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Asked to speak to rude "counselor" on the side today....

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Misssy2
Misssy2

vicky and Kelly...lol...pay to come to my meetings.  There are people in there that cover their face when I open my mouth...lol.

One person approached me and said you don't have a problem speaking your mind and they loved it.

Anyway...I thought to be an ADULT...I would grab her before her one hour participation in the meeting....and ask if we could talk (BECAUSE she told me that we are not doing counseling right now because these counsleors are there to help us during this outpatient).

She tried to cut me off..said she was heading into the group and she would talk to me after group.  I said NO! This will only take one second.  I said if you don't listen to me there will probably be a scene - she said "ARE YOU THREATENING ME?"  I said AM I THREATENING YOU?  lol...I was stunned a minute..and then I said no...I'm warning you that I may have an outburst if you don't listen to me for one minute.  So she did...and then said....do you see what just happened?  

I said WHAT?  She said I told you after...and you intruded anyway.  I said yea, I see that ..but you told me that you were available and I still want to talk to you after.

So she said, OK...you think about what I said and I will think about what you said.  We agreed.

She goes in...and starts digressing...and I'm thinking you didn't have a minute for ME...but your OFF topic now...but I didn't say that UNTIL after the meeting. 

I have to continue what happened after later..cause I have to run to Dr. with b/f. smile

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  • Paper_fairy
    Paper_fairy Misssy2

    Posted

    Great stuff misssy. If there were more people like you in group therapy or meetings I'm sure more of us would attend them. Instead of the same old predictive cxxp week after week. She probably feels intimidated because she realises you know a hell of a lot more about addiction than herself. 

    Keep going as you'll be helping others in the group X 

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 Paper_fairy

      Posted

      Hi Paper....good to see you!  Miss you!

      No..I don't know more about addiction than her....This is what it was about...and I have alot of respect for all the counselors and wish I had persued that avenue as a career.

      What happened on Thurs was a man in the group was talking about how furious he was that they lowered his anxiety medication and didn't warn him.  She started to try and lure him to look at the board and the things we all came up with to soothe anxiety.  I STOPPED her and said - "Wait, I am getting ANGRY right now"....She said WHY?

      I asked the guy if he minded me interuptting his time to speak to address why she was making me angry....he said GO AHEAD (was happy I was standing up for him).  This counselor is known as a hard a**..so I was a little nervous...but I was mad...some people were covering their faces...waiting to see what would happen.

      I said...this man just told you his anxiety med was lowered without notification and you are pointing to a board of activities he can do...I said I KNOW because I have talked to him...that he is not even going to listen to you and YOU counselors always jump to taking medication away...and....THEN SHE STOPPED ME....

      I wanted to finish my thought....which was....IF you want to take away medication this type of stuff should be DISCUSSED first in a 1 on 1...and its like COFFEE....COFFEE is a DRUG.....I drink 5 a day...if you were to take away my 4pm coffee...I would be miserable...it helps me get thru the dinner activities....the errands to the store, etc.  So therefore, because his medication helps him get thru things and he has been prescribed it for many years...and you yanked it from him without notice....do you think he feels like taking a "hike" or "listening to MUSIC?

      But she didn't let me get my point across.  I kept trying to tell her she didn't let me finish as she was drawing a stool with 3 legs on the board...showing the 3 legs support the stool...and in recovery....the 3 legs are medication, support and self care (hiking, music, etc).  She agreed....take one away...and the chair falls.  But, she was saying "medication" is only 30% of the remedy.  I kept chiming in saying "disagree".

      I disagree because if you take my medication away....than I'm not feeling self care....or looking for support.  She never let me say why I disagreed either...kept putting her hand out to stop me and say let me finish....I was SO MAD. 

      And I addressed it off-line...because I knew in a group....she would try to overpower me again (as the leader) and I was not willing to be shut down without her hearing me out.  And I didn't bring up the medication opinons I have...I just said...basically...can you not cut me off or others when we are asking a question and let us finish our thoughts!

  • Paper_fairy
    Paper_fairy Misssy2

    Posted

    I'm  sure you have done her a lot of good, even though she won't admit it. Hopefully she will think again without stopping people who are asking advice, unless of course it goes off topic. 

    Sorry ive not been around much but I'm on 3rd day of detoxing and you know what that's like!

    Also when I'm able I will fill my "soothe bag" and have a goal for each day!!

    Still in bed, I've got my book, lucazade, water, crackers , vitamins and fruit!!

    Keep posting with your wonderful topics..xx

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 Paper_fairy

      Posted

      So you do have a goal today! REST.

      I'm so happy you are on Day 3....Day 3 is just as hard as Day 2......But if you manage....DAY 4...things get better.

      Have you thought about Campral paper?  I never thought about it...my Dr. prescribed it and I believe it really works...Its like someone put a ROAD BLOCK in brain so it doesn't automatically tell me to DRINK when I am super stressed out. 

      Yesterday was a REALLY bad day.  I was stuck/trapped in a car with someone that I was really having it out with...and I had tears on the verge the whole time..just kept praying to get back to my car....and I wasn't even thinking of drinking...well if floated by...but I moved on quickly.

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