Why is he avoiding the topic?
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Hi there, i would like people's pure advice on this one because i have now drawn a blank. My counsellor didn't speak about what i needed to this week and keeps saying i find life hard because my dad was rotten when i was a kid. I don't want to talk about him. I see him because been assaulted twice has ruined any relationships i have with people. I need to speak about this and get him to listen to me. But. This is sp tough to say i don't know how. How would you get him to listen at all? I really appreciate anything you say because i have said this for months and i now feel i'm banging my head against a brick wall.
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john23172 sam18386
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Hi Sam.
You just say dad I've got a problem and i find it hard to talk about it to you, when I was a little girl ( a child ) we would talk but now I'm grown up I cannot express my feelings can you help me.
But don't come straight out with it make up a story leading your self to the point that you struggle with, you may cry but a dad will see his little girl hurting and want to help take away the pain, I know because when I found it hard to speak to my parents about something they would always treat me as their baby which I was and still am even as a pensioner, so try it Sam let me know how you get on.
John
sam18386 john23172
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Hi John, i can't speak to my dad, he was by now 7 years ago at a chapel of rest having died at 2.25am. it was Easter morning 2012. I feel broken today, not dreadfully so, so speaking to my dad i can't do.
sam18386 john23172
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Sorry John also the counsellor i see has got this wrong. Dad NEVER hurt me at all, 2 scumbags did so as a result i'm finding it hard to deal with.
john23172 sam18386
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Sorry to hear your dad passed over and i wasn't suggesting that your father had anything to do with your problem, but i still believe you can talk to your dad, try it.
John
sam18386 john23172
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Oh i see and no need to apologize about my dad. I do speak to my dad if you see what i mean, in prayer.
sam18386
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hi to the people who have spoken and replied to this post. this is to let you know this is only once again an issue because i am currently having assault counselling and the issue of my dad has come up again. every time i bring up assault my dad is dragged into this! my dad didn't do the damage - other people did. this has nearly caused me to take my life it has got that bad! thanks again for being bothered to reply.