Will I survive?

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Hello you wonderful ladies i just joined this forum. I will be 57 in August and still not done with Menopause. I am still having periods i went on HRT for a few months and felt worse not for me. i have always had health anxiety and it is now worse i have doom and gloom, bad headaches, palpatations, weak leg feelings, dizziness, foggy, bloating, hot flashes, You name it i now am worried cause my head and neck have hurt for a week. i have had a MRI. all normal. It is hard on my marriage My husband has had with me i feel so alone

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    Hi Leigh, and welcome~

    You are not alone! Not at all!

    I am 51, periods are very light and totally unpredictable, and I feel like death warmed over lately.

    I know it's hard to talk to doctors about, because they always ask 'what is your worst symptom, and we can try to help that first'.

    All of them are terrible!

    Wishing you some better days~

    Sara

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      thank you so much Sarah! Not only doctors but spouses and others dont understand Getting through most days ate hell i cannot believe I am 57 and feeling worse than ever! i wish for better days for you as well!

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      You said it!

      Trying to be up front about when (daily) and how (varies daily!) rotten you feel is like a mine field. No one (except those who have been there) can imagine feeling so poorly, so often!

      I am trying to give myself the grace I would give my best friend, and rest when I need to.

      Easier said than done some days, I know.

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      ABSOLUTELY SARAH!!! most days i honestly feel like i have the flu! hard to smile when you feel so sick it gives me strength Sarah to know i

      I am not going crazy and it is all hormones and i am not alone in the b*****d of struggles Please give yourself grace to say I am not ok and I am ok with that! We as women beat ourselves up when do not ,eet expectations of what we ate supposed to do and feel My therapist told me if all you can do one day is get the mail do not feel useless and guilty this sucks but we will get through it!!!

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      Hi Sara ,

      yeah , its true doctors ask whats the worst symptom we have dont want to go to list , i always go to womens primary doctor and in their 40's and up but they dont understand what peri and manpause means im surprised they dont experience it to themselves ?

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    I often have asked myself that exact question: "Will I survive?" I'm turning 54, and I've been going through this since I was 48! I consider myself an extremely strong person, but perimenopause has almost done me in. Horrific does not even begin to capture how bad my symptoms have been. I feel like I've had every physical and mental symptom that there is. This forum has been a lifesaver for me because, even when you have supportive people in your life, they can't possibly understand just how bad and incapacitating this can be! You have my deepest of sympathy; I get it - believe me!

    Reach out anytime that you need support. I will always respond.

    Hugs,

    Bev xo

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    Hi Leigh,

    You will find lots of help and support from all the lovely ladies on here. You are definitely not alone! Be kind to yourself, I don't know about you but I'm great at looking after others but not so much myself. I'm trying to address this! It's difficult for others who haven't experienced it to understand but that shouldn't stop them being empathetic. It is quite overwhelming at times with the amount of symptoms isn't it, both mental and physical. We will all get through it and realise just how strong we are, even if we don't feel it at the moment.

    Finkyb

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