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Yet another set back

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mazpaz
mazpaz

Well after all the job issues I'm having we were dealt another blow today. My other half has just had his licence taken off him due to medical reasons. So now I also have to drive every where - which knackers me - and we have to work out how he can get to work. No buses on route and split shifts, so he goes there, back, there and back. He always did shopping and dog walking for me - using the car of course. I'm just waiting for the next thing to hit us 😦

Paz

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  • casiodss
    casiodss mazpaz

    Posted

    Sorry to hear thst. Easy, try not to stress about it.
  • Ravenwood
    Ravenwood mazpaz

    Posted

    I'm so, so sorry. That sounds exhausting. I hope everything will work out for you. 🌷🌺🌹🌸
  • ChrissyC
    ChrissyC mazpaz

    Posted

    Oh my dear I'm so sorry! Any chance he will improve/get his licence back at some stage?
  • mazpaz
    mazpaz

    Posted

    Thanks guys

    I am keeping calm ..ish. He is gutted and knows practically what the knock on effect will be. I'm telling him we will be fine and will just have to adapt but feeling rather exhausted and resigned inside.

    XP

  • Bunnyhugger
    Bunnyhugger mazpaz

    Posted

    Is there a way he can arrange to carpool to work?  Can you have your groceries/medications delivered instead of having to go out to get them?  Or can you arrange for a neighbour to pick up groceries for you when she does hers?
    • mazpaz
      mazpaz Bunnyhugger

      Posted

      I've tried delivery but a) the veg is usually out of date by the next day and b) I have several good intolerances and need specialised foods. We need to shop at 3 different places to get the basics such as bitter, cheese etc. Great ideas though. Thank you. I am wondering if Access To Work (in UK)could help maybe with transport. They couldn't help me but his condition does mean he is technically now covered under the disability/equality act.

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  • Bunnyhugger
    Bunnyhugger mazpaz

    Posted

    It won't solve the problem completely, but you could switch to frozen veg so you could get some delivery and for the rest buy in bulk so you don't have to make so many trips.
  • Beverley_01
    Beverley_01 mazpaz

    Posted

    Hi Paz,

    Sorry to hear this. I guess it feels like another kick to the groin, how frustrating for you both : / also I totally hear you when you say how this will put more pressure on you with driving and how draining that is. Take it as easy as you can in that department. Do as little driving as you can.

    Luckily in UK we have certain options. As you're husband cannot drive now, he is entitled to a country wide free bus pass (look on line or pick up concessionary pass leaflet from bus/train station) I know its not a magic wand but, will help a little. Free on all buses and half price on local trains. One of the criteria is being "refused a driving licence on certain medical grounds". Also, unsure what his disability entails but, is he now entitled to PIP? (personal independence payment) again not a wand although could help and you can apply even If you are working. This could help fund taxi's when needed. Not saying the process is easy if you do go through it.

    Also Sainsbury' s and Tesco (I think) do an assisted shop. You pick the goods, they deliver them for small fee.This means you can pick the vegetables you want. Also, re:veg abel and cole and other online organic veg sellers deliver usually with a guarantee on freshness. I too have several less usual dietary needs and get several different home deliveries because of this. It tends to mean buying certain products in bulk but no worries so long as you have space.

    Around where I live there is the 'neighbourhood scheme' part of the social services 'gateway to care' that come to tell you about things that could help. If you have one in your area, it may be worth your husband contacting them.

    Hope this helps

    Best wishes

    Beverley

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