17 and 2 months Uncircumsized (Phismosis?)
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I've just turned 17 and recently learned that penis's foreskin is supposed to go below the head (Penis head) I never knew this until recently but I begin to fear I may have what I researched to be Phimosis I can only expose some of the tip of it before it feels like its tense and I'm afraid to go further then that, I'm not sure if this is Phimosis but if so what can i do and will I be able to have a normal sexual relationship? (This is becoming an issue and has been causing me minor depression recently.)
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Wee_Dugie Concernedasf
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Hi, this was about the age I discovered, just like you, that my foreskin would not stretch back to reveal nothing other than a tiny proportion of the head (glans) of my penis. There was no internet in those days so I set about stretching mine without any guidance or medical direction.
So, yes, you are right what you have is phimosis - it is very common in male's your age. AND, YES, you can have a 'normal' sexual relationship, as I am sure many men have gone through the entirety of the sexually active part of their lives with exactly what you have now! What you need to research PHIMOSIS STRETCHING - and take the good bits from several different sites: THE ONLY way you find what works best for you is to try different suggestions. The MAIN thing is DO everything VERY gently to start with, as it is all too easy to injure your foreskin and main part of your shaft!
I take it you have no problems with masturbation, and, making yourself ejaculate, as you do not mention this? What you also need to pay particular attention to is the hygiene practices you adopt. As you make more progress with the stretching you need to ensure the end of your penis is kept very clean, and free from urine, pre-ejaculate (when you are sexually aroused, but, have not come yet) and obviously, any semen whatsoever. You will learn how to do this more thoroughly as you go along, but a clean tissue / or 2 pieces of toilet tissue usually take care of most of this.
*If you get a bit lost, once you have done your research on phimosis stretching - by all means up date this (your own) Discussion Forum and I can guide you further! AND, perhaps more importantly - by doing something in practical terms for yourself, will both alleviate the issue, itself, and take care of the depression issues too!!!
Good Luck - W. D.
Concernedasf Wee_Dugie
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Hi Wee Dugie I am really concerned about injurying it while stretching so i've been slowly starting just moving around the foreskin and pulling it back more often just to whats comfortable. I'm able to masturbate perfectly fine It works perfectly as far as I can tell. Hygiene is definently important because i've heard people say you need to clean it but I wasnt aware you needed to pull it back, it has a bad smell and I'm sure that's due to me not being able to clean it. I am really lost in all this because I'm just a kid and I didn't even know how my own penis was supposed to work. I really appreciate your information and I'll be sure to update with my progress that mental issues I think are normal because most people would be somewhat sad about finding out they had an issue with their penis. One stretch that looks like it'll work is Grasping the edges to stretch but I'm curious if thats a good idea. Again thank you so much this really made me feel abit better especially when I've been feeling so down as of late.
Pepasan Concernedasf
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I'm glad you are conversing with Wee Dugie - I think he has a lot of useful information and experience.
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Wee_Dugie Concernedasf
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Hi, I certainly empathise with your comment "I didn't even know how my own penis was supposed to work", as this was certainly how I felt. No one in my family told me about this - I was left to find out for myself, as pretty-much, you had too.
In terms of your stretching - at this point you are purely getting your penis head and the foreskin covering it used to the practice of being moved around (again, most gently to start with). Try to separate out the time you are self-pleasuring (masturbation) with the time you are stretching your foreskin. If you accidentally get to the point where you need to cross-over to masturbating, then there is no problem with this. But, this is not the aim of what you are doing in terms of helping your penis to be more healthier.
The best time to do the stretching exercises is when your penis is naturally warm: for me, this is when I first get out of bed in the morning, or after a shower. Once you start to build regularity to your exercising (start with at least a couple of minutes everyday) try to find some form of lubrication (not spit) to help the process along.
You do not need to buy anything specific - so if there is something like baby oil/gel, skin lotion of cream around your house that you could use, then that is fine for now. In time you will find one that suits you best. If you cannot access any of these I would suggest buying any budget price baby lotion / oil / gel that is specifically for sensitive skin. The best one is Johnson & Johnson's baby lotion in a pink plastic bottle that you can buy in most large supermarkets, Savers or Superdrug or Wilkinsons, at a very reasonable price, most stores like this do their own version of this at an even more very reasonable price, and often they are in clear bottles if pink is an issue for you.
*In terms of the actual stretches - simply, moving the foreskin in a deliberate manner is good for it (obviously, in moderation to start with, with little pressure or force!). If you are regularly masturbating (again anywhere between 2 or 3 times a week, to between 4 or 7 times a week is quite normal at your age) this again is good for your foreskin - as long as you avoid the excess, or forceful pressure downwards on the shaft of your penis towards your body.
As you are using downwards action anyway, try (carefully to start with) drawing the foreskin forward away from the head of the penis. Don't expect anything miraculous to begin with, but, after a number of weeks of finding what works best for your penis you should eventually find that it will become easier to do the stretching and that the foreskin may begin to feel 'looser' and it's covering over your glans, less tight.
At this point, NEVER become adventurous and suddenly start forcing your foreskin towards the body to insist you want more of the glans to be exposed!!! The rule of thumb, is, gently does it - certainly millimeter at a time NEVER centimeter! When you feel something is starting to progress this is when you can implement BETTER hygiene practices, and the best time for this is when your are in the shower.
NEVER loose heart and determination if you get set-backs. For most people these will be a frequent part of the process. By doing things gradually, and building-on what often seems like minimal progression, you will get to the point naturally where things (i.e. exposing your glans) do gain a momentum of their own.
Let me know how you are getting on: if you feel comfortable with what practice you set in place for your penis - you can do this after several weeks if you like, if not, and you get problems, by all-means post on here again sooner ........
Concernedasf Wee_Dugie
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I definently won't lose determination I can't wait for the day I can just comfortable role it down, I schedualed an apointment with a doctor just really hoping he dosen't only recommend me a circumsition and can actaully give me some help until then I'm going to continue stretching. even now I fee like I've progress because I can atleast show the tip I'm just wondering is it normal that when I stretch it and touch it it feels very odd like I get a strange sensation and I'll be sure to keep sharing my progress I really appreciate your help/support
Wee_Dugie Concernedasf
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Hi, don't be surprised if you get a GP who is eager to get you circumcised, and, further, suggest you take no notice of other people who have sorted this problem for themselves!
And yes, if you have not exposed any of your glans before, then touching it does feel odd! This is quite normal!!
If you get a 'good GP' they may suggest you use a steroidal ointment to help with the stretching. If not, the baby lotion is certainly a good help, particularly after you have just had a warm shower. DO NOT try to push lotion / baby oil etc. inside your foreskin as this can eventually build-up and cause a problem.
If you get problems, in terms of slight abrasions to your foreskin, or even catching the part of the glans you can expose with a finger nail, or otherwise puncture the skin near the head of the penis, then use a Antiseptic cream / ointment (e.g. Gemolelne, Savlon, etc). I use TCP liquid antiseptic - if there is some of this in your house, or you want to try a small bottle of this, bathe the end of you penis in a small amount (a few drops is enough) of TCP diluted with WARM (never hot) water - i.e. 3 times as much water as you have TCP. You can either apply it direct from your fingertips, or on a small amount of cotton wool.
It would not do any harm to bathe the end of your penis in a solution such as this twice, or 3 times a week. That will also combat the odour you mentioned.
Another stretch you can try is to place the palm of your hand immediately above your penis and the fingers pointing away from the body. It is best to do this when your penis is totally flaccid (i.e. not erect, at all). Place the fingers below the penis - very lightly, grasp the skin of your entire penis shaft and draw your fingers forward away from the body. AGAIN, this is simply to get your penis used to different skin movements.
In ALL the exercises you do to stretch your foreskin once you build regularity - i.e. after 3 to 5 weeks - you can start to build the pressure and force that you apply. Obviously, NEVER go from one extreme to another - SLOWLY build what you are doing, based on what you have previously done, and has worked - without causing harm.
Once you find an excercise that feels the right one for your penis you can also build the number of minutes, and, the number of times you do this each day. NEVER see what you are doing as some kind of gym-workout - a few minutes each time is quite sufficient. After a few months of successful stretching (i.e. no harm has occurred) you can do one or two excercise sessions PER-WEEK when you are doing 2 or 3 different stretches for around 15 or 20 minutes.
Once you get to being able to expose up to half of your glans, NEVER start to combine the pulling back (towards the body) with masturbation, or trying to do this when you have an erection as you can get in the serious situation where the foreskin becomes stuck and will not go forward again to cover the glans! This can be painful in the extreme!!! So, don't go at your penis - all 'Gung-Ho' with the determination to expose the entire head / glans!
W. D.
Concernedasf Wee_Dugie
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I've already been thinking of a circumsition and it's not something I really want but if it comes to it I would be able too, I'm just concerned with it possibly going wrong and that i would be missing out on the sensation of sex with a foreskin which is aperently a lot better.
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so maybe only time will tell? I'm not sure if this matters but I started masterbaiting when I was 16 and i've only recently turned 17 so Ive been masturbating regularly frequently for about a year, I know that is quiet late to begin but could that have anything to do with the detaching?
Pepasan Concernedasf
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I don't know whether starting masturbating relatively late on would mean your foreskin is less separate or less loose, but anyway it isn't clear from your description whether you have one or both problems.
You need a doctor's assessment.
Even if earlier masturbating could have helped, you can't change that now! No point in feeling bad thinking you did something wrong or omitted to do something that could have helped.
Wee_Dugie Concernedasf
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Hi, as Pepasan is suggesting, your penis head and foreskin may separate naturally anyway. The thing that makes sense to me is a simply calculation: your penis is as it is now. So, how many days have you been alive (this is how long it has taken for your penis to be in it's current state)? Balance this with the number of days you have been deliberately trying to stretch your foreskin naturally?
Although you are suggesting you were quite late at starting to masturbate, for many young men, when they first begin, the head and the foreskin will separate out naturally. All you have is a foreskin that needs a little more persuasion! Hence, this is where the stretching comes in.
Hopefully, the GP you see will be helpful, give you some level of reassurance, and perhaps give you some ointment to try.
*I would certainly look to ALL possibilities of a NATURAL remedy - this is where you build momentum with stretching, being kind to your penis, using light massage and building on the amount and level of stretching you do. If it were me, I would be looking at a minimum of six to 8 months of stretching etc before even thinking about doing anything else!!!