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Out for a meal (an achievement)

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michelle46271
michelle46271

Hi ladies

Well I'm out for a meal with my husband. Haven't done this for a while. I'm determined and I'm ok. A glass of wine in my hand to ??

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  • debra06803
    debra06803 michelle46271

    Posted

    Yah good for you ! I got to venture out today tooo had to find comfee clothes to wear after a TAH everything hurts my swelly belly good to get out but this heat has made me swell worse anyone else have this issue?????
  • michelle46271
    michelle46271

    Posted

    Well it was a success in some ways but not others. I did have the meal and I must say it was lovely. I had two glasses of wine. I even stayed out 2 hours. So all that was an achievement. On the other hand I was not relaxed,my whole body felt strange. My head didn't feel like it was with me and I held a lot of pressure in my jaw and face. On the way back in the car I was so nauseous. I controlled the horrid feelings the best I can. I'm so fed up with trying to keep everything under control. I can't let myself go and forget the horrid things and panic. It's there even with just starting the beta blockers. Perhaps they have took a slight edge off and reduced my heart rate. I so want this to be over but I continue to try xx

    • Guest
      Guest michelle46271

      Posted

      I'm glad that the meal was good.  It is hard when you are feeling that bad to enjoy what you should be able to enjoy.  You give me hope, though, about continuing to try. xx 

    • Guest
      Guest michelle46271

      Posted

      It depends.  I'm single and getting into a stage where it's hard sometimes to be alone.  When something goes really off the rails, like having this UTI, I feel like I'm on a deserted island.  My family all live nearby, and I could certainly go spend more time with them, but their situation is chaotic and I find it stressful to be there.  During the week, I usually mix up my commute a little - most days riding the bus, driving a few - but lately, I find it more reassuring to be on the bus so I'll have company.  I've lived on my own for over 20 years and it's never been a major issue until now.  Haven't shared with my family.  My mom went through a phase in her peri where she absolutely could not be alone.  I fear that's arriving for me.

    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 Guest

      Posted

      I know it's so hard. Anytime you want to chat give me a shout. Take care xxx

  • jaimie44465
    jaimie44465 michelle46271

    Posted

    Give yourself lots of credit for going out and staying out for a couple of hours. That to me is success and a step in the right direction. Our minds are s powerful thing so going out when you are not feeling well is an accomplishment. I would continue to push yourself bit by bit cuz right now the mind is the only thing we can control. Our physical bodies not so much 👍
    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 jaimie44465

      Posted

      Thankyou for your reply. It's a constant battle isn't it? A day takes all of your energy and then when I go to bed I only have about 3 hours sleep. I must be so tired every night but I don't go or stay asleep. My whole body is tired now and buzzes all over. If I could sleep 6 or 7 hours it may help. I'm having cbt sessions,somehow I have to change my thoughts but they come in every second and my mind's in a tizz. It would be lovely to know how much longer this is going on xxx

      Sorry rant over I had to get it off my chest xx

    • jaimie44465
      jaimie44465 michelle46271

      Posted

      Yes, I am taking CBT sessions too. It is a struggle. Especially at night when all you want is a peaceful sleep. Take care.
    • looloo43
      looloo43 michelle46271

      Posted

      You did great hun, by making yourself go out with hubby & enjoying some good food & wine. Focus on that. Hopefully the beta blockers will help in the coming weeks. Sorry I got confused about your bp - it was low not high!! (I knew you'd had some abnormal readings I just got it the wrong end of the scale!)

      I endorse what CC said - progress not perfection. Stick at Michelle & have a rant anytime you want. xxx

    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 looloo43

      Posted

      Thankyou. I went out for lunch and to Dunelm today amongst other things and was ok. A bit better day! Take care x
    • looloo43
      looloo43 michelle46271

      Posted

      God I love dunelm. I can easily spend a couple of hours in there(when I'm well) with a coffee & a wander round!!!! xxx

    • CCinCal
      CCinCal looloo43

      Posted

      Hi Sis

      Can you or anyone else recommend anything from Holland and Barrett? I've read so many times on here how starflower oil is helping people and it's half off now so I'd like to order it as I can't find it here where I am. But in order to make shipping feasible I want to order a few other items. Anything else that is a good buy from them?

      Thanks,

      CC

    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 CCinCal

      Posted

      Hello lovely - ive found Glucosamine Sulphate 1000 has helped me quite a lot with my neck pain - I was in agony and could hardly move left or right without it crunching and grinding, weather it's psychological or not but it definatley feels better. Hope that helps you xx

    • CCinCal
      CCinCal Fairy28

      Posted

      Thanks so much Lou. Something for my neck pain is exactly what I need right now. Xx
    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 CCinCal

      Posted

      Ps. Me again, if it helps read the reviews on their website they're all good ! X

    • Fairy28
      Fairy28 CCinCal

      Posted

      To be honest with you I thought nothing would help and I'd be like it forever in damm agony, my friend recommended them and ive been taking them for just over three weeks and I honestly can't believe the difference, I can move without it hurting so it must be good. Good luck ! X

    • CCinCal
      CCinCal Fairy28

      Posted

      Thanks I am. Is H&B similar to Boots? Or is it purely a health and wellness store? If I remember correctly Boots had other non health items as well.

    • looloo43
      looloo43 CCinCal

      Posted

      Hi Sis. I buy my evening primrose capsules 500mg from them for skin,hair, hormones. I also buy ester c vitamin c from them as its an easily absorbed form of vit c that doesnt affect all my bowel conditions (its non acidic). if you're having trouble getting your bill up to make shipping feasible, they do some lovely hand creams, & hair conditioners that smell gorgeous, & a charcoal whitening toothpaste I was interested in next time i order! xxx

    • CCinCal
      CCinCal looloo43

      Posted

      Thanks sis. But they said they don't ship to US. Oh well their loss.

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