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Any happy stories??? Sex?!

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sweethheart5703
sweethheart5703

Anyone have any GOOD news?? I'd like a cheerful post. Like you have a loving partner/husband totally accepting. You can have amazing sex still and NOT get an outbreak. You can go out with friends and DRINK and not get an outbreak.

I'm mainly concerned with the sex. It's not on my mind NOW but it will be. I'm turning 33 in a couple weeks. Std for my birthday. Awesome. But I'm really in my prime I feel sexually and I haven't had much sex to begin with this year. Only two partners this year and one was a boyfriend I was with several months. The other guy was I thought going to be my next boyfriend or I wouldn't have slept with him. But I like sex and all I keep reading is that it's a trigger. The Valtrex doesn't help that????

If I was older I probably wouldn't care much about my sex life but I'm still young enough that if I settle down I want a healthy sexual relationship. 😳

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  • mbclyde
    mbclyde sweethheart5703

    Posted

    I am in a committed relationship, we broke up for 4 months and have reunited and have gotten engaged. I love sex also and so does he but I have to get pass I may never know how I got this. Since I am still breaking out and really not feeling well have no desire to have sex. Still angry about the whole thing so I really don't even want to have sex right now. I'm hopeful that things will change in my mind. And life will just go on as it did before.
    • sweethheart5703
      sweethheart5703 mbclyde

      Posted

      I'm very angry too mainly because I feel the person who gave this to me definitely knew. Especially since he didn't even freak out when I said this is what I think I have after getting symptoms a week exactly after sex. . I know it takes two to tango but I would never have sex with someone with obvious symptoms and A. Not wear a condom and B. Not tell the person or C. Just be a human being and say you can't have sex at this time. I screwed up with the no condom part. I did try to say something about it but he decided to keep going and I for some reason didn't speak up any more and I wish I had. I wasn't thinking at all and I'm pretty good about making sure to always wear condoms I don't know why I let the ball drop. So very stupid of me. On the plus side congratulations on the engagement. Try to find the positive in your life and be happy it's not worse that's what I keep telling myself. Definitely a wake up call. 😞
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus mbclyde

      Posted

      But with a current first outbreak, as yours seems to be, it's easy to determine whether this is a new infection or an older one, which in turn can possibly identify the source (if a new infection).
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus sweethheart5703

      Posted

      Practically the same thing as you! Let my guard down with the wrong person, when I should have known better. I'm usually a lot more careful as well. He claims he had no idea he had it, but I don't know anymore. His behaviour since certainly hasn't left me with a particularly good impression about his character!
  • mbclyde
    mbclyde sweethheart5703

    Posted

    I think a great thing for me is finding this site. I really needed to read about other people and have a place that I can trust others know how I feel. It was just amazing to me to read other symptoms and I just want to get educated. Heal my mind heal my body and then sex can come after that.
  • Chick100
    Chick100 sweethheart5703

    Posted

    Well through God Jesus Christ I must believe it's possible via faith because after my first outbreak I've been a year and a quarter outbreak free. I eat whatever sex like crazy no sleep zzz God is good👍😏
  • littley89522
    littley89522 sweethheart5703

    Posted

    I suppose it depends what type youve got. I've got hsv1 and I have 2 children. I got diagnosed 3 months ago my first outbreak was horrible I'm not suicidal but I really couldn't go on Amy more. I did have a allergic reaction to the numbing gel so took an extra week to heal bit, my husband is so supportive of me I was in tears for weeks and he said it didn't change anything, we didn't have sex for 4 weeks coz it took that long until I sort of got back to normal and it was brilliant ge really has been my rock. My vagina hasn't gone back to normal which I don't think it even will, not sure if it's because of the gel or the outbreak but it's very sensitive and is slightly itchy from time to time and of I scratch it it burns but I'd rather have that then a outbreak. Good luck to you xx
    • sweethheart5703
      sweethheart5703 littley89522

      Posted

      I have two children too ages 9 and 12. I can't believe as a single mother looking for love in all the wrong places I was only trying to settle down and all I wanted was a monogamous relationship and to get married. My biological clock isn't ticking but definitely my marriage clock is. I've been single 3.5 years I don't even count the relationship I had earlier this year even though it was several months because that was a joke. So I continued on my quest for love found a guy that was attractive, personable, took care of himself so it appeared, he was pretty buff and a gym person and had his own place with a cute dog (a normal guy in other words lol) and In my mind the way he was talking to me I just thought he was going to be the one and I let my guard down, I knew during sex that something was off though because he seemed strange and I thought not into it for some reason but I've never had a guy not actually enjoy sex with me so hindsight I'm thinking he may have felt irritated during sex but trying to play it off? It was very bizarre. I think I was surprised he was acting like that that I didn't question him at the time I just kept thinking he was behaving weird. I spoke to him the other day and told him what I've been dealing with and he said sorry to hear that. Didn't seem shocked or concerned that maybe I was a carrier but I most certainly wasn't because I hadn't had sex in months prior to him and I tested twice before and after the boyfriend earlier this year and was negative. I turned a little OCD about catching things that I'm really an idiot for putting myself in this and not being careful.

      No irritation or symptoms after sex? I thought being itchy was a sign we were still in outbreak mode? I know nothing this is all new to me.

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus sweethheart5703

    Posted

    Not tried sex yet, since I'm currently single and don't want to rush it after catching Type 2 not that long ago, but I have hit the bars, had a few drinks and danced till after 3am a couple of times without issue. :D

    I also drink caffeinated tea ALL day (no joke, lol) and eat whatever I like. Even smoked a few cigs when I've been super stressed about things, though I know I shouldn't generally. No probs so far, so touch wood!

    • sweethheart5703
      sweethheart5703 FelizCastus

      Posted

      That's good. I drank a few times last week when I thought this was just a bacterial infection and yeast infection. But now that I think it's herpes I'm suddenly afraid although in guessing if I was fine last week of be fine this week. I think I'm just overly paranoid because of all that I'm reading and need to learn what works and what doesn't for me. I don't want to give up drinking though I always drink when I go out and don't want that to change. As a mother I need to be able to feel like I can still have a life otherwise I'll go crazy. Does drinking on Valtrex minimize the effects of the medication? I've only taken my second dose last night so even though I have a bottle of wine I didn't open it yet. Lol paranoia for sure! 🙈
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus sweethheart5703

      Posted

      Luckily, alcohol doesn't interfere with the meds, but it can trigger an outbreak in some. I went easy on the alcohol when I partied, but will slowly work my way up and see how it goes. Don't want to put my body through too much while it's still developing antibodies. In any case, no more overly intoxicated nights out. Need to be more aware now that I have this!
  • ouch109
    ouch109 sweethheart5703

    Posted

    Well

    If i am looking for the silver lining...

    I had herpes 20 years without knowing it. Had several partners, one long term. I never passed it on.

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