"Victories in Self-Compassion/Self-Care/Self-Nurturing"
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Hi ladies,
I was reading a few posts and saw a theme about wanting to be more self caring and self loving towards ourselves. And I thought maybe we can share what we've done to be more gentler to ourselves.
I remember over a decade ago a friend made the comment that I was so hard on myself. It took me by surprise and actually I had no idea what she even meant. Since then I've realized that I'm what you'd call a perfectionist. And now going through peri, perfectionism and being hard on myself is really working against me.
So I thought maybe we can share on what one or two things that we've done daily to be more self compassionate with ourselves.
I can start. I woke up late today. 11:30 am. I always put myself down when I wake up late. Thinking other people are at work, I've wasted half a day. I'm lazy etc. Today I followed those thoughts with compassion for myself 1. I'm still recovering from surgery so I can give myself a break, listen to my body and give it what it needs 2. I don't have any place to be today so it's OK. 3. I'm sure there's others in their pj's at that time.
Anyone else being nice to themselves today? ??
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CCinCal
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My "self-nurture victory" today was I put on makeup!
Since my peri symptoms escalated last year I chopped my hair off and wore a beanie if I went out and nothing on my face not even moisturizer.
Today, I put on foundation, powder, lipstick (even used a lip pencil!) and put some effort into doing my hair. No beanie today! And went and got myself some frozen yogurt. ??
Anyone else want to share a self-caring/self-compassionate/self-nurturing victory they did for themselves? Anything goes. Spoke up for yourself? Got a massage? Decluttered something? Showered? Got take-out?
Guest CCinCal
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CCinCal Guest
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Wow that's awesome. Congrats! That is a huge self-care victory ??????
I'm a sugar addict too.
bobbysgirl Guest
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There is bacteria and then there is bacteria! There are lbs of good bacteria in our guts - at least there SHOULD be. They outnumber 'our' cells 10 to 1 and, basically, keep us alive.
This 'good' bacteria is under constant attack from the meds we take and the modern environment we live in. If you are on AB's you need to be eating live yoghurt (not those silly little pots - the real organic stuff). If you Google 'Good Bacteria' you'll be amazed.
We should all be watching what we eat. Forget the hype and the gimmicks and the 'healthy' food that the supermarkets push. A wise person told me to only eat the food our Grandparents would recognise and that would not include all the highly processed cxxp that is on offer now!
Cutting out sugar is a great first move. I know it is hard, I'm a chocoholic! A word of encouragement - since I changed my diet in January (no sugar, less simple carbs and NO highly processed food) I have lost 21 lbs, mostly belly fat. Go on girl, you can do it.
looloo43 CCinCal
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my self nurture victory today was me & my hubby put some new solar flower lights around our fish pond & some candle solar lights on our lawn that had been sat in their boxes for over a year! Looking forward to seeing them when it gets darker tonight. xx
Guest looloo43
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CCinCal looloo43
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OMG we really are sisters! I can totally relate to things sitting around the house for years. That's a great victory Sis!!! I bet you feel really good. Wish we could post photos on here. I'd love to see what it looks like. ??????????
Guest bobbysgirl
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I appreciate the encouragement. I have continued to avoid sugar all weekend. It's not easy, but it will be worth it, hopefully.
CCinCal Guest
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That's definitely a self-caring victory! Two days in a row is something ??????
I keep having in my mind about your other post about comforting yourself with sweets after your accident and totally see myself doing that this last month after my gallbladder surgery and neck dystonia. Thinking it's okay for now since I'm in do much pain I deserve this, I'll treat myself. It's a slippery slope and now I'm doing this daily. Didn't even see it until you wrote it. Even had Ding dongs today and haven't had those since I was a teenager. It's a slippery slope.
Just going to try one moment, one hour one day at a time b
Guest CCinCal
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Yes, do take it a moment at a time. For me, with the PTSD, it became a slippery slope in a hurry. Other bad habits that I'd never had in my life suddenly were tempting and easy to add to the list. I really think that's why my health has been such a mess this year. I believe it caught up with me. As far as the sugar goes, fighting this UTI is a nightmare, and I'm hoping that not feeding the bacteria will help... also started on organic cranberry tablets, which are supposed to help. Let's think good thoughts for each other!
CCinCal Guest
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Yes let's think good positive thoughts for each other and ourselves.
Also once I stopped the Cipro I got probiotic tablets to reintroduce the good bacteria. I can't say whether I felt any better because of them but read to do that. Xx
Guest CCinCal
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