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Worried I could have genital herpes

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abbarest09659
abbarest09659

Hello Ive never done a post on a forum before but im just looking for some info before my appointment tomorrow. So i apologize for the long post. i have been in a relationship since November 3 rd. we started having unprotected sex after both getting a cleared std/sti screening and exclusivity one month later (dec 6) . I noticed after that his didnt include HSV mine did and I was negative for both HSV 1/2. The last time we had sex was on 2/2, on 2/4 he started having UTI like symptoms and went to the dr. Unfortunately he cane back HSV 2 positive with an index of 6.01. He started antivirals right away and he has had slight improvement, and no blisters. I have been checking myself a lot probably too much! Today I noticed things that are freaking me out (hopefully for no reason) im not sure if everything looks normal or if anyone thinks things look like they could be the beginnings of a sore. my discharge is white with no odor. i dont believe that is related because it changed when i started a new BC brand 3 weeks ago. i have ZERO other symptoms, no itching, burning or pain, and im peeing fine. i have touched the spots that i circled also and nothing hurts . wouldnt there be pain?! any information would help me so much! stress and anxiety has been ridiculous imageimage

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  • Elc1214
    Elc1214 abbarest09659

    Posted

    hey babe that is defo not herpes. just looks like your normal vagina to me

  • bella78330
    bella78330 abbarest09659

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    If the bump is a blister, yes. If the indent was a blister that popped, yes.

    Edit: Sorry, just read your message. If your BF tested positive, that's what it is.

  • abbarest09659
    abbarest09659

    Posted

    thank you for answering! all welcome went to the gyno today. very detailed exam, he saw the bump first picture and he said if i hadnt asked he wouldnt have noticed it looks like normal anatomy swabbed it anyway and the spot in 2nd picture because i asked and he knows i panic. no discomfort during exam checked lymph nodes as well and again zero other symptoms. even when he swabbed i didnt feel any pain or discomfort or anything. im pretty confident im negative.

    any chance he could have had a false positive? HSV2 level of 6.01, UTI like symptoms started on 2/4, he started antivirals on 2/9, UTI like symptoms are improving very slowly. he had a visual exam on 2/9 dr saw no lesions, blisters and he still has no blisters or lesions. could it be a false positive? or did he just start the meds soon enough to avoid them? this would be his first outbreak

    i know HSV is so common but im a very nervous person when it comes to my health. ive researched and i know the rates of transmission.i know this isnt his fault but i dont think i can continue, i would be nervous all time. hes made comments that he would understand and even that he should be the one to let me go but is giving me time to process. we're still talking everyday and i want to be supportive and not hurt him.

    • bella78330
      bella78330 abbarest09659

      Edited

      You're welcome! It's possible he's asymptomatic. You can be positive and never see an outbreak or rarely get them. I would take a positive test result for what it is, but a second test wouldn't hurt. Also, I'm not sure the transmission rate if he's on medication but I think it would be extremely risky to continue intercourse (especially unprotected) if your test comes back negative...

      Are you sure he didn't avoid the HSV test on purpose in hopes you'd catch it and be with him, maybe too scared to tell you? Hopefully, you test negative but if you test positive that will be something to think about too. It's very kind of you to be so supportive though and I hope you get the all clear.

  • abbarest09659
    abbarest09659

    Posted

    thank you! he didnt even tell me he went to get tested until he had the results because he thought it was a uti and we werent going to see eachother in between the symptoms starting and before he knew the results, if that makes sense. i know HSV blood tests arent included in std/sti screenings, my gyno wouldnt event do one today. my gyno also recommended for him to get tested again or a second visual check to really look for sores with a urologist. regardless of what happens with us i just hope hes ok, its not anyones fault when this happens

    any tips on how to go separate ways like this without hurting someone? should i stay in touch for support? he hasnt shared his diagnosis with anyone else

    • bella78330
      bella78330 abbarest09659

      Edited

      You can have a blood test done at this point and get an accurate result. I would have a blood test done too. If you've been having unprotected sex and his is positive, yours is going to be positive.

      If you love him, be with him. Most men aren't looking for friends or support. If you're not sleeping with him, he'll be sleeping with someone else, herpes or not. It will not be easy telling someone you have a disease but it doesn't mean stay. Seems you love each other though. If you need support you have each other. If you go separate ways you do. Life goes on

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