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Anxiety when something is wrong

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lenie95046
lenie95046

I would like to know how many of you live in dread and fear of something horrible being wrong with you or happening to you? For the last year, I am almost in a total panic that I have something horrible. The menopause has made me so afraid, I get these daily health emails and its always about cancer or heart disease, and I know this information is meant to be useful and helpful, it makes my anxiety worse. Anything dealing with cancer is scary to me. I never was like this before, I had a rational approach. I just wondered if this is happening to other people, the other issue I am noticing is nausea, some of the other women here have said its apart of menopause too and I am now thinking whats next? I have anxiety, heat flashes, and now bad stomach issues. Any advice would be great.

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  • cazjaz16
    cazjaz16 lenie95046

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    Hi I totally understand where your coming from I've been suffering really bad the past few months
  • lenie95046
    lenie95046

    Posted

    Dear Ladies, thank you so much for your wonderful feedback, I honestly don't know what I would do if it weren't for you guys. I'm dreading getting my mammogram and testings because of this horrible anxiety, but your input has been so useful. I'm going to get therapy and perhaps medication to deal with this. Thanks again.
  • susan21149
    susan21149 lenie95046

    Posted

    Hi lenie

     I have had that fear in me at times when I am not feeling good i understand what it feels like it just brings up more anxieties

  • Snatchpiece
    Snatchpiece lenie95046

    Posted

    Hi Lenie,

     

    I can certainly relate to what you have written. I have always been a worrier but once something had been checked out and I was told all is ok I have always been able to move on with my life and stop my worry, but not anymore. Since Nov 12 I have learnt so much about this transitional part of our lives as at the time didn't even consider that

    it could be peri. 

    As I have had no one really to talk this over with i was so determined to understand things so that I can find a way of feeling better. Had all the usual health checks and all have come good. Like you my biggest symptom is the health anxiety and then I would say it would be very bad sinus problems and then digestive issues. All flare up at different times.

    My lady GP who I found very understanding and has helped me so much, she suggested to start the HRT route because anxiety seemed to really only flare up when my cycles were over the place. I tried four different ones and really was getting to the stage of giving up on it all together because it didn't really seem to help. Most of the HRT are geared up for a person who would have had a 28 day cycle, well this was my first stumbling block because mine has been a 25 days cycle for many years. The HRT tablets used be 14 days of oestrogen and 14 days of of both Oestrogen and Progesterone, but for me by day 10 I had already felt the brewing up from my old

    cycle, some months I did well but most of them i still went through really bad health anxiety. I read so much over the last few years to find away of surviving this journey and now have a new HRT which is Oestrogel which is a gel rubbed in on your thighs everyday, min of 2 - 4 pumps and as I am still in peri I was prescribed the Utrogestan which is the progesterone part which are to be taken for 12 days from days 15-26, now because of my old cycle of 25 I can tweak this to suit my old cycle.

    One Tuesday this week I wasn't feeling too good in my mood and was feeling really flat and anxious but my progesterone part of the HRT was not due to be started until Wednesday (day 15) so I used some old serenity progesterone cream and very quickly I started to feel calmer and more at ease. With this mind the next night I started the utrogestan progesterone and to my surprise I had started feeling anxious once again so Thursday morning rather than using my 2 pumps of the Oestrogel I decided to increase it to 3 pumps (1.5 pumps) on each thigh, well the old me came straight back and I am now feeling free from the shaky, anxious feeling I had started to have on Monday/Tuesday and knowing that my bleed wasn't due for another 15 days so I could't stand the thought of feeling this way for that length of time. 

    I wanted to share with you my experience of how I was able to get out of this peri anxiety with the help of the HRT which is known as the gold standard because both the oestrogen and the progesterone are the closest to what our bodies produce and have the least risk.

    I had an appointment with a meno specialist recently who said that so much more research has been done regarding HRT and that it can protect you from you from quite a lot if started before your periods finish completely ie in your 40-50. 

    I work full full time in helping run our family business  and need to be able to function 

    all the time and cannot and do not want to loose time off for this journey so I have done so much research myself as the GP don't really know to much about this part of our lives and generally quick to hand out ADS when not really thinking that it can be a PERI anxiety which will stop when our hormones are more level and balance. This particular HRT will be so much easier to wean off when needed aswell as I will just have to tweak very slowly the gel that I apply which then in turn will stop any symptoms from coming back once again, far easier than if taking tablets or using patches to reduce.

    i hope by sharing my experiences this will help you find away to ease this horrible journey.

    loads of love and hugs Joy xxx

     

    • caroleUJ62
      caroleUJ62 Snatchpiece

      Posted

      I have just today started a period, and I was almost out of mind with anxiety, with not a clue as to what was causing it all last week. I have got variou stresses in my life, but things I used to do to calm me down no longer worked at ll.

      Now I am finding the anxiety levels are finally starting to subside, so am thinking it must have been some sort of PMT.  I so much dont want to have to suffer like this again. Its terrifying and exhausting. I actually prefer to be bleeding if that is the only thing that stops the dread and anxiety.

    • Snatchpiece
      Snatchpiece caroleUJ62

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      Hi Carole,

      Like you I find this feeling so draining especially if a period arrives when you were not expecting it but now you can relate to why you had been feeling out of source which hopefully will settle your anxiety. I have to deal with loads of stresses and try to manage it but sometimes cannot and then I have work through to find a way in calming down. I find the suffering of health anxiety very hard to do deal with because most of the time I am a positive person but when these hormone imbalances take over I find it a struggle to think this way. For me having a period is my life line because when my bleed arrives my mood generally always improves! Massive hugs to you😘 xx

    • caroleUJ62
      caroleUJ62 Snatchpiece

      Posted

      Thanks so much for this. This last week I honestly just thought I was going totally mad and would end up having to be sectioned?.....!!!!

      I just feel so tired all the time, as well as the paranoia - mainly leading up to the period, plus creacking joints.

      I saw my osteopath yesterday, and she said the joint cracking is fine, and means we are making progress......   I just hope this is true.

      Hugs to you to, and Happy Easter.

    • Snatchpiece
      Snatchpiece caroleUJ62

      Posted

      Hi Carole,

      Even though I am on HRT and things have improved for me immensly my own hormones are still being produced which can knock me off balance. I should have a bleed every 29 days with my HRT so thought things would be more balanced with HRT but I guess until I am in complete Menopause and when my hormones have leveled out I can still expect these peaks and troughs err. I had a homepatic remedy in Feb and so far my health anxiety is not so bad. Still get some months with PMT and at present I am count down for mine to start not till 10th April. For me I am slowly but surely realizing my low feelings are all about my hormones and not anything sinister which was how my mind had got into thinking which for me was so strange. Have a lovely Easter with your family ️xxx 😝

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