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Young and newly diagnosed...With HERPES!!!

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vivian90054
vivian90054

Hi, I am 21 years old & I live in the US. I was just diagnosed yesterday with herpes. The Dr took a swab but was pretty sure it was herpes. I asked her if herpes appears years months later and she said that's true but in medicine , everything is pretty much black and white. That if you come into contact with a germ and it's contagious, you'll catch it right then and there. I've been having unprotected sex with this great guy I'm dating and I've been clean.

Because herpes take some time to appear, idk if he gave it to me or I gave it to him. He probably might have caught from someone else but never had any symptoms and never knew or he knew and was being a DOG and ruined my life on purpose, but I don't he'd do that to me. I told him to go get tested and he will. But I have not told him that I definitely have herpes.

I told him it was BV (bacterial vaginosis) & the Dr tested me and my results should return soon.....I was fine before this. Free of any STD and now my life is over. Changed forever. When the Dr told me, I was so numb I couldn't even cry. I'm young and had my whole life ahead of me. I don't even want to have sex anymore. I know I could still have babies but if I have a outbreak on the day of delivery, my only choice may be a C-section !!! (I don't like getting cut!) ....

(It is currently 11:12 pm ...Saturday, Mar 18) I tried to fill my prescription today without my mom finding out but the pharmacies over here in Maryland close at 6pm on saturdays. Now I have to wait til the pharmacy opens at 8am to fill my prescription tomorrow morning. My mom will take me because I don't want to risk her finding out until I'm ready to tell her myself.

I had a terrible day. It was itching so bad I rubbed it to relieve it and it swelled up and was really really BIG. I had never seen my vag swell up so bad until earlier today. I immediately jumped in the tub , ran freezing cold water on it til it stopped itching and it did but it was still very SWOLLEN. I can't wait to start taking my meds but I've read that the meds don't start working for real til a couple days later so I'll be suffering for some time.

Guys, I'm so scared to tell my mother that her youngest child has HERPES. She'll be heartbroken. My life is over. I feel like dying at this point.

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  • vivian90054
    vivian90054

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    Oh by the way, the part about the Dr testing me is 100% true!
  • justsolucky524
    justsolucky524 vivian90054

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    Hi Dear, I'm so very sorry you are going through this. You have every right to feel the way you do right now as it is a very normal and very common reaction however, you will be just fine. Once you get the meds and they begin to work you will feel much better. You're life is far from over and this is only a minor obstacle. It sounds like you've been pretty cautious and aware of your body up to now and that will just continue and you will learn to manage the skin condition if your result is positive.

    The first outbreak is by far the worst and depending on type you may or may not have them often. Hsv 1 genitally tends to recur much less frequently than genital hsv2. Wear loose clothing and keep the area clean and air dry as much as possible.

    You are not alone, trust me. If your Dr did a blood test along with the swab it may provide you a little more insight on whether the infection is recent or not. If your swab is positive but blood negative then it would be fairly recent (less than 3 months or so) if both swab and blood are positive it would suggest an older infection (greater than three months)

  • apollo09033
    apollo09033 vivian90054

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    Hi I'm 23 years old and have been newly diagnosed as well. I totally feel what your feeling. I'm in love with this girl but now I have to face the reality that I can never be with her which breaks my heart everyday. It got so bad for me that I went into extreme depression and closed myself off from the world but surprisingly one day after my downward spiral I decided to not focus on my condition and to try and stop thinking about dating. I started working on myself financially and am now geting physically health which has helped my mental state so much more despite my relapses of me getting depressed thinking about that girl. I didn't think I could get over having herpes and maybe I'm not lbut I do feel so much better now and I feel as if its getting easier easier. So what I'm trying to say is your not alone, and things will get better, I hope everything works out for you and that one day your perception about this will have completely changed

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