Why do I feel like a relationship will make me feel less empty/depressed/lonely?

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When I see a girl that is attractive or meet a girl and I enjoy their personality I immidiatelty think, relationship. I usually stray from these feelings. I just try to distance myself as friend as i dont want to be in a relationship at the state im in and/or for vain reasons (looks). Ive come to the conclusion that my mind doesnt know what to do and thinks subconciously that a relationship will make me feel less lonely. Even though itll probably have the opposite effect.

How do i stop feeling like a relationship will solve this or how do i feel less lonely? I think the second is impossible to answer but i hope insight will help.

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    Hi why do you feel lonely?  Do you have friends?  Are you working or still at school?  Do you think you are suffering from depression or anxiety etc?   Sorry for the questions but you have said very little about yourself so it's hard to know what to say.  Can you tell us any more please? x

     

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    Hi thoughts and feelings are great as they are the hardest to reveal but without knowing more about your circumstances it's hard to know what to say.

    Have you seen your school counsellor?  How old are you?  Have you seen your doctor and asked for help?  x

     

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    Well it might be worthwhile to have a chat to your school counsellor.  At your age you need to be concentrating on school and having friends to hang out with.  There is nothing wrong with having a relationship though if the feelings are mutual.  x

     

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    Hi doesn't18463 - have you had a girlfriend before? Do feel peer pressure to be with someone? Like hypercat says, you should talk to someone about your anxiety. You will benefit hugely from sharing and learning about yourself. I wish i was as aware  of my feelings at your age. 

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