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GeorgiaS
GeorgiaS

A question I dread to hear is 'What are you doing this weekend?'

What am I supposed to say? I usually try to answer as upbeat as I can, such as I'll play some games, cook something or watch some comedies, or if I'm being secretly pedantic I might say 'I think I'll have a good rest'. Yay! eek

And when they tell me what they're going to do, usually exciting going out type things I say things like 'Great, have a good time' etc but I'm dying inside because I'll be in bed again! And I'm jealous. sad

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  • sueliz57
    sueliz57 GeorgiaS

    Posted

    Oh, take heart Anna, it's so good to know we all share very similar experiences. I know I shouldn't, but sometimes I wish other people could spend one day living the life of an ME sufferer!!!
    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS sueliz57

      Posted

      Me to sueliz, I thought it about a really cruel doctor and felt bad about it but perhaps it would give him a bit of empathy. 
  • sueliz57
    sueliz57 GeorgiaS

    Posted

    Ha ha Georgia - I like it (the tee-shirt). Anyway, I've had my rest now, back to the housework!!
    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS sueliz57

      Posted

      Lol, I haven't worn it though! I really should; even just to make myself chuckle. razz lol
  • GeorgiaS
    GeorgiaS

    Posted

    'Other people are worse off so shouldn't you buck up!'

    Hmmmmmmmmmmmm yes it really helps me to dwell on the worse suffering of others. No actually it makes me feel worse because I'm hurting for them and feeling sadder. 

    Thinking of people worse off has never helped me, nor thinking of people better off. We can't really compare anything that's so subjective. *wink*

  • IngeniumSingula
    IngeniumSingula GeorgiaS

    Posted

    Hi Geogia,

    I used to work in a place were most of the staff were training for fun runs, marathons or sponsored walks and I kept quiet and felt rubbish.  I've now moved on, don't have my nose rubbed in other peoples achievements and feel so much better.  However, when asked that question, I started replying "I've planned an unstructured weekend".  If they enquired further I'd explain that I hadn't planned anything but would do what I felt like doing, depending on the weather etc.  It wasn't long before I got replies like "oh, that sounds  lovely".  I'm not convinced these people want to be as busy as they are.  Maybe it's pressure from others or habit.

    In response to "how are you?" , you could try "I'm really mediocre" or "I couldn't possibly say".  Said with a smile, they usually get a humourous response and deflect attention away from you.  Most people don't want to know anyway.

     

    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS IngeniumSingula

      Posted

      Hahaha you're brilliant! razz An unstructured weekend of occassionally getting out of bed. lol And I'm mediocre so I might even manage to peel a carrot. 

      How about 'I'm saving my money by not going out?' and 'I'm saving my sanity by not going out so I won't keep being asked how I am' eek

  • IngeniumSingula
    IngeniumSingula GeorgiaS

    Posted

    Glad you liked it!  Well, after painting the town beige, I've planned some structure to Sunday:- get up, bathroom, kitchen to make pot of lady grey tea, living room to ly on sofa and watch emmerdale omnibus.  No plans beyond that but might consider watching Corrie as well if I've got the stamina.  It's life in the fast lane...
    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS IngeniumSingula

      Posted

      Hahaha I'm impressed! Having the stamina to watch Corrie deserves a medal. razz Ducks and hides under the duvet.
  • IngeniumSingula
    IngeniumSingula GeorgiaS

    Posted

    I don't think I'll be winning Gold!  Last week I looked forward to watching aparticular afternoon film but I fell asleep and missed the end.  So If I can't manage to stay awake in the afternoon, I thought morning would be more successful!  Bronze will do, 'Aim for Mediority' is my motto!
  • Tidsel
    Tidsel GeorgiaS

    Posted

    I understand! And I am blatantly envious now, a lot of the time.. What to do? The life of a ME person is very unlike that of a healthy person, and it is hard to share lives. Friends and family do not listen, when all you can say is hey, I walked 100 m today or, this day is BAD.

    What I do, when brain fos is at a minimum, is follow news, discussions and whats up, and try to discuss that with people.

    If others have any good idea I am all ears!

    • bronwyn97278
      bronwyn97278 Tidsel

      Posted

      Hi Tidsel;  I think you have made a Very good suggestion....it's not too hard to watch some TV, when we are having that break....and it does give us something to talk about.  I also like to keep a store of novels (some based on fact, others of new authors)...that also helps to keep my mind active, alert, and knowledgeable....good ideas help others to cope..............Bron
    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS Tidsel

      Posted

      Well we could say 'You know when you've had the worst flu of your life combined with the worst hangover of your life, combined with pain how would you feel? cheesygrin
  • IngeniumSingula
    IngeniumSingula GeorgiaS

    Posted

    Hi Tidsel & Bronwen,

    A lot of my conversation in around what I've seen on TV or listened to on the radio.  Have you tried radio 4 or radio 4 extra on iplayer? Brain stretching stuff and comedy?  The advantage is you can listen to it with your eyes closed, whilst lying down. Also, and I love this bit, if you fall asleep and miss the end, you just reload it when you wake up!  Some programmes I start 4 times before I've heard all of it.  I'm such a crock!

    • bronwyn97278
      bronwyn97278 IngeniumSingula

      Posted

      very good....I love your replies, always seem to be in tune with me...will try, but are you in Australia...not sure if I can tune into same channels....I do tape the programmes on TV that I like to watch...and yes, can take me a few goes to get through an episode....ahem....Bron
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