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background, i am 30, married for 7 months. i started binging socially around 16. weekend parties with friends, spring break etc. then college party life. to me i considered all of this very normal. go to school, get good grades, party on the weekend or vacation. now im 30, great job, great salary, great wife, great step son, just moved into a nice big new house etc. have it all. i still binge on weekends. not every weekend, but probably every other. i dont drink during the week. but on a saturday i could have 15 beers, on occasion not remember much the next day, and be so hungover i dont move from the couch. i dont get to the point of vomitting, i dont drive, etc. i am not abusive, mean, nasty to her while i drink, i am a happy drunk, probably annoying to a sober person but not mean at all. the next day, i do have a short fuse sometimes with her and our son, just edgy i guess from the hangover, again not abusive, but low patience.
as far as me as a dad and husband, we both agree i am great. caring, responsible, loving etc, but she hates that on sundays i am a bum. sitting all day, sometimes i am fine enough to work around the house, but hardly ever go out on a sunday if i am hungover. she went to a therapist about other issues for herself and this became the main topic. her therapist wants me to go to counseling. i dont. she doesnt want me to stop drinking, just not go to the point of blacking out or being a bum the next day. im positive i can do it, i like drinking though, but i know its hurting her so im going to start trying really hard.... but i feel like i almost need to be on eggshells now. we drank together while we dated, and engaged. she knew how i reacted the next day for 2 years before marriage. now she has had enough. i agree with her for the most part, but my arguement is if we have no plans sunday, who cares what i do, but yes i shouldnt lose patience with her or son.
tips? its very easy for me to get to the point of say 8 beers where i feel good and am still coherent and functioning the next day, but 8 easily turns into 12-15 for me.
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