Alcohol
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I need some help my boyfriend was so for 5 years the 2 year ago he thought he could drink again and did really well for 6 mos the only reason he stop was er visit with gastrointestinal stuff he then went to dr a was given Librium again he was really good for 5 mos the he thought he could do again and he was good for about 6 mos now he is drinking 10-12 beers everyday not eating well and come home to fall or pass out he has been wetting the bed, not remembering stuff trying to start arguments but he not allow to drink at home sometime when we are away and has been drinking a lot he needs to have a few in am he say "it is the nature of the beast". Before the 5 years sober he was drinking for 20+ years. I'm not sure what to do now I don't think he will live a other year drinking. Any suggestions
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mac58 deb87803
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Deb, your situation is similar to mine.
It is very hard to watch someone you love doing something which will ultimately kill them. Has your boyfriend seen a doctor - do you know if/how much damage has been done by his drinking?
How are you coping? I have heard that "this is what alcoholics do" thing so many times. It's an excuse.
The other thing I hear from my partner is that if I don't like it, I can get lost. But I don't want to do that. I love her, and she is making a big effort to slow down on her drinking at the moment.
I have heard good things about The Sinclair Method which I hope someone else will explain to you, if you're not familiar with it.
In the meantime, try to stay strong. I know it's very hard.
deb87803 mac58
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ADEfree deb87803
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Deb, I used The Sinclair Method and found it quite effective. You might want to google:
Claudia Christian TEDx talk
It's a video about The Sinclair Method delivered by a woman who was having a very hard time breaking free of alcohol. There's also more info on the link under The Sinclair Method on this page:
https://patient.info/forums/discuss/useful-resources-487627
RHGB deb87803
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He probably needs to detox again and be counselled on how to stay away from it, maybe with medication to help.
Robin2015 deb87803
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mac58 Robin2015
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Robin2015 mac58
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I did not use the Sinclair Method but have been on this forum for 3 1/2 years and many people have confirmed how well it worked for them. I stopped stone cold without any medication but don't recommend anybody to do this. Seek medical advice and professional help, if possible. I hope this helps you. Best of luck.
mac58 Robin2015
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That's very interesting.
From what I've read (especially here), stopping cold is not really recommended, but I'm really glad it worked for you.
Thanks for your reply.
RHGB mac58
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If you are a heavy drinker, tapering down or detox is recommended.
mac58 RHGB
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Thanks RHGB.
Now that my OH is generally sober, I am beginning to be able to talk about her drinking with her, without her getting defensive and rushing off to the off-licence.
I am hoping that she'll achieve abstinence.
Her most recent LFTs show an improvement as compared to four months ago.
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gwen45436 mac58
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mac58 gwen45436
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I'm not always!
But thanks, Gwen. You and the others have helped me.
RHGB mac58
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If she can cut down this much then she would probably be a candidate for Campral, which would really help in forgetting alcohol. It does mean having to go through an ARC, but if she wants to go down that route, we can guide her in dealing with them.
mac58 RHGB
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Yes, we're investigating this. it's difficult in a small village to figure out where the help is but I've got a number to ring tomorrow.
The good thing is that she's willing to try it.
vickylou mac58
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I would second RHGB's suggestion. I've used it twice and it's worked both times. It stops the brain thinking about alcohol.
Constant thoughts of alcohol make it very hard to remain abstainant, which is why so many people relapse and start drinking again.
Luckily my gp will prescribe it for me, but most do need to through an ARC, which can be tricky. There are people here who can advise on that route.
She is doing really well, but I found it very hard without campral.
RHGB mac58
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Google 'alcohol recovery charity' and your village/postcode. Most likely in the nearest town.
If you go down this route, come back and ask for advice, do not go to one without advice first.
I speak from experience.
mac58 RHGB
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