why bother

Been there done that, it won't make you feel any better, just differently bad

I think you are wrong. It should always be about you. Do you want to be with them? Do you want to have sex with them? Don't give in to people just because they want to have sex with you. You dont have to do what they want. Its your choice. You do what you want to do obviously without hurting others. Not everyone uses you. You just haven't found the right person yet. You seem discouraged about your Love Life. Hang in there everyone has those moments.

It's a sad state of affairs when we get to the point of feeling like aliens in a world we just don't belong to and I myself have, on many occasions, questioned my ability to blend into the norm ( whatever that may be ) people to me seem cold, callous, self absorbed, money oriented, I could go on but you get my meaning, they it seems live a stress free generally ignorant ( my choice of words ) life and not to sound big headed or judgmental but I find myself envying them.

For me personally I chose to be alone and be at peace with who I am, I keep most people at bay, that's not to say I'm not courteous and polite when I go about my day and I am even helpful to my elderly neighbour etc, long and short of it, be you, keep true to yourself but guard your heart and mind as necessary x

Hi I know where you are coming from.  You can only be yourself though and accept that you cannot change others and it's a mugs game trying.  By all means take what you want but remember you have to be able to face yourself in the mirror afterwards.   If you keep that in mind you won't go far wrong.

Amigo...

I'm going to take a different tack.  Sometimes sex is just sex.  Physical.  That's why animals in the wild can mate and then forever part.  Now, that's anonymous sex!  It is different from having an emotional connection, and sometimes you have to have one to have the other.

As a practical matter, you are right about everything else.  Filling the bed does not fill the heart and you should not just give in to the lust of others.  But if it pleases you to experience physical sex, don't beat yourself up.

Here's where I see the rub.  You want more.  You should never stop looking for more... that is the ideal.  But don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good.  There are plenty of reasons not to have fleeting anonymous sex and if that is your choice, perfect.  Please don't resent your decision, celebrate it.  Don't make it "a bother."  I see you look pretty buffed... and that's part of the reason (I'm guessing) people lust after you.  So because of this slight negative consequence, are you going to give up working out?  Of course not, because it makes you feel good.  It fills your need and satisfies your goal.

So if someone pursues you for meaningless sex and you don't mind or can enjoy it, then, by all means, take a part guilt free.  Never give up searching for a life mate, but you can enjoy the search.  But whatever you do my friend, do it guilt free.  Don't over-think it.  If your bed is full but your heart is not, the answer is not in closing your bed, or to give up looking... and in my opinion, you look for both.