3 weeks and 2 days and im depressed

Sorry to hear your feeling down....i have my 1st hip replacement next week...im seeing consultant today I may not go through with it tbh...im an orthopaedic nurse so I know what to expect....im too independent to be so immobile for so long 😌 hope your feeling better soon xx

Hello. It it normal! The drugs are in your system still. Be nice to yourself. Do yr exercise. Drink plenty of fluids. Eat small meals often. I assure you this will pass. I am having my 8th hip tomorrow! But everyone on here just wants to be able to walk pain free. It will come. Sending love

Hello Madia.

So sorry you are feeling really down. It is perfectly normal and you so far from home as well. Week 3 and 4 were not my best times either. I was frustrated that I couldn't do things. I seemed to be in more pain than weeks 1 and 2.

I was bored and missed work as I am very active and independent. Then I had to stop and take stock. My body had been put through a major trauma. This has a physical effect as well as a huge emotional effect. At least I knew I would eventually get better. Lots of people with other more serious problems don't.

In the early days all you nerves and muscles have been cut and stitched. They are numb. As we heal and they are mending and our exercises they become more painful.

The exercises are so important as they help the healing and strengthening. By week 4 I gave my head a shake. Off with the TED stockings and I got husband to help me into the shower. I had horrible groin pain keeping me awake at night.

I'm now half way through week 6. Feeling so much better. Getting out more. Walking unaided and can now see light at the end of what has seemed a long dark tunnel.

So chin up. You will get there as well. This forum is great when you are where you are as others can encourage you that it will get better. You will heal and get back to life as you knew it but without the previous nagging pain.

Sending you love light and healing thoughts. Xxx

Morning Madla. Please know that this is something most of us go through. It is hard to not be able to do things you were Doing before but you need to take care of your new hip. The not sleeping is another thing we all have been through. Have you addressed these things to your dr? It's still pretty early on your surgery. I was crying every day. I'm so stiff still and have a limp but it's all due to weakness in the thigh and hip muscles. Exercises are very important but if in pain you should talk to dr just to be sure nothing else going on. But don't give up. It does get better. For some of us recovery may take longer, like myself but be patient and be kind to yourself and rest. Prayers going your way that you will feel better and have a speedy recovery. Hugs, 🤗🤗. LD

Ah madla

I am the same time as you in recovery three weeks 2 days . I felt down yesterday as I could not do stuff and have also picked up a nasty cough and feel rotten . Leg not swollen or bruised but still painful and walk like a jockey .. Can hobble a bit across a room without a stick but need one to get about . Don't feel well enough to go out yet and coughing makes my leg ache . I too have weird spasms at all times shooting yo and down leg ...

BUT if you did not have this done your leg would have gotten worse . You would have ended up in pain all the time and it would never get better . It would get worse and worse . At least the pain your having now WILL get better and will go and then you will feel the benefits . It's only been three weeks ... It's a big operation . Let yourself have a good is cry , let it all out and take each day as it comes . It will pass .. Stay strong xxx

I went through the same thing. I know just how you feel.

I remember looking at my dirty, dusty floor and thinking that I was so embarrassed that I didn't even want a friend to visit. I did not have the energy or will to clean. I was so frustrated and angry that I couldn't do simple things without feeling tired and sore.

But it does get better. Some days you will just feel like doing nothing but sleeping (HA!) and watching TV. Some days you will feel a little better and you can do something productive.

Going outside for a walk is good. You will feel slow and weak but the change of scenery is very helpful.

I found having one simple goal per day is good. Today I will wash my hair. Today I will do one load of laundry. Today I will make a nicer lunch for myself. Today I will walk a little further down the street.

It DOES get better, I promise!

Ohhh lovie 🙏🏻 I'm 3 weeks 5 days and have been exactly the same as you , so very depressed, bursting into tears feeling shockingly low 😪😪, and angry too with outbursts 😫. Loads of extra pain in groin , thighs and knees , been so low and depressed. Iv learned week 3-4 are the worst. Week 6 this will be getting better 🙏🏻🙏🏻😍👍🏽🙌. You can do this . There are some good days to come xxxxx do your exercise, push yourself a little but rest a lot , you need more rest than you think so your body can heal properly 😘😘😘😘 hugs hugs hugs xxxxxxxx

I am 19 days post op and feeling worse than last week. I'm doing my exercises and ice, resting and taking it easy. Still walking with the walker. Tried the cane for 2 days and had to go back to the walker. I'm grateful for what I can do but so dissapointed that I can't walk unassisted yet. My therapist said yesterday maybe 4 weeks till I'm walking. WHY DON'T THEY TELL YOU THIS BEFORE SURGERY? My Dr said I'd drive in 2 weeks which I did....but I can't walk once I get where I'm going! So hard to be incapacitated! I need to pray for patience ! Praying for all of us.....

dear madla, 

aww - such nice responses ... It really helps to come here and talk about it and then find out that it is normal and part of the healing ...

You really need to take care of Madla first ... I am sure that you were always busy and doing a lot, and now you can not do that much yet --- 

do exercises in bed - foot pumps (going up and down with your foot) and turn your ankles - maybe slide your leg to the side of your bed - not lifting okay ... that is to hard -  just a little bit is enough .... and if not, then not - it is okay ....

I am sure you miss your family and friends  -

big warm hug,

everything is okay..

renee

I am 8 weeks out it does get better. It is hard the first few weeks between the pain the not sleeping and not be able to do much.  Use ice to help with pain and take your pain pills regularly so pain does not get ahead of you. I cried all the time the first weeks but it does get better . Hang in there hugs. 

This is so typical in the recovery - I had never ever experienced depression before this THR recovery.   I have no idea why it happens, but it does, but it also gets better, so don't lose hope, you are not alone.

Hugs 🤸

Graham