Why work so hard when it's worthless?
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In school, my result are considered top 10 but whenever I bring back my report, my parents expect me to be the best in school. They always compare me to my older brother and I didn't like it. I always wanted to be the best. Once I saw a slogan, it's "Don't hope for it, work for it" so I worked really hard. Until one day, I got second and I told my parents about it and they were not happy so I ask myself " why work so hard when it's worthless?" so i gave up since then. Sometimes I felt like cutting myself but once I have done it, there is no way going back.
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RHGB aubrey_levin
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In the end, I ran away from home when I was 16 and never went back, nor did I ever look back - I am not recommending this course of action. I never ever did got on with my father, I tried, but I always felt that I was a disappoinment, despite ending up with a good managerial job at a top international company.
I suppose what I'm trying to say is, look after yourself, do what makes you happy and stop worrying about your self image.
angela43016 aubrey_levin
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elizabeth2244 aubrey_levin
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Depression does hurt and you need to stop living for up to your parent expectation
I have been doing this with my mom trying the get her to accept me i sent her cards over the holiday and a Christmas plant she did not appreciate any of them and told me I sshould never have sent them which hurt my feelings.
My sister tells me my mom is just and angry and bitter person who does not care about anything.
Nobody is perfect only God is perfect and you should live up to your own expectations. Just because you came in second that is not right that your parents were mad at you, you did the best you could and you should be proud of your self do not worry about what your parents think because you are the only one who is going to have to live with yourself because your parents are not always going to be around so you just have to put some self esteem back into you and understand that you can only do the best you can in life
Its your parents problems if they do this to you so please do not let your parents put you down like my mom did to me yes it hurts when your own parent do this to us but we are good in Gods habnds and nobody is perfect so just do not live up to you parents expectations only your then this way you won't have to deal with your parents wanting you to be better when you already are a good person.
Please talk to a therapist before things get out of hand
orange12933 aubrey_levin
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angela43016 orange12933
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hypercat aubrey_levin
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I think you need to seek help with this - there must be a school counsellor you can talk to so please make an appointment with them. Or do you have any other relatives who could intervene on your behalf? Your parents need a good talking to!
Please don't give up on your dreams or let this become an issue for you. You sound very clever and have a great future ahead of you. Work hard and get to Uni then you can start leading your own life more. You don't need to and definitely shouldn't be compared to anyone else let alone your brother.
DO NOT cut yourself again - promise me! I just want to give you a big old hug and let you know how special you are. Bev xx
hypercat
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Tamarind aubrey_levin
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jran aubrey_levin
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It sounds to me you are very smart and intelligent and coming 2nd is great there is always someone better and lesser than yourself. Thats life. Try and talk to your parents i am sure they think they are doing the right thing to encourage more but if they accept there is no more then maybe without pressure you could do it. We can achieve anything if we are happy and have self esteem.you are smart and will do well in your life. Be kind to yourself
fizah38912 aubrey_levin
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respecthealth aubrey_levin
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People and lives develop. Parents are just human, bless them, and are on their own path of growth in life. We cannot expect them to know it all and behave perfectly. They may have more of a fixed mindset at this stage of life eg. they wrongly believe ability and intelligence is innate, and things should come naturally.
rizwanyounis516 aubrey_levin
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rizwanyounis516 aubrey_levin
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hypercat rizwanyounis516
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