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Why are doctors so unhelpful?!!

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Boqer
Boqer

Hi everyone 

I managed to register with a doctor this morning, and was given an instant appointment for this afternoon at which I was very surprised, because it took at least two weeks to see my old doctor.

I moved into town just over three months ago to try and change things because my depression was so bad, and considering that I am diagnosed as having fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, gall stones, tinnitus, depression and anxiety it took a lot of courage to do. It has taken me this long to go and register with the doctor, and is mostly because I had such terrible hip pains yesterday that I was in tears with it all. 

So anyway, I made it through the rain to the bus to get to my appointment, and actually felt quite positive about going, as I was diagnosed last December and have received absolutely no help or support with anything, and wanted to talk to the doctor about possible treatments. After introducing myself to the doctor, you know what the very first thing he said to me was? "I don't believe in fibromyalgia." 

I couldn't believe it! Does he think I diagnosed myself? Does he think I enjoy going to the doctors? I really don't know. The receptionist was more helpful than him! It just leaves me speechless, because even just on a human level, I'm going there for some help, and even if he doesn't "believe in fibromyalgia" he should still be trying to help me!

thank you for listening and I hope you all enjoy your day

Boqer

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  • pollmadoll64
    pollmadoll64 Boqer

    Posted

    You need to see a rheumatologist not some stupid doctor

    I wasted two years seeing stupid doctors and 4 neurologists until I finally saw a Rheumatologist who diagnosed me right away. You need to insist you would like to see a Rheumatologist Good luck

    • chris11339
      chris11339 pollmadoll64

      Posted

      Hi pollmadoll I get from the post that boqer has been diagnosed with fibro but the way she was treated with a gp has upset her and rightly so as not 1 off us asked 2 have this horrid condition

      boqer see if you can report this gp as even as you say he doesn't believe in fibro (many unfortunately dont) that gives him no right to lower his duty of care towards you

      gentle hugs boqer and dont allow these small minded people to bring you down any further.

      🌹🌼🌻 a small bunch of flowers 2 pick u up

    • Boqer
      Boqer pollmadoll64

      Posted

      Thank you pollmadoll, I will ask for one and see what comes of it
    • Boqer
      Boqer chris11339

      Posted

      I agree, he still has a care of duty, it just seems he doesn't think so.

      thank you for the flowers, made me smile ☺️

  • katie.lov
    katie.lov Boqer

    Posted

    Yeah I know right. I have stomach problems and every time I go there they just tell me to take medicine. Like seriously lol they could at least test us for things.
    • Boqer
      Boqer katie.lov

      Posted

      Thank thank you Katie, I think they don't do very much at all rolleyes
  • charlotte1824
    charlotte1824 Boqer

    Posted

    Perhaps him not believing in it might be a blessing in disguise, perhaps he will continue to investigate what other options there might be??

    I'd go back and see him and ask him to then tell you if it's not fibro then what is it. Ask for things that haven't been checked to be investigated, lymes, thyroid, hormones, osteoarthritis etc etc...

    As much as I believe you, everyone on here and myself is in daily pain which is relentless I feel the dr might have a point, I think fibro is a symptom of an illness not a condition on its own, it's just if they can't give you answers they use their trump card.....its fibro, nothing we can do sorry, every symptom from that point forward is fibro and not anything else.

    Perhaps his point of view might actually reveal more answers or get you on a good treatment.

    I just hope he wasn't rude about it and didn't make you feel like your pain isn't real as that is when Drs really fail at their jobs.

    • Boqer
      Boqer charlotte1824

      Posted

      well that's what I thought, so I started to talk to him about my hip and bones and pain killers, but he really wasn't interested and made it plainly obvious that he didn't really want to hear any more rolleyes so I have another appointment with a different doctor tomorrow, but who knows how it will go
    • jeanne81532
      jeanne81532 Boqer

      Posted

      So sorry to hear about this uneducated GP. Better luck with the next one. Gentle hugs honey. x
    • charlotte1824
      charlotte1824 Boqer

      Posted

      Sorry to hear that, Drs can't make statements and not follow up with other possible diagnosis. what about a referral to an orthopaedic dr for your hips?

      I always think if it was happening to the Drs wife/husband or son/daughter they would pull out all the stops to find out what was wrong with them as they would know that on a personal level they used to be a certain way, the fact that they don't know us they think we are just naturally whingey over sensitive people.

      Good luck

    • Boqer
      Boqer charlotte1824

      Posted

      Yes, I agree, I think that is totally right and how I often feel when I go to see a doctor. If they knew us then things would be different and they would take us seriously, because in 20 years I didn't go once to the doctors, it's only in the past few years when things have been so bad that I have needed to go
    • bronwyn97278
      bronwyn97278 charlotte1824

      Posted

      Yes Charlotte; I too am beginning to feel this way............for me there are too many "overlapping" symptoms of other conditions, and do think that if this doctor would start looking for other answers (including taking a complete medical and life/career/family history etc) we might all find what the connection is???   I know it sounds daunting, and we all feel we have been there before, and Just can't face anymore testing etc, but there are days when I start doing more research as "some things just don't feel right", and am getting a big fed up with "treating each symptom/s" instead of finding a cure................good luck Boqer
    • bronwyn97278
      bronwyn97278 Boqer

      Posted

      Morning Boqer; has it occurred to you, that "maybe the reason you were able to get such an early/prompt appointment" is that this/these docs are new on their path to financial independence, and will see as Many as Possible as Soon as Possible to get money in their bank accounts???.....seems suss to me, especially if they "bulk bill" the government..............is happening a Lot over here in Aussie Land....Many New clinics opening up, with the Slogan "no out of pocket costs....bulk bill"..............and then they Know Nothing and pass you onto the round-about.............as you can see, I'm becoming Very Cynical with our drs (and for one who worked as an RN in the Puble System for many years).....I do hope for your's and our's sake,  that you find a doctor who can help you, and pass on something new for all of us to trial, as it is certainly wearing me down................let me/others know how you get on, please.?...........Bron
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