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Your child won't clean their room, does this upset you?

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frustrated61
frustrated61

When my child was young and living at home, I went to a conference with a great speaker of children.  He said, "allow your child to keep their room however they want it, if it's messy, let them live with messy.  After all, it's their room and they must feel they are a part of that home".  This is a statement from your child to you that they are well and want to make their own decisions.  

They may not even know what a "clean" room is as far as your expectations.  You could help them one day and work together and clean the room.  Take a picture of that room when cleaned and put it up on their bullentin board.  This allows them to know what your expectations are.  After all, this is their first big responsibility.

 However, if you've done the cleaning and picture of the room and they still keep it a mess, just close the door and allow them to be themselves.  It will one day be clean and empty. That is a lonely feeling so enjoy your child and forget about the petty things.  Your kids will grow up to be responsible adults and you betcha they will have a clean home.

 I can attest to all of the above as I've done the things mentioned and sometimes it worked, sometimes not so much.  But they are two grown beautiful daughters with clean, beautiful homes.  

Frustrated

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  • frustrated61
    frustrated61

    Posted

    And, most important, they are happy!
  • georgeGG
    georgeGG frustrated61

    Posted

    Hi Frustrated, there is love and commen sense there. Those two go a long way. I am not so sure about fixed philosophies, whatever they are. I expect the two lovely grown up children learnt a lot about love and common sense from benefiting from them.

    Doc

  • mrsmop
    mrsmop frustrated61

    Posted

    My daughter's room used to get into a tremendous mess and it often reached the stage where she didn't know what to do or where to start.  I used to help her at that point.  

    Needless to say, she now has a beautifully tidy house and it is absolutely spotless!

    My son never seemed to live in such chaos and found it easier to tidy up every so often.

    • mrsmop
      mrsmop

      Posted

      Oh, and, my 2 are happily married, my daughter with 2 sons
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