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Will this get easier? Can I ever get back to the person I was before being diagnosed

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rhi943730
rhi943730

I was diagnosed a week ago and sufferred severe pain from my first outbreak, and only after a few days of thinking it was healed the infection has come back. I just feel like there will not be a day where I dont think about it. I feel like a completely differrent person now, i have no motivation to do anything and everyday is more of a struggle to stop myself from breaking down. I hate thinking about good times before my diagnosis because it just makes me wish i could be that person again, this is something i now have to live with for the rest of my life. I feel so lost, and i dont know how i will ever be able to get over it. 

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  • jordan86846
    jordan86846 rhi943730

    Posted

    Are you taking an antiviral medication to help suppress the outbreaks? Some how you have to find a way to come to terms with it.. Because I let it completely consume me for about a month after being diagnosed and it made everything so much more difficult and worse. Stress is a big factor in outbreaks. its been about a week since I've decided to just accept the fact that this is what I have to deal with now how am I going to live my life and not let it drag me down every day. I have only told one person and that is my fiancé.. He was tested and also tested positive. We have hsv1 genitally. His outbreak consisted of slight groin pain and 2 little spots he thought were infected hairs. Mine was a nightmare. I was hospitalized and had to have a catheter for 7 days. I missed 2 weeks of work and couldn't even get out of bed. You're not alone in this. Just focus on you and your health and taking care of your body. Lysine is a supplement that is said to work wonders in helping keep outbreaks away. Google Super Lysine Plus supplement. It may help. Also, raw honey is good for healing the sores. Just keep talking to the support group you will get through this. It's scary and it's depressing and makes you feel completely alone. I was ready to just end my life I thought there was so end. Just hang on because you're not alone. Thinking of you.
    • rhi943730
      rhi943730 jordan86846

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      I was put on aciclovir before i was diagnosed and this cleared it up, or so i thought, but after being diagnosed it has come back and i think it looks worse this time. I was told the primary outbreak is the worst so im worried that this is already my second and it is more painful than the last! Im back on the aciclovir today so hopefully give it a week and it will be healed. It just seems to be endless at the moment, and the thought of having to go through this again and again is making me feel worse. 

       

      I told my boyfriend who I have been with for 5 years, we dont know if he has it because he has never shown symptoms or we have just never noticed them because they may have been so minor. He has been really supportive and it doesnt bother him, but im also worried about infecting him. It has made me feel so low that i dread to think how i will feel if he starts having outbreaks, i would hate to think ive made someone feel how i do now. 

      It does really feel endless right now and i can't stop crying. its nice to know theres groups like this where i can talk as the diagnosis has made me feel so alone. Thank you for your advice.

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus rhi943730

    Posted

    As I noted in the other thread, you are still the same person and the outbreak will pass, after which you will feel like normal. The worst is the first outbreak coupled with the initial diagnosis. I suppose subsequent outbreaks would suck, too.

    When I was going through my first outbreak a few weeks ago, I wondered if I'd ever feel the same down below. At the time, I wasn't so sure, but after 2-3 weeks, I was back to normal, and you will be, too. :D

    Only problem now is that my menstrual cycle is really messed up due to the emergency contraception I took and ensuing high stress levels. That's what my doc says at least, and I hope he's right, so fingers crossed! But if it's any consolation, I have had my period three times in one month! Wtf?!!

    • rhi943730
      rhi943730 FelizCastus

      Posted

      I was reading online that your period can bring on an outbreak so that just made me feel great... expecting an outbreak and my period once a month what a treat. I started to feel better once it had healed but now its back and seems to be worse that the last, im not sure if this is still the primary outbreak because it was only healed for like a day or two. Its just a nightmare trying to feel better about yourself but then have such a painful down below that just makes you feel like there no point in bothering. 

      I have had the implant for 4 years, it makes my periods so irregular i didnt have a period for two years and then i had one constant for like 3 months and then they go again for a year.  Perks of being female i guess.. 

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus rhi943730

      Posted

      Well, I have had three periods in one month (never happened to me before, crazy!) and noticed no changes to my GH, which was a huge relief. Now I'm just freaking out about my cycle, as it's gone mental. Doc says it's not related to GH, which is a relief, but still!
  • jordan86846
    jordan86846 rhi943730

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    I got my period in the middle of my first outbreak! It was a disaster. Also, men tend to have less severe symptoms when they are infected (or so I was told and was the case with my fiancé) He may very well be infected and chances are good he is if you guys have unprotected sex.. I'm glad he's supportive of you because that's exactly what you need! Good support and positive vibes! Just stay positive and hopefully this will clear up soon!!
    • jordan86846
      jordan86846

      Posted

      I don't know why there's a smiley face in that last comment lol
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