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Why do I feel like a relationship will make me feel less empty/depressed/lonely?

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doesnt18463
doesnt18463

When I see a girl that is attractive or meet a girl and I enjoy their personality I immidiatelty think, relationship. I usually stray from these feelings. I just try to distance myself as friend as i dont want to be in a relationship at the state im in and/or for vain reasons (looks). Ive come to the conclusion that my mind doesnt know what to do and thinks subconciously that a relationship will make me feel less lonely. Even though itll probably have the opposite effect.

How do i stop feeling like a relationship will solve this or how do i feel less lonely? I think the second is impossible to answer but i hope insight will help.

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  • hypercat
    hypercat doesnt18463

    Posted

    Hi why do you feel lonely?  Do you have friends?  Are you working or still at school?  Do you think you are suffering from depression or anxiety etc?   Sorry for the questions but you have said very little about yourself so it's hard to know what to say.  Can you tell us any more please? x

     

    • doesnt18463
      doesnt18463 hypercat

      Posted

      Yes, very little, school, and yes. Its quite alright, im open and i didnt really know what to put down so i just put down my thoughts and feelings.
  • hypercat
    hypercat doesnt18463

    Posted

    Hi thoughts and feelings are great as they are the hardest to reveal but without knowing more about your circumstances it's hard to know what to say.

    Have you seen your school counsellor?  How old are you?  Have you seen your doctor and asked for help?  x

     

  • hypercat
    hypercat doesnt18463

    Posted

    Well it might be worthwhile to have a chat to your school counsellor.  At your age you need to be concentrating on school and having friends to hang out with.  There is nothing wrong with having a relationship though if the feelings are mutual.  x

     

    • doesnt18463
      doesnt18463 hypercat

      Posted

      My school doesnt care about us really and youre absolutely right. Ill probably just try to ignore that part of me, thanks.
  • wayne1962
    wayne1962 doesnt18463

    Posted

    Hi doesn't18463 - have you had a girlfriend before? Do feel peer pressure to be with someone? Like hypercat says, you should talk to someone about your anxiety. You will benefit hugely from sharing and learning about yourself. I wish i was as aware  of my feelings at your age. 

    • doesnt18463
      doesnt18463 wayne1962

      Posted

      Thanks ill try and sorry for late responses, been a tough week or tough 2 years since i noticed my anxiety.
    • doesnt18463
      doesnt18463

      Posted

      Also ive had one but it really didnt mean anything and i dont feel pressured to i just get attracted to personalities and on the inside im clingy but dont show it.
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