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?I already started a discussion but that was two years ago.
?But I found the link:
?Basically, I have a very close friend, that I have known for nearly 9 years.
It is like a father/daughter relationship, especially in public.
(full details in the link).
?I am separated from my husband two years ago. Since the separation, things have excalated dispropotionally, because my friend thinks that I can be his secrete girlfriend.
?In return of babysitting and stuff (Im studying to become a student midwife), he wants physical contact with me, since we see each other everyday, etc. he wants something back. Anyway, it can only gets worse with my studies as midwifery studies, like any other health studies are very tough with long hours and night shifts...
?Anyway, it has escalated into a fight when he was p*ssed. since then, I am really scared of any time he has a bit too much.
?So i accepted his arrangment just because I didnt want any more fighting. we had sex 2-3 time during that period. i dont remember.
?Over this last year he has less and less binge drinking. so its is easy for me to forget how he is.
?anyway, this spring/summer, things got bad with my ex husband and he had a letter of deportation from the Home Office. i wont go into details but the reasons are on my side, as him, being African, he is a "family member of an EEA national" (Im French). They found a point of law in the EU law. this came right on the result of Brexit (same day).
It depressed me so much. we will fight it to court because he is seeing the girls once/twice every week.
?Anyway, all that put a pressure financially.
?My friend decided to help. so in order for me to save money for the tribunal, he is helping paying the fees of the preschool, my online course etc.
?So all is well, but then out of nowhere he always wants to have something in return.
?As i was in such a state after this HO decision and Brexit, and then the 14 July tragedy in Nice, I thought that nothing could be worse. so i accepted it and twice again, this summer we had sex.
?Then out of nowhere, this sunday, he got p*ssed over the day, when I was away with the girls and their dad.
?In the night, he started texting, with "do you love me?" as a starter... At midnight. we texted for 3 hours. since then, in the morning, as usual, he texted as if nothing happened. I told him to leave me alone. since then nothing.
I have had enough!
?I want my life back. These past two years has been crazy. okhe helped me with my studies and stuff, but should I accept what he wants? obviously not as I dont want to.
?It feels Im not like a mother, because I put my child to school then with the other Im straigh to his house, and do anything together, somethimes, I drop my second to his so i can study etc. then we eat dinner together, and i come back home at 6. These last 2 days, Im happier, just because Im home and things on my own.
?Sometimes it feels like I had lost control of my life, but i dont know how to say that to him when I appeared happy all the time.. except when he asks.
?I dont know... I dont really know what to do>>>
?He loves me but I dont love him back. He loves me so he wants to do everything to help me, so i let him but Im suffocating.
?This friendship isnt going anywhere...
sorry for the long text..
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