hurt you. But I feel like I am totally ready to get back on the sattle (if you know what i mean) just a slower pace. No one has told me anything about when and where and how to approach this. I am 40 and she is 36 (I think) so I dont want to get hurt, but I also have started sleeping on my stomach half the night. My wife just says I do not want to be on the tv show (sex sent me to ER).

Please help! Thank You

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  • suzie58
    suzie58 chuck24117

    Posted

    Dear chuck, it is quite an embarrassing question to have to ask but if you don't ask you won't get the answer!! I understand exactly what you mean as my husband was just the same as your wife is, worried he was going to hurt me. I guess it might be slightly different for a woman than a man purely because of the position each sex has to be in. But I think if your wife doesn't mind being the worker( if you get my meaning) there's no reason why you shouldn't get together and have some fun!! Just take things easy to begin with.

    Good luck, SuzieQ

  • Chloeparrot
    Chloeparrot chuck24117

    Posted

    Hi Chuck

    Three weeks is a bit soon to be contemplating sex - the usual timescale is about 6 weeks (when the fear of dislocating your new hip has reduced).  However, I suggest you Google the question - there are a number of sites (the non-pornographic ones cheesygrin) that suggest safe positions.

    Also be inventive (you will probably have to let your lovely lady take the lead) but it can be fun and just remember if it hurts STOP!

    So, enjoy yourselves  - but not for another 3 weeks!

  • maggie93798
    maggie93798 chuck24117

    Posted

    Sex is part of life so answers are needed. Look up sex positions on the web after hip replacement. Plenty of advice and inspiration, also consult Rocketman's guide. Surprised the hospital did not cover the subject. Needless to say be prepared to laugh and giggle a lot, good communication needed re anything uncomfortable. Also be prepared to be the more passive partner to start with.

  • jillypops
    jillypops chuck24117

    Posted

    Ha ha! Bless you both. You have certainly got a good sense of humour about this. I was told anytime you feel ready after the 'magic' 6 weeks!

    Every surgeon has their own protocol so you could call him/her or his/her secretary for advice. If you are seeing your PT, they might be able to advise. You can also google 'safe sex positions after THR'. I am nearly at 6 weeks post bilateral but not ready yet. Others on here will be further along their journey and am sure will have great advice and tips to follow. Ad the saying goes (here in the UK anyway) perhaps 'lay back and think of England'! 😁😁

  • jane83133
    jane83133 chuck24117

    Posted

    I'm so glad u bought this up as I have been wondering too! (My op is at end of oct and I'm 39). I did google is and as others say there are some helpful sites that show diagrams of safe positions for men and women. I guess in terms of when it's how u feel and as long as you take it easy am sure you'll be ok x

  • chuck24117
    chuck24117

    Posted

    Thanks everyone! I think my biggest problem is convincing my wife, that I'm not going to die if we mess around.

  • steve86482
    steve86482 chuck24117

    Posted

    If I was a young guy like you, perhaps 6 weeks. However at 65 I decided I had better wait 3 months 😂

  • chuck24117
    chuck24117

    Posted

    Thank you everyone, I thought for your humor I would tell you more about my delima. I feel ready , I am really addicted to my wife. I already found the safe sex position s on the web. I printed them out and showed them to my wife. (How about this one honey?) And I just get denied for her being afraid I'm gonna get hurt. Man i thought the pain pill constipation was bad! Tonight I will be hobbling to bed with a candle lit and lights dimmed. Cross your fingers 😂.

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