Asked to speak to rude "counselor" on the side today....

Am I missing something? That didn't make any sense to me? Sorry.

Missy, you sure sound agitated and angry, but I'm not sure what has happened

Correct me if I'm wrong Missy.  I believe this all happened at outpatient counseling.

I am lost, Missy, but I gather it hasn't been an easy day.  I hope you will tell us more when you have time.

You are so brave, I have never been able to stick up for myself, but it sounds as though you are more than capable of that.  I admire you.

Sending hugs,

Pat.

Wow everyone is right..I will start over ..my mind was super distrated during that post...on Thursday....I had raised my HAND to ask a question in group...and she called on me..and I was making a GOOD point (which I won't go into)...and she didn't listen to my COMPLETE thought...and cut me off in the middle and I was P*SSED.  We argued a bit..and she kept cutting me off!

So today I wanted to approach her personally and tell her that her technique of cutting me off before I finished my point was not supportive of my recovery or anyone elses.  

I thought to be an ADULT...I would grab her before her one hour participation in the meeting....and ask if we could talk (BECAUSE she told me that we are not doing counseling right now because these counsleors are there to help us during this outpatient).

She tried to cut me off..said she was heading into the group and she would talk to me after group.  I said NO! This will only take one second.  I said if you don't listen to me there will probably be a scene - she said "ARE YOU THREATENING ME?"  I said AM I THREATENING YOU?  lol...I was stunned a minute..and then I said no...I'm warning you that I may have an outburst if you don't listen to me for one minute.  So she did...and then said....do you see what just happened?  

I said WHAT?  She said I told you after the meeting I would talk to you...and you intruded anyway.  I said yea, I DO see that ..but you told me that you were available and I still want to talk to you after.

So she said, OK...you think about what I said and I will think about what you said.  We agreed.

She goes in...and starts digressing (instead of starting the meeting as she had told me the reason why she couldn't talk to me!)...and I'm thinking WELL, WELL, you didn't have a minute for ME...but your OFF topic now...but I didn't say that I waited UNTIL after the meeting. 

After the meeting....I calmly told her that i wish she would take the constructive critisim and take accountability for shutting me off before i finished my thought yesterday. And I told her that I DID think about what I did by cutting her off as she was on the way in to teach the class...and then pointed out with a BUT...you then didn't start the class..so that actually made me feel like you just didn't want to HELP me.

I did apologize for jumping her on the way into the meeting.  And I did tell her that if she is going to tell people like me that she is available for breif counseling moments...that she has to be specific with times...Like "I will set 5 minutes before and after a meeting or something".  I said you told me I could talk to you....I tried and you pushed me away and that reaction only upset and confused me more.

We both agreed we had points..and ended on a good note.

Ooo pleZZZZZ !!......

Well done Missy.  We don't respond to challenges rationally when we're in a drinking frame of mind so your reasoned response to her shows to me that you're acting as a sober person. You're controlling events rather than letting them control you.  I wish I could do the same.  

I don't post on here but I do like to look around. You seem like a very warm and kind person and I hope you carry on as you're going and don't slip back to the bad old ways.    

Not much to say other than that, so best wishes.