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Why can't I listen to my own advice?

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louise44105
louise44105

Hello ladies. I've been answering other discussions put on by ladies experiencing heart attack like symptoms, due to being perimenopausal, but when it comes to my own symptoms (pounding heart, tight chest, pins and needles in my fingertips, feeling like I can't breath, jaw ache etc etc etc) I don't seem to be able to accept that it's just because I'm peri. I've had my heart checked and bloods which have all come back as tickety boo. Why is this so scary and how do I get my brain to accept what the doc is telling me? It's worse when I'm at home alone. Any suggestions?

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  • wen_54374
    wen_54374 louise44105

    Posted

    Deep breathing and listen to relaxation apps which help by going into your subconscious . .they have helped me to be more relaxed and postive.
  • jamie50513
    jamie50513 louise44105

    Posted

    I wish i had some suggestions for you. I struggle with the same thing. I just try to take some deep bdeathes and tell myself that I am ok. No matter how many times you tell yourself that, its still scary when it happens.
    • louise44105
      louise44105 jamie50513

      Posted

      And just when you think you've got it sussed, it comes back with a vengeance!
  • lesley26791
    lesley26791 louise44105

    Posted

    Hi Louise, I'm exactly the same, though I am probably classed as post meno now. A couple of years no period.  I'm forever batting away symptoms, but every so often I get myself in a state about something, this time, pain in my left shoulder, tightness in my neck.  A few weeks ago I , for want of a better expression, pulled my neck.  Don't know what I did but was stiff and had a couple of days of barely being able to move it.  Settled down but had intermittent pain and stiffness.  Seems to go completely for a week or so.  Then two weeks ago had a couple of dizzy/woozy episodes, another couple this week.  Not doing anything in particular, but felt a bit 'swimmy'.  Yesterday and today pain in shoulder - this morning tears! I was at docs on Tuesday - he's asked me to get some bloods done and an ecg, which is Monday.  I'm quite active.  Spin twice a week and walk my dog.  Anxious all the time, this morning telling myself it must be either a heart attack he's looking for or some other heart problem.  I'm so scared ..... again!  Pain still there, eases a little.  Trying to ease my way through it ....... but, as you can see I'm still thinking about it.  
    • louise44105
      louise44105 lesley26791

      Posted

      It's a nightmare. How come some ladies just seem to not worry about anything? What's their trick?
  • lesley26791
    lesley26791 louise44105

    Posted

    Don't know, lucky ducks!  Just know I seem to spend an awful lot of time in doom and gloom land! Fed up.  Spoiling my life.  Had a real low about a year and a half ago when I had some blood in poo (!) convinced myself I had bowl cancer.  Tests all clear and have tried to be positive since then - had been working for a while, but this feels similar, in that I'm thinking about it all the time and I think, making my symptoms worse.   Can't relax.  Hope you settle down soon.  Fingers crossed for the tests.  Getting an eye exam tomorrow - but sitting here thinking about brain tumours ! I know, irrational, but can't help it!  I just wish I was more relaxed.
    • wen_54374
      wen_54374 lesley26791

      Posted

      Ah my heart goes out to you people don't know what a nightmare this is X I went on fluroxatine 6 year's a go and never looked back .I do have the odd blip but it is managable now .it takes the edge off things and I have at last got my life back after battling for 20 years. I definitely think it's helped me go through the menopause .
    • louise44105
      louise44105 wen_54374

      Posted

      Thank you, Wen. I'm desperately trying not to go down the medication route as I'm not a big fan. However, if I have many more nights like last night, I may have to change my mind. 
    • wen_54374
      wen_54374 louise44105

      Posted

      I was exactly the same. But wish I had done it earlier. I won't ever come off them now as I never want to go back to how I felt on and off for 20 years. It's worth a try Louise u have nothing to loose .
    • louise44105
      louise44105 wen_54374

      Posted

      Thanks for the advice, Wen. It helps to know that other ladies are going, or have gone through, the same thing. The difficult part is getting your brain to accept that what is happening is 'normal'. I've made a note of fluroxatine, and if I do get to the stage where I just can't cope anymore, I'll discuss it with my doc. Thankyou, lovely x
    • wen_54374
      wen_54374 louise44105

      Posted

      Honest worth a try X here to help if I can .u are not alone with this.
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