Alcohol user disorder??
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i have a friend who I'm 99% certain has AUD. it's like looking at myself 20 years ago.
We meet once a week, or rather should do, but she often cancels at short notice and gives the excuses I used to use. When we do meet we usually go for lunch, either a restaurant or pub and share a bottle of wine. However, the last few times, she's ordered a second bottle, even though I've said I've had enough. She will either go to the bar suddenly or grap a waiter for a second bottle, and always finishes it. Sometimes I will have another couple of glasses, but normally don't.
She always has a bottle of water in her handbag (mine used to be v&t instead of water!) She always wants the loo several times whilst we're shopping, and at restaurants (again one of my old tricks, a quick top up) She always wants to try clothes on. I've tried saying "leave you're bag with me whilst you try on, "but she says no I'm fine with it.
Ive tried suggesting coffee shops instead, but she normally says the food is too expensive! and she's forever sucking mints or ghewing gum.
My question is do I stop pussy footing about and just come straight out and ask her? She knows my history with alcohol and the problems it caused me and my family. I've even said I don't want a drink, i don't want to go backwards in the hope she will say something.
I would be interested in any suggestions anyone has, but after re-reading my post have decided I will say something. If she doesn't like me asking then tough. I only wish someone had tackled me earlier
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Paper_fairy vickylou
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Ive stopped going on this forum as it drove me mad and it is now. The most frustrating forum I've ever been on
Paper_fairy
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Paper_fairy
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Paper_fairy
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Re this forum I can't even put full stops commers anything and that is why I stopped posting
But Vicky Lou texted me so I looked
All I can say is I'm doing ok thank the Lord but please don't judge those that still suffer
vickylou Paper_fairy
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i had exactly the same problem some months ago. On your iPad go into notes and type, then copy and paste onto the forum. I drove me fxxxxxg mad, so know just how you feel.
im not judging anyone, the last person to judge
Robin2015 vickylou
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JulieAnne101 Paper_fairy
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My husband who is an IT Consultant, has always said that he would need to be paid to use ipad.
Kind Regards
JulieAnne
Paper_fairy JulieAnne101
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Unfortunatly I only have an iPad and don't have a pc. I'm divorced and have to make do with my iPad and iPhone
Paper_fairy JulieAnne101
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You obviously don't know my input on the forum before.
JulieAnne101 Paper_fairy
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No sorry I don't Paper fairy. I didn't mean to sound dismissive about your situation and ipad. I had an ipad and hated it and yes I know what it's like to be divorced and live on my own.
I don't have AUD thank god but my husband does. It has been a very long journey for us and we are still on it. So I do have some understanding. I have found the people on this forum so supportive, better than any alanon family support. There's RH who we all turn to for clarification. Nat and Vickylou who know exactly what I mean. Missy, Gwen, Ade I value all of them x
Paper_fairy JulieAnne101
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Nat666 JulieAnne101
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We are one big happy family aren't we JulieAnne😃😃
JulieAnne101 Nat666
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For my part I'd like to think we are, even tho I haven't been posting for very long on this forum. I am still in a bit of a pickle, so I need all the help and advice I can get xx
JulieAnne101 Paper_fairy
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And you Paper fairy. Don't take too much notice of me I am quite stressed at the mo x
Nat666 JulieAnne101
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We are indeedy my lovely . We are both newbies , I have only been posting on here since December .I came across the site when looking for info on TSM and Nalmefene . You guys are the only people I will talk to about it ...oooh and my new friend at ARC ha ha 😆😆😆
vickylou Robin2015
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Robin it was so frustrating . I'd type a post and then it would just totally disappear. It was so bad that I stopped posting like paper did. It wasn't until RHGB suggested using copy and paste, that I posted again.
it appeared that it was down to where in the uk you lived. I think the mod must have been fed up with all the complaints. Anyway I've had no problems since. If I'm going to write a long post, then I use copy and paste.
JulieAnne101 Nat666
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Didn't realise you were a Newbie too.
Hope your keyworker at the ARC is better than the one we got, wet behind the ears and one size fits all; AA or the highway x
Good luck x
vickylou JulieAnne101
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JulieAnne
you weren't a member of the forum when members were having problems, like paperfairy is having. It's nothing to do with her iPad. I tried iPad, iPhone, Apple Mac , Samsung and several other tablets. In the end I had to email the moderator.
Paper_fairy vickylou
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Thank you Vickylou. I feel that I was a valuable member on this forum for a long time. All my friends here had exactly the same problem months ago, as have newbies!
Apart from you, RHGB, Ade. Robin where are they now? They gave up because of this. I stay in touch with you, alonangel, Tess and Kelly in US.
I am now on another forum where these problems don't happen.
Thank you all my ol friends who are still helping others on this site xx
Paper_fairy
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JulieAnne101 vickylou
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