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Worst girlfriend ever

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Itslife
Itslife

So my boyfriend and I were having sex and at the very end I felt like a pain im like wtf could that be... fast forward after sex clean up and I look and I see two tiny tiny sores...... my stomach went to my heart I made my boyfriend was himself right after sex. 

I feel horrible, I have NO idea I was having an outbreak!! Didn’t hurt didn’t have pain nothing until the very last part of sex. I feel like such a horrible girlfriend. 

Of course my boyfriend is like I don’t care it doesn’t bother me I’m like but it bothers me because I’ve could’ve been more cautious. He’s like you take every precaution in the book when you feel off but you didn’t feel anything this time that’s not your fault. 

I’m having such anxiety that I could’ve given him this 😔😔

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  • siavash07589
    siavash07589 Itslife

    Posted

    you gave it to him probably.

    the fact that youre sad about it is something good that shows youre a good person and dont be sad about it 

    hopefully your boyfriend forgive you 

    but you should have told him before having sex 

    thats bad of you 

    • Itslife
      Itslife siavash07589

      Posted

      I’m sorry but before you tell someone that’s bad of them be aware of the story. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and he’s fully aware of every risk. He always says let’s have sex and I determine on how I feel. This was a spur of the moment and I haven’t had the slightest tingle itch pain all day this the very end of our sex. It was not bad of me for thinking it was fine. 

      My boyfriend can careless about it. It’s more me freaking out that I could’ve given it to him and I’ve been so cautious this whole time. 

    • JustKasey
      JustKasey siavash07589

      Posted

      Siavash, how could you say this? It is stated that the partner knew of the virus and knows that Itslife takes every precaution they can to prevent spreading. They did not have sex on purpose with open sores - they did not know.
    • siavash07589
      siavash07589

      Posted

      you are right, maybe im wrong. but dont blame yourself
  • JustKasey
    JustKasey Itslife

    Posted

    I'm sorry you're having anxiety over this, I can only imagine.

    It's very responsible of you to be so careful and take so many precautions with your partner to lower his risk of getting the virus, good on you. More people need to be like you.

    I also think it's fantastic he is so supportive of you. I hope the outcome is good.

    Although, as HSV is skin-to-skin it's entirely possible he could have contracted the virus even prior to this. As you would know, you don't need visible sores to pass on HSV.

    Please try to relax x

  • rosey23
    rosey23 Itslife

    Posted

    You’ve done nothing wrong and taking precautions as you have is great! Shan’t comment on the previous comment but ignore that.

    I’m in the same boat, and it’s really tricky to figure out... but being honest and saying how it is is really helpful. Sounds like You’re doing that! 

    Don’t beat yourself up. Have you considered getting your bf a blood test? They’re scientifically fairly rubbish, but if positive - he may well have the infection but not have any symptoms - winner! 

    Talk to people and go to a good clinic and learn the proper facts. Feel free to message me if you want to.

    Be kind to yourself,

    R x

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