Anal sex after haemorrhoidectomy?

Hey Matt, I've suffered exact same thing and all I can say is you really need to give it some time. What worked for me was a standard butt plug and plenty of lube. I can't be any more graphic. Your haemorrhidectomy has kinda reset your body, and you have to go through the discovery again of working up to bigger sizes. Just relax, listen to your body, and take your time.

Hey guys, very glad to read this. Most forums go way off into the first 5 days of recovery or how to have better BMs after fistula surgery, even if it is supposed to be about (receptive) anal sex after a hemorrhoidectomy. I am a 40 yo male, bottom (and I really love being a bottom) and I gave myself an external hemorrhoid after a particularly rushed weekend of enemas, pushing hard to clean out. I didn’t even know you could do that. I have zero pain, itching, etc. I wipe gently just to be careful and it doesn’t bother me....except for the totally depressing and life changing fact that I can no longer receive anal sex. Super, super bummed about this. My understanding is that it will never go away on its own so I will never bottom again. Of course the surgeons I’ve spoken to (and everyone else in the world) say don’t have surgery unless you absolutely have to and why would you even consider it if you’re not in pain. They say it as if not being able to receive anal sex is no big deal to me. 

Point is, how is bottoming going for you now that it’s well after surgery? Are you able to enjoy it? Will I ever be able to relax and go big again?

hi, i am a trans woman and i just had surgery on september 10. dr said i had a papilla, fissure and hemorrhoids. i guess i've been lucky that i haven't really felt any pain at all and feel now like i'm almost healed now. i have a doctors appointment in a little over a week. hopefully the doctor will tell me i will be able to have sex soon. i was gonna go slow and start with some small plugs and work my way up. i've been wanting to have sex so much lately too and it's so tempting but i think its best to wait to til the doctor tells me it should be ok.

Thanks so much for this thread. I had the procedure done about three months ago. Took me a little bit longer than "normal" to heal but I feel totally fine now. I attempted bottoming for the first time post-procedure last night and was like, "whoah, this isn't going to happen." I thought maybe I just needed to relax into it as I've always been kinda "tight" but this seemed a lot tighter and more painful (in a way different than the hemorrhoid experience that went away immediately and didn't linger on and on afterwards). I've noticed that fingers are ok with lube (Even just that would activate my hemorrhoids previously) but not really without lube. I had read this thread in the initial days post-op but didn't quite understand it the way I do now. I'm glad to hear that some were able to get back to normal. I have found myself in the past couple of years (yes, years) somewhat avoiding sex as a result , which i think might be sending unintended messages to other partners. I'm wondering if someone might be willing to share how often and for how long of periods using a butt plug to expand things was helpful. Thanks to everyone for their openness. It's been very frustrating to me how little information there is out there about this and doctors seem clueless about this part!

Really glad I found this discussion topic. I'm a 42 gay man, and usually a bottom. Had a surgery for hemorrhoid removal 3 months ago. This week I thought I was ready to try anal sex once more, but it was surprisingly painful, as if i wasn't being able to relax enough. Was a weird feeling, not being able to take my husband even being so used to it for years. Tried with a small sex toy, and felt as if I wasn't relaxing enough again. Maybe the memory of the post op pain and discomfort are still too present, and the internal involuntary sphincter isn't relaxing at it should. But I feel more confident now I see it's a common feeling. Guess it will be small steps till getting used to just relax and enjoy again.

First am so happy to find this and am not the only one

so on 27 of dec i had my haemorrhoidectomy surgury and it went very well

and it did not take a lot time for the recovery but i get the hemmorrhoid back on Feb

now am full recovered and get ride of it for good

i try to get back the anal sex as am 38 years old bottom and i love anal sex

my first time was ok even though my partner size was smal

but still i did not enjoy , while i was fingering my self i discoverd there was circular line of staplers

still inside the anal canal

i called my doctor and i asked him when it will fall down , he said it will stay there for ever

am freaking out now as this staplers ring is preventing me from having normal anal sex

be carful coz i read in an artical that pushin big size in the anal canal while the staplers still there is risk of penile injury or condom damage

have a nice day