White coat syndrome....

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Hello everyone! So does anyone out there have this white coat syndrome aka anxiety big time when its time to go to the doctor? I've made 2 appointments that are much needed, with a brand new GP.. One for myself and one for my husband.. The one for my husband is today, and I need to go explain the last 2 years of his medical history from hospital stays to all the testing he's had done to the referrals to specialists he needs, of coarse he can't do it, it wouldn't get done right! Mine isn't even until tomorrow morning, and well I'm having a really bad anxiety episode on verg of panic , chest tight belching trapped gas feels like I can't breathe just can't calm down, and I hate this.. I haven't been like this since last year, my anxiety really has been in check.. But no not today its reared its ugly head big time.. Its early morning and I'm going to get busy doing some house chores to get my worried about everything mind off of all the insane crap.. I was in the grocery store yesterday with my 2 year old grandson pushing him around in the shopping cart and picking out pumpkins which we brought home and decorated, I felt fantastic yesterday! And that's huge for me and a grocery store, all the ladies were coming up and saying how cute he was with all his pumpkins, and I got to talking to one older woman about menopause, and I was telling her what an awful time I'm having, and she said yes not a nice ride at all, she said she couldn't stand herself for like 2 years, but assured me it does calm down and gets better... Well will see!!! Just wondering does anyone else have the worry anxiety big time when its time for something? I just want to run hide and bury my head in the sand today...

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    Hi Gypsy!  Oh yes!  I had a doozy back in July in my drs exam room.  Right after my BP got taken.  I got dizzy, dry mouth, sweaty,  if the windows opened I would have climbed out there like spiderman!  My husband was with me thank god!  My primary dr is very nice and isn’t confrontational , so I wasn’t nervous about him!  I notice I get this way as I am waiting ...  HOWEVER, I went to 2 appointments alone last week and did fine. I had just stopped Lexapro too. But, definitely felt anxious while waiting... gives the brain too much time to think.  write everything down so you don’t get sidetrack, no chit chat...in/out!  You could also just record yourself and play it for the dr!  In case you feel overwhelmed... I get that way explaining stuff now! Good god what the hell is wrong with all of us!
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    Yes times a million gypsy!!!! I get nervous just making the appointment !!!!  It’s soooo annoying and frustrating !!!! 
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    Yes I do as well.  I have found that I am starting to avoid going.  I keep my regular ones (annuals, etc.) but I am learning to live with aches/pains, etc. because I am so uncomfortable at the doctor's office now.  I used to go for any odd not so normal issue which was more often than I had ever gone once perimenopause began.  I tamed that down because my anxiety was so high at each appointment.   My mom was quite sick over the last 4-5 years and I had to accompany her to her visits and it was anxiety ridden for me as her health was declining so quickly.  I think that it tainted all visits in general now.  I can feel my heart beating fast, dry mouth, woozy, as soon as I know I have an appt on a given day.  

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      I agree Kim. I used to only go for my annual exams and stuff but once peri began I found myself in the ER and at the doctors office more times than I can count. I drove my husband crazy. I have gotten to the point where I just stopped running to them for every single thing. I realized that the bulk of my symptoms are anxiety related and so I just talk myself down from those feelings. The last time I went to the ER they didn't even want to help me. I said to myself unless I'm dying I'm not going to the ER again. It's too much drama!

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      Hey sharecv!  I am the same.  Had my husband nuts last year...daily...doctors or ER.  They totally cannot help us unless we are actually dying!  I bought a BP/heart checker, thermometer.  When I have one of my “ dying “ episodes.  I play dr and check my vitals.  That’s pretty much all the ER does for $4000.  😁

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      Oh Lou, you sure can make me laugh! I was fine over the weekend now I think I'm about to leave this world every day since Monday. I KNOW I'm fine, BP is great, heart is fine(they even lowered my BP meds). Why do we feel like we're dying? I just want to run away from this woman that I've become. I don't know her.  But not just that, no joy, where is my joy? 

      On top of that I let a friend talk me into going to a reception tonight!! Now I have to fake smile and pretend that I feel great.  I just want to crawl under the covers and pray to God and cry and hope this feeling passes soon.  ((((hugs))))

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      Hi Juanita!  Oh, just go if you can!  Can you have a drink there?  I called a friend the other day and she wants to go out for lunch soon.. She lives down the street, is older and was a client of mine for years...so she knows that I am not normally like this!  I am going...she is a riot and we both are a little cuckoo!  She has had anxiety for years...so, between my vertigo and her anxiety, we are going to rock this lunch!  I can’t help you much with the joy thing.. honestly, I find the most joy reading and my cats, dogs, chickens, crazy rooster and bunnies! Love my husband and kids, but it isn’t always joyous.  I swear I have days that a celebrity mega hunk could offer me a message and fan me with banana leaves...and I would be like...MEH!  You hang in there Juanita...and go out tonight!  🤗🤗

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      I hope there is alcohol! If not the friend I'm going with is a big fan of what she calls "purse cocktails" she'll put a couple of small bottles of flavored whiskey in her purse, we stop by a convenience store, get two cups of ice and a coke or sprite, arrive early, sit in the car and make our own cocktails!!! Lol! 

      I do find joy in my kitty, she's so funny. I must remember to tap into my faith and find joy in the Lord.

      I am going, it's only two hours. My friend is 49 and had a hysterectomy years ago. She has hot flashes, and can get a little angry sometimes. But I know it's hormonal.

      Yes, go to lunch and rock the meno world!!!  Lol!!!  ((((hugs)))

       

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      Hi kim i avoid the dreaded doctor visits too, I feel like they just tell you the same thing like they are a recording pressing play button for everyone...
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    Oh yes!!! Everytime they check my vitals before I get to see my doctor, my blood pressure goes up really high so does my pulse rate.  I worry so much that I start thinking the doctor might find something wrong with me.  My mind goes crazy thinking of all these illnesses that I might have.  I was never like this before.  And not only for myself but also when it comes to my husband’s and kid’s health.  I just worry too much.  I’m so done with this.  I can’t wait for that day that all these ugly symptoms go away.  Take care everyone.  
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      Tessa! I could have written what you just wrote!!! I am the EXACT same way😞. I went to the ear doctor and had a panic attack in the waiting room.. I thought about leaving....   then they called me back... bp was 160/90... heart rate 130.... the nurse asked me if I had WCS and I said YES!!!!!!!! 

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      Hi Tessa my friends dad went and had vitals checked and blood pressure was a bit up there my friend said her dad tried to tell the doctor its because of the visit, at home its always under control.. She wanted to give more meds, crazy!!!
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