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Why cant i stop crying

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kerry52519
kerry52519

Ive been crying for 10 hours. I cant sleep. I feel sick and got a terrible headache. Im so stressed over a friends wedding. Im a bridesmaide. I dont drive and trying to make travel arrangements and shes getting annoyed with me. She has made things difficult due to venue locations And other things. Shes upset me in the past by saying its a risk having me as a bridesmaid due to my anxiety and panic attacks. There has been other stuff too but too lomg to go into.

I dont want feel like this. I havnt got any strengh left to deal with people who dont understand and think its ok to say hurtfull things.

I just want to sleep and it all be over with

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  • Tip
    Tip kerry52519

    Posted

    Wow! Doesn't sound like a very supportive friend. I know she has wedding plans and she too is stress but to be insensitive is unacceptable.

    ?You have an illness that at times consumes your life. I'm sorry if she has hurt you. Nobody deserves that.

    ?Keep posting on this forum. People here are amazing and you will get the advice and support you need to make it through. I know it doesn't feel like but we are here for you.

    ?It's not ok for people to say hurtful things and that might be a discussion to have with your friend. But you so have strength. We all do. It's deep down inside and you will find it. You are not alone on this journey.

    ?Keep posting here. You have a lot of supporters behind you. Sending you postive vibes. Find some peace. Get some rest. I believe in you!!

    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67 Tip

      Posted

      Oh kerry. I rememeber this. We thought you should bow out of this. Is their still time to? You wanted it so much. You wanted to oroove to them and yourself you could be a bridesmate. I can hear you are so overwhelmed.   Is there time to bow out? Oh boy it wont go well if you ruin her day.  They were selfish in Spain. They werent going to change. We all knew that. I think deep down you did too. They cant relate. I feel so bad for you right now. I wonder if you can bow out of this ...her fears you will have.a panic attack and spoil her day and you really have it with them anyway at this point. I wonder if you can bow out of all this. They are not good friends for you anymore anyway. When is the wedding day?
    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67

      Posted

      ooh sorry to meant to direct this to kerry.
    • kerry52519
      kerry52519 lisalisa67

      Posted

      The wedding is next friday. The thing i have been fine since last time. No panic attacks or anything then i found out about something do with travel today and i asked 1 question and she got all stressed and that started me off again. I understand she is stressed but she is aranging a lot of stuff on FB which i am not on so by the time i find things out other people have managed to sort their bits out and of course i havnt had cos i didnt know. We have seen each other since last and its been fine.

      Im just fed up with it seeming im the problem when i havnt been given all the info

    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67 kerry52519

      Posted

      Maybe shes stressed about the wedding not you here? What is it you need to do? Can you get it done? Can one of the other girls helo you get it done? 
    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67

      Posted

      You should probably make a facebook, you can delete it right after the wedding. This way you can see whats happening because clearly they arent telling you. Not a surprise by the way. They arent the most kindest bunch. 
    • kerry52519
      kerry52519 lisalisa67

      Posted

      Its just about travel. I know shes stressed but theres no need to bite at me. Its just bought up all the bad memories from last time. I know its horrible as its her day but this whole thing is an inconvenience.

      We have to take our own high chair for our daugjter. My other half cant have a drink as he has to drive back home due to stupid onsite rules with leaving car there for a certain amount of time. No travel arranged for bridesmaid and a few other things. I know that sounds pathetic but its all mounting up to the fact they havnt thought about their guests at all

      I probably sound so stupid to people saying all this

    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67 kerry52519

      Posted

      It doesnt sound stupid at all! These are stressors for you right now. Let me ask you can you rent yourself  a car service. Since they arent providing transportation. That will allow your other half to drink and relieve the whole travek asoect. You can put the hugh chair in the trunk of the rented car service (rememeber to take it out lol)  They have options in price with too..can even use a taxi if you dont want to use a limo service. Even limo services have car services. Does that alleviate some if the stress. Does that idea sound okay?
    • kerry52519
      kerry52519 lisalisa67

      Posted

      I think we have managed to sort it now.

      Call me old fashioned but i thought you were just supposed to turn up for a wedding and have fun. Not have to rearrange half your life lol. Ill be ok. Just nice to get on here and vent with people who understand.

      Me and my fiancée are booking our wedding in a couple of weeks so a bit of karma is in order ( not that i would be a b***h though as tjats just not me). I care too much about what people think and feel

    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67

      Posted

      It honestly seems to flow with her character that she hasnt provided much thought or concern ( i hope that made you at least smile) 
  • sue58256
    sue58256 kerry52519

    Posted

    Is there time to pull out? this seems a little unfair to you as she knows you are not well and it is putting to much pressure on you which you do not need. If she was a true friend she would understand this She may be getting stressed about the wedding which is natural but she shouldn't be unkind. As Tip says you have an illness and with anxiety, it doesn't need any stress to tip you over and you cant control panic attacks ok she may get stressed about you pulling out but if shes going to get worried to why did she ask you in the first place? ask if you can go as a guest if she wants you at the wedding and dont let anyone give you any negative remarks think of your self and your health my lovely

    • kerry52519
      kerry52519 sue58256

      Posted

      Thank you. Im just so annoyed i asked 1 question to see if me and fiancée could get a lift from a to b and everyone made it so confusing then i got my head bitten off. How is that fair. We are Supposed to be meeting for a walkthrough tonight and i feel like a zombie where i havnt slept and cried so much. My mind is playing teicks on me and i cant stop thinking the worst. I have been fine for a couple of moths and shes the reason im like this again Xx

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