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Will viagra work for psychological ED?

I've been having erection problems. I am able to achieve full erections on my own, but when I'm with a new women I get so nervous and I fail. The last time I was with this new woman I wasn't even able to get slightly aroused. I'm about to meet here again in 7 days time, and I've been given four 50mg viagra tablets after I went to the doctor about this. He ruled out any physical cause and said it's predominantly psychological. 

So when I meet her next week, I plan to take viagra before I leave the house. Since I have no physical issue, is there a good chance the viagra will work? I really need this to help me. As soon as I'm physically touched down there, will the viagra start to take effect and give me an erection, even if I am very nervous?

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  • simonthethird bane

    Hi there.  It certainly should work.  Take the viagra in plenty of time and above all when you are with your partner take things slowly. 

    It may be worthwhile [I assume that she is sensible!] to say that you feel nervous and perhaps you could say that "she is the first woman you have been with for a very long time"  - ask her to help you in a way that you feel OK with. As you become more confident it will all come back [oh dear - something of an unintended pun]

    • bane simonthethird

      Thank you for the reply, Simon. I really do appreciate it. I have been worried because I read a post online that said all the viagra in the world won't work unless you have a physical problem, and that it cannot give an erection to someone who suffers from anxiety, but I later found out that this person hadn't even tried it. I'll be more optimistic now. 

  • GreenD bane

    Hi

    My problem is almost similar to that of you. I get full erection when I'm alone but it doesn't respond whenever I meet my lover.

    Sometimes I'm surprised (frustrated as well) by its behaviour as frequently I get erections even though I want to resist. I wonder how can I gain control over my penis.

    I haven't tried viagra yet but feel ashamed of buying it because I find it embarrasing that the salesman of local drugstore smirking at me when I leave the store with viagra.redface

    • simonthethird GreenD

        Hi there GreenD  - you are clearly not in UK!  Here we can buy it on-line and it is either sent by post or sent to our local pharmacy ["or so I am told"] where they simply pass it to you in a pharmacy bag.

      I don't know why you should be worried about your penis "having a life of its own"  I cannot think of any reason to want to resist erections!

    • GreenD simonthethird

      Hi simonthethird,

      Yes I'm not in UK. You guys are lucky to buy such stuffs anonymously.

      However, my penis seems to be autonomus. When I phone my lover or think about her, I get full erection even when my parents are around (embarrassing!). I also get long full erection during sleep. But whenever we meet (have met 3-4 times), it remains flaccid (!) even we kiss, hug pssionately, fondle genitals etc. This relationship is first for both of us (& we'll marry soon). I suspect that psychological matters might cause such strange behaviour of my penis. I'm quite frustrated because I always thought myself to be a good performer in bed until discovered my penis' unexpected response.

      Anyway, is there any alternative of medicines (viagra, levitra, cialis etc) to cure my problem? Any help in this regard will be appreciated.

    • simonthethird GreenD

      There is nothing "alternative" that will work.

      "I get full erection even when my parents are around (embarrassing!)".

      I wonder if this can be part of the problem in that you have grown up in an atmosphere where your parents are not open about your sexuality?

      In other words that your [perhaps unconsiously] feel guilty being with your partner before marriage

      If it is your first relationship are you saying that you have had sex with women before outside a "relationship"? 

      Are you worried about pregancy with your current partner?  Impotence is a first class contraceptive! 

      I would guess that the cause is psycological and that you probably should seek some counselling before your marriage.

    • GreenD simonthethird

      That's my personal problem I think. I feel shy when other persons are around (except my lover) and I've got erection.

      In fact we both decided to remain virgin until marriage. Whenever we met, however, explored our bodies. I'm not saying that I was committed to the decision. I was mentally aroused but my penis, perhaps wasn't. It was flaccid and colourless fluid was discharging. I was indeed eager to show her full erection which I got normally, but surprised seeing this act of betrayal.

      I didn't have sex or become intimate with any woman before.

      I don't know if this is called impotence. I'm confident that my reproductive system is normal as I've found nothing dysfunctional.

      You mean viagra is the ultimate solution?

    • simonthethird GreenD

      "Impotence" is simply a term which describes the inability to get an erection when you want one.  It is not necessarily a permanent thing.  It may be psycological or physical [for instance after an operation on the urinary system].

      I am perplexed!  You say "I'm quite frustrated because I always thought myself to be a good performer in bed until discovered my penis' unexpected response." but also "I didn't have sex or become intimate with any woman before" - these do not tie up.

      I would guess that - underneath - you are worried about your relationship currently.  When you are with your partner do you have  absolute privacy for sexual play?  It really does not help if others are around and may disturb you at any moment.

      It may be for example your body is saying [subconsciously] that although you would like an erection you cannot as you might then go too far, have intercourse and that would be against "your" wishes to stay virginal till marriage.

      So you are thinking of marriage. Again how is that going to work?  Will you have your own place?  Sexual intercourse can get quite noisy! Again if you are in parents' or parents-in-laws' house that may not bode well particularly if - as you say earlier - you are worried about their reaction.

      Have you discussed with your girlfriend about contraception?  Or do you want to leave it to chance?  Or do you really want to start a family at once?  Although perhaps romantic children really  do limit your life and as you have little experience your active sex life may be pretty short or infrequent.  What do you feel - for example - about sex in pregnancy?

      That said it may all sort itself out when you marry and can be together alone.  At least you have some idea what sex is about. I have come across people [and this goes to an older generation which perhaps married in the 1930s] who did not know that to have children you had to have intercourse!  Others where the man did not understand that it should be pleasurable for his wife.

      If you are young viagra really would be a long stop.  It may work ...

    • GreenD simonthethird

      Thanks a lot for your insightful reply.

      To reconcile my two statements which seem perplexing to you, actually I assumed myself sexually strong by observing hard erection of my penis. And it's also true that I never slept with any girl before. Our relationship is secret and we can't meet regularly. We met 3-4 times physically when my parents weren't at home. I'm a layman when it's about sex (she is also). Therefore my statements might look like contradictory or strange.

      I'm now searching for a job and will marry after getting one. I want to live separately from my parents after marriage.

      Anyway, thanks again for your valuable response.

  • gharis35067 bane

    Think that this  <link removed> - should work. At least I buy it here. But it is better to heal your psychological problems at a doctor. 

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