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Most days I will experience a very strong emotional reaction that causes me suddenly to well up. I can force this urge to subside after a few seconds and then I go back to feeling normal.
It usually happens with something that should cause positive emotion, and I have no idea why.
Has anyone heard of this before?
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neville79844 kaybarker
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I get the same thing. I cry a lot, when anything good or bad happens to me, or to people I care about. My emotions are all over the place. Also I can't sleep at night from thinking about everything all the time. .I can't put my brain to sleep, and when I get up I feel tired all day. .
kaybarker neville79844
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Thanks for the reply.
I don't actually end up crying, because I can regain control of myself within a few seconds, but the overwhelming urge is so strong I physically can't speak when it happens.
It also occurs say when I'm watching TV for example, even fictional/animation type stuff, as opposed to whatever the cause having anything to do with me/loved ones.
I should mention I'm not on any medication and do not have a thyroid problem or any known health conditions. It might seem trivial but it can be incredibly embarrassing when I have to pause mid-conversation to stop myself breaking down.
neville79844 kaybarker
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I wish I was an expert on this. Someone else here will be. I am a very emotional person too. When I am alone, I don't try to stop the urge to cry
I just the emotions out that way, and then I begin to feel better. I don't think it's trivial, . It's worrying you and is causing you emarrassment. If you explain to good friends what happens, maybe the truly good ones will not judge, . But they may have suggestions for you. Best wishes
sandy_loo kaybarker
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I have them all the time. When something happens positively for myself, friends, my kids and grandchildren, I try so hard to fight off the tears, but to no avail. People actually tell me to stop this b/s. Honestly, if I could I would.
You sound like a very sympathetic, empathetic, caring person.
I don't believe it's all about depression, but then again that doesn't help the depression much. It's like what comes first, the chicken or the egg, or being so carrying or the depression. So many people roll their eyes at me. I do not go out a whole lot, but if someone says anything to me, I just reply " Blame God, He is the one who put my bladder under my eyelids. Oh, right, God doesn't make mistakes, does He?!
neville79844 sandy_loo
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Sandy, you seem an emotional, feeling person. Don't listen to people who say it's b/s. They have had not had your life, your experiences. I know what you mean about 'chicken and egg' Which comes first? I am not a GP, or a mental health professional, But is seems to me that crying is a normal reaction to good things as well as bad ones. It shows you have feelings. I am a 61 years old man, they say 'Big Boys Don't Ctry' Well I do. My wife left me after 25 years of marriage, I don't even know where she is. I think about her every day. And my 86 years old Dad died about two years ago. He lived 300 miles from where I live, I went to his funeral, and I cried there too. I loved him very much and i miss him. There's another song (i am a musician) - 'It's My Party and I'll Cry if I want to ...you would too, if it happened to you .....' I think Carly simon recorded it. BEst wishes, Neville...
hypercat kaybarker
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Hi I think this is common with strong emotions when something happens even good events. If you are on your own why not allow youself a good cry sometimes? You will feel calmer afterwards.
I remember having a strong urge to cry and howl the place down once and went off alone in the garden to do it. Unfortunately a couple of kind people showed concern and they were being so nice I stopped. I wish they hadn't interfered coz I really needed it! x
neville79844 hypercat
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I can understand that!! It was nice that they cared though? You probably had a good cry after they'd gone? Maybe you'll meet them one day, and THEY will be crying! I never met anyone, youg, old, female, male,who doesn't cry. Best wishes hypercat. Hey! Do you like actual cats? I love em!! They are wild and independendent, but cute too! I had a little black andf white Moggy called Charlie. He used to sleep on the end of my bed, and wake me up at 5.30 am, by meowing loudly in my ear, He was saying 'Come on Neville, get up! I want my breakfast!!! Then when I turned over to sleep a little longer, he would purr in my ear. I couldn't resist him. So up I got, fed him, yawned, and thought to myself, 'I wish I was a pet cat!!!!!' Neville
hypercat neville79844
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Thank you neville, that was over 40 years ago so I probably won't see them now!
I love cats. I love dogs too but I am definitely a cat person. I am on my 4th cat now in 36 years and he is a little horror! He is nearly 2 and a half. He is quite wild and loves shinning up trees chasing the birds, catching and killing mice and baby birds, and even though he has been done at 1 he wanders off over roads to the park and other places. He then sits on my wall tarting himself for a pet from passersby.
Talking of cats I work as a volunteer in a charity shop and yesterday a customer said she had found a dead cat in the park opposite me. So off went my manager and me to have a look. The cat was not only well dead but it looked like something very big had torn it in half as his back half was missing. I am worried for my cat now. x
neville79844 hypercat
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Oh no. I hope your cat is OK. I got mine from Woodside Cat Rescue Plymouth Devon. He as a little black and white moggy called Charlie. . My older sister Carole, breeds Persian cats. Shows them at cat shows, the last one I went to was at Olymipia. I like Charity shops, I get all my clothes there. Actually I named my cat after a local girl, called Charlotte Grant! She was the daughter of Bob Grant, the tall conductor from 'On The Buses'!! She is the lady I love! She used to live just up the road from me in Whitleigh, Plymouth Devon. Her Mum is called Sally. She is very posh!! But Charley, as I call her, is from London. She used to to say 'Cor blimey, mate!!!!' Have a great night. Neville xxxx.
hypercat neville79844
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Hi Neville thanks. I am not that far from you as I live in Torbay. My cat is a little black and white one named Breeze. He is called after a good online friend's alias who died a couple of years ago. Bev x
joanne5576 kaybarker
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This happens to me allot so I understand where you are coming from when I'm alone I'll let it turn into tears but otherwise I shove it down and it just goes away. In saying that I just get it randomly just every so often ill choral up and get near tears and be like wait what are you crying about. I'd like to be like "oh yeah it's completely normal" but honestly I have no idea if it is or not I say normal with you know quotations but yeah sorry if this wasn't at all helpful
borderriever kaybarker
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We were in Ireland and I walked into the cottage we had rented and I had a real problem not welling up, so you are not alone people call it that I am soft.
I read about it a while ago some say we are empathic, sympathic or something like that. If you are concerned and it is causing you problems, see your GP.
Personally with my Depression I put it down to that although in your case it does not sound like depression.
All it is you have a soft understanding heart, a really nice sympathetic sole.
wayne1962 kaybarker
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Hi Kay - I was wondering if the constant suppressing of the urge has expanded its potency. Try letting it out - fall into a big wet sobbing heap if necessary. Don't worry what anyone else thinks. Other than that, i would suggest some counselling to see if there are underlying, forgotten issues causing this daily response. Regression therapy is another one you could try. there might be a long buried memory whether this life or other lives that you have suppressed - I'm thinking of the woman who suffered from post-nasal drip and couldn't find any cure. Did regression therapy and found she had been a Spanish lad c1500 whose betrothed was killed by a horse and cart in front of him. Lad couldn't weep as it was considered weak and unmanly. Soul carried that repression through many lives until this one. Sounds out there - but not to that woman. That therapy cured her condition. Best of luck to you.
borderriever wayne1962
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