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Anxiety and depression when my Mum needs me

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linda06687
linda06687

I've been on sertraline for months after a breakdown just starting feeling good, then my Mother went into hospital for the 15th time she has dementia. I then suffered a day of anxiety. Every time my Mum is mentioned I get anxiety attAcks...... Anyone had a similar experience.....how can I cope with helping my Mum without it affecting me

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  • rstep04
    rstep04 linda06687

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    I have similar my eldest boy is autistic and a woman 25years older moved him in with her now their having a relationship and have found out shes a drug user and has just been charged with gbh for glassing someone I'm in turmoil as they have blocked contact but if my family ask how he is or I think about him which is all the time I have a panic attack I suffer with GAD and its making me so ill I really feel for you take care and hope your mums ok
    • linda06687
      linda06687 rstep04

      Posted

      Thank you so much for your reply. I feel for you as well how hard it is to cope with the anxiety of the situation. I wish I could fine an answer for us both. Take care and I hope we both find an answer.
  • joanne53145
    joanne53145 linda06687

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    I'm so sorry u have had a breakdown! What was that like I'm wondering if that's what I've had and if it is it's truly awful! You must and can do what's right for u! Just wondering what dose serttraline are u on and how long before u felt any benefit? Coz I've been worse I'm week six four weeks at 50 and two at 100!!
    • linda06687
      linda06687 joanne53145

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      Hi  Joanne I have been on 150 for a month and felt much better, it took several weeks to kick in properly. My breakdown was awful, as they say my cup was full then overflowed.i am not expecting miricals quickly just going to fight it and be patient.  Google luck to you I hope things improve
    • DrK
      DrK joanne53145

      Posted

      Hi

      Sertraline is a good drug.You ca wait for another two weeks to see the response.

  • joanne53145
    joanne53145 linda06687

    Posted

    Hmmm! Thank you and if it's anything like I've been through its hell on earth! Really though sometimes you have to take a step back and look after yourself! Can anyone else help with your mum??? I pray these pills work in the end coz I dunno what I'll do if they don't! X
  • natalie99981
    natalie99981 linda06687

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    Oh Linda you poor thing.     I think this is unfortunately a normal reaction and 99% of the world would be anxious with their mum being ill and having dementia etc.    I guess the best thing you could do would be to get counselling or do some reading as to how to distract you from it.   I have an alcoholic mother but I also work with her so I am always around her.     It has been a part of my life for years and she generally lives a normal life but every now and then gos on a big bender and it really throws me off .. It actually happened this week and my anxiety crept back for a couple of days but I have found from all the books etc I have read it has helped me deal with it a bit more.  
  • DrK
    DrK linda06687

    Posted

    Try relaxation excercise and learn mindfullness.Everything is on google atleast for a brief understanding of it.
    • angela2014
      angela2014 DrK

      Posted

      What is mindfullness?  I need to try all of these things, things I should have tried 18 years ago, instead of jumping to theose "non addictive" antidepressants, that have now messed up 8 years of my life.

       

    • natalie99981
      natalie99981 angela2014

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      Angela I hate to be negative here but it seems you are very anti sertraline and yet on a forum specifically designated to it.   A lot of people that come on here are already in a bad way and negativity about ruining your life because of the drugs is probably not helping.   I do hope you find your way without medication .. I have had nothing but positives to say about sertraline and also know many people that would say the same.   I know you are just being honest and telling of your experience but know that if I had seen your comments in the early stages of being on the meds it would have made me worse. 
    • angela2014
      angela2014 natalie99981

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      I totally agree, I did not realise it was a support group for people on the drug.  I apologize. I thought it was just an open discussion. I have now joined a group called surviving antidepressants. That is more where I should be. I will say, out of all the drugs I have been on, sertraline was the one of choice to get off all the pills. I speak only of my experience, everyone is different. It takes weeks to work.  And whether going on these or off.... the same applies.  Treat every good window of feeling well, as a bonus, until you get well. I have started a new discussion in Depression. Apologies, but these drugs have destroyed my life.  The worst was Effexor.  I believe Zoloft is not that bad, purely from personal experience.
    • DrK
      DrK angela2014

      Posted

      a way to take control of habitual automatism of our mind and process learn to keep our mind in present moment.
    • linda06687
      linda06687 DrK

      Posted

      Thank you for the advice will go on google and read.
  • angela2014
    angela2014 linda06687

    Posted

    Are you your mums carer? start caring for yourself.  My sister was the carer for my mum.  It becomes too much.  Is that why you had the breakdown?.  Take the time to make plans, Change your life, then you can give up meds before they make you sicker.  I know, I was on them for 18 years.  I hope to be a survivor after antidepressants.   Go to help groups to find a place for your mum. 
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