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Will I have to give up on sex?

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george_32756
george_32756

Please can some one tell me if your sex life ends  because there’s no labias any more? Mine are disappearing so quickly and I’m wondering if that means when there all gone that’s the end of my sex life? I’ve called off my wedding as it doesn’t seem fair to my partner to spend the rest of his life sexless. I love him so much and to deny him sex for the rest of his life seems so unfair. I’m hoping someone can tell me that I will be able to have sex without my labias? My entrance is closing up as every time we do have Sex I tear and bleed and it’s getting very tight. It’s so depressing. Xxx

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  • ann67814
    ann67814 george_32756

    Posted

    No I still manage to have sex, but am usually sore afterwards, but the lack of labia isn't a problem. Do work on applying the Clobetasol to the folds and labia to try to slow down the fusing.

  • ann67814
    ann67814 george_32756

    Posted

    Just reread your post, perhaps you need to acquire dilators to help keep your vagina open. Good luck.
  • george_32756
    george_32756

    Posted

    Thank you so much ann67814. It literally fills me with dread that I won’t be able to have sex anymore. I’m only 15 months in and this is happening so quickly. I’ve lost 3/4 of what I had. There doesn’t seem to be any fusing at all. Just vanishing :-( knowing that I can still have sex without them fills me with a bit of optimism that my sex life can go on. Xxx
  • TexinSF
    TexinSF george_32756

    Posted

    You can have sex still but maybe start using dialators to keep you open? I saw that suggested from a couple of people on this site and I want to try it too. I know how you feel as I am married to a younger man and he loves sex as I used to.I bleed too and feel like I am being ripped apart. I think the fear of pain doesn't help at all. Plus there are others ways you can please him if you are having a particularly bad day with LS. You should still be able to get married! Is he understanding about LS? Your comment made me so sad. You deserve to be happy and get married. L S should not stop that. Go to a Vulvar specialist and find out what you can do. My best wishes to you.

    • george_32756
      george_32756 TexinSF

      Posted

      He is amazingly supportive and says that I’m

      Being over the top but I just don’t think he understands this at all. He’s quite a head in the sand kinda guy and doesn’t really want to research it. I’ve not been able to show him how bad things are down there as every time I look at it I burst into tears. I just feel like I would set him free to start another life if we split now. And it would be on nice terms. My biggest fear is he cheats on me Because of lack of sex. He has been 110% faithful to me so

      Far but who can blame him if he does stray. It’s such a devastating disease and one that’s floored me. I will definitely try the dilators! This has affected me so much. It’s nice to come on here and see that people are so positive and supportive xxxx

  • Guppy007
    Guppy007 george_32756

    Posted

    Hi there, Firstly, having no labia minora will not stop you from having sex.  Some women are born without their labia minora and they do fine.  I understand your stress but stopping the wedding is a mistake in my view as i am sure your boyfriend loves you for hundreds of reasons and not just because you have sex with him. 

    Take a breath and start reading as much as you can about LS.  I won't lie, its challenging, but once you know what to do, how to manage LS, things become better. You will need to buy some dilators asap to use regularly to keep your entrance the same size as it is now as over time it will shrink and narrow if left to its own devices.  To avoid fusing you need to use lubrication before bed, as its thought that is when fusing possibly occurs..no one really knows but it likely then.

    Never have sex if you are super sore down there its best to wait. 

    Remember that you will likely have periods when you go into remission and everything is just like before you had LS, so keep that in mind.

  • sheila02965
    sheila02965 george_32756

    Posted

    If you can please try the borax soaks. I swear my inside were so red and looked blistered but after using clyndomycin cream for a month and then clobatesol for a month I healed them I started a flare up again and seen theborax soak. Started it and after3 months I'm like new. No pain during sex, I'm starting to unfuse. I use 1 tsp dissolved in the sitz bath and soak every day for 15 minutes. Best thing that's ever happened to me since I found it I had this in 2007.

    Best of luck. Don't give up you can still have a great marriage/relationship.

    • Guppy007
      Guppy007 sheila02965

      Posted

      Wow Sheila that sounds amazing..good for you...it does seem to do the trick.
    • Starlight8
      Starlight8 sheila02965

      Posted

      I am in the U.S., where do you buy your borax. The only borax I have seen is in the laundry section, it's called 20 mule team borax. Is this the stuff you use?

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