Always Thinking He's Cheating
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Hello peoples. I keep having this issue, where even after looking through my boyfriend's phone a couple of times (horrible? I know), I keep feeling like he's cheating on me. After I started seeming like I was accusing him, he started accusing me. If he doesn't talk to me, for a long time, during the day, I'll think he's cheating or something. I always get proven wrong. I'm just so afraid of being cheated on. And I feel like my anxiety is always getting the best of me. But today, it was bad. I woke up around 12pm, saw that my boyfriend read my message on Kik Messenger (one I sent around 3 in the morning; we stay up late), and he didn't reply. At 5:45pm, I decided to message him again, and he replied at 6:09pm, saying he was trying to sleep (he gets woken up a lot, cause there's a lot of people in his house). He read my message, and still hasn't said anything. He can't be sleeping for that long. It's 3:37am. God, I worry too much. 
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daniel49570 kayla1865
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By the way (if you dont mind me asking) how long have you two been dating
kayla1865 daniel49570
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brittany19635 kayla1865
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I have the same problem. Honestly it's very frustrating. I check his phone everyday. I watch his activity from my phone because there were a couple of incidents that we discussed about him not doing. When I found out what he did it was at 3 am and it took him 30 mins to admit what he did. I've had so many guys hurt me physically and mentally. It sucks. I just want my life and everyone in it to be perfect. But in reality I know nothing is perfect. I want marriage. I want kids. He used to be married, but his ex wife cheated and he had proof and showed it to her. He has 2 kids by her and hasn't seen them in a year. My heart knows he is not cheating, but my head keeps messing me up. I have slight depression and I see a therapist and take meds but they do nothing about my thoughts. I've feel like I'm battling an evil demon who wants me to suffer. Idk how to fight it. I just keep hoping that my boyfriend never does cheat. Then I know if he does I can tell myself I was right. But I feel if I keep doing this to myself it will hurt me more. He said he will never leave unless I cheat, hit him, or if he does. I just know from past experiences that people can wake up one day and just leave for no reason. I live a life of fear and I have no clue how to deal with it.
jennie_90770 brittany19635
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I totally get what you are saying. I’m like you and have been repeatedly betrayed by men. I’m in a new long distance relationship of only a few months with a guy and already I don’t trust him. He’s sweet and amazing, but I just can’t let these thoughts go that he’s playing me. When we get into a relationship, we take that chance that someone will play with our hearts and emotions and hurt us, all we can do is pray we finally found the right one who doesn’t hurt us . It sucks and it’s def hard
candy01731 brittany19635
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I have the same problem too.. I've been in a relationship for 8 years and has been cheated on for so many times.. After two years now I'm in a new relationship, but a long distance one.. He's in the army based in Korea right now.. Everytime he tells me he's gonna go out drinking with his friends I get so paranoid.. Cos he won't message me back til the next day.. I'm so scared of getting betrayed again.. But he always tells me that he'll never do anything that will hurt me and will never cheat on me.. Whenever I get paranoid he doesn't get mad at me.. He just tells me he understands the feeling cos he's been cheated on too by his ex wife before.. He just wish my paranoia won't affect me so much or our relationship.. Ughhhh. This is stressful.. Am I not ready yet to be in a relationship??.. I love him and he tells me that he loves me too but I feel like an asshole for always accusing him of something I'm not even sure of..