Worrying about parents getting older!
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I'm currently suffering from anxiety and feeling low due to a long standing issue I have with regards to relationships! I'm doing all the right things to try and resolve this but just in the wars at the moment which is making me worry more than about things more than normal.
About 18 months ago my dad had a massive stroke when he was 63. All the doctors told us to expect the worst and they didn't think he would live. 18 months on he is doing great. Hes home, he can walk, he can feed himself and look after himself and also still do his hobby. The stroke has affected his brain and he does have problems with his speech and movement but other than that hes here and still with us.
For the last six month though I can't stop worrying about him and that he might die at any moment. It's like I'm on edge waiting for him to die because he had a stroke already. He may even be healthier than before his stroke due to losing weight and the meds he's on etc
Is it normal to worry about him like this? It's a bit selfish really because I worry what affect it will have on me if he does die? And will it be the final straw to push me over the edge and unable to cope with life anymore?
Have any of you lost parents whilst struggling with your mental problems? If so how did it affect you?
I know it's a morbid question but it's on my mind all the time. They aren't getting any younger and won't be around forever
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Thank you for singing me the song too I've just listen to it, very nice song, the end part with the old guy brought back some memories
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March of 2014 my dad also had a massive strokr due to poorly controlled hbp. Like it was so bad and he was obese. He was a very hard-working man but for the pass couple of years it honestly felt like he was giving up and didn't care anymore because of all the stress he had piling on him. Anyway so he had his stroke last year March and it was very terrifying. The Neuro surgeon said that if they don't operate he was going to die and if they do operate then he was gonna be on life support. Luckily he survived and was in a rehab hospital after 2 weeks from his surgery. He came home after 2 1/2 months and he was struggling bad. Fast forward to present time and he's still struggling but he's made improvements. He walks with a cane right arm is paralyzed, has aphasia(speech problem) although he is very aware of what is going on, and he remembers his past. There has to be someone with him 24/7 for meds and the bathroom and to prepare his food (he can few himself). Btw my dad was 47 when he had his stroke. I was 18 when this happened. He can no longer work, but I told him I'm going to be starting a DIY furniture business/hobby and that we'll be co-managers so he's looking forward to that since he can't work anymore.
It is very hard on the family because we have bills and a house and then him to take care of so it is very stressful. Me, my mom and sis are trying our best, so I understand the stress.
My anxiety was heightned after his stroke I've started to worry about everyone else's health I sometimes think I'll have a serious illness. My sister is overwight and mom is getting older so I think about people dying. And it's very tough.
The only advice I can give you is to be there for him and give him all the love you can because the truth is were all going to die so enjoy the time you have so with him. I remember when I was younger I hated to hang around my parents but since this event I can hang with them all day long.