back to work & i hate it

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After 13 weeks and a little pressure from work asking when i would be back, i finally went back yesterday. If you know my posts previously regarding my none sympathetic manager & boss then you can imagine the feeling i had returning.

My boss asked me today " well was the op easy peasy like i said?"

I said no and shook my head, he then replied "Oh its is!!!"

I could have punched him in the face!

I ve got an incentive now to leave, so constantly looking for another job, i have had no support from work whatsoever. My manager asked me how i was feeling, so i told her how achy i feel and got bad back, my head felt thick too as my HRT has been doubled so need to get used to that too. She turned around and said "Its cos its been hot you feel ill, its the weather!!"

How the hell i'm facing this everyday i just don't know. It hasnt been an easy ride and yes i do feel achy, is it worth even telling them at work cos sympathy is none existent

I wish i'd stayed off work longer now

Gail

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    I know how you feel I'm a self employed courier and the courier that runs our depot knows someone who had a hysterectomy about two weeks before me and all I kept getting was you should be doing this by now the woman I know was riding horses and doing more than you are is all I got but everyone is different it effects us all differently but my field manager who's male has been great I've had no hassle from him
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      Hi Lyn

      Dont they make you sick saying you should feel like this n that, and they ve probably never had an op! It sounds stupid, i know, but it sounds like theyre jealous in a silly kind of way. Ridiculous aren't they? 

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    Hi Gail

    Oh you poor thing, what an awful way to be treated.  You really do not need these people in your life, life is too short, there must be a better job out there for you.  Fate is telling you to get active on the job market.  Go for it.   

    So sorry you are not feeling well, and to be told it is the weather, what is the matter with these people's brains?  frown

    Perhaps a visit to the GP, really lay it on the line how you are suffering, throw in some depression, anything to get yourself a sick note, and then seriously start looking for a better job.  

    Good luck Gail.

    Love

    Jacqui smile

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      Hi Jacqui

      Thanks for your comment and support. 

      When i  went on leave they were very evasive with me and i knew then i never wanted to go back. So yes, i m looking for another job.

      If i dont start to feel any better soon i will go back to docs and see what he says, the way i feel i will be depressed xx

       

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    Have you got someone higher than your boss to go to or an hr department? I go back next week as my 6 weeks is now up 😕. Ever since I informed of return I've been inundated with calls and emails " to get me back into being back". But what you are experiencing is more than that. Are you hopeful for another job being round the corner or are you very specialist but saying that why should you if it's her fault. Take it further xx
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      i work for a charity, only my manager in the office and our Chairman who works voluntary. Thats it! Other than receptionists and care takers, so nobody higher than the people that are unsympathetic.

      I m determined not to stop there now, i know it might sound morbid but fancy working as a funeral arranger, a friend of mine had a job doing this and loved it but left as her daughter got her own shop so she works there now. 

      One day karma will bite them back.....hopefully x

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      In which case I wish you all the luck in finding something new. I'm sure that having time away (probably more in one go than we ever have had) makes you think about things. I has me x
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    Hi

    I feel for you I'm in the same position with pressure from work. I'm coming up to 15 weeks post op and still not back at work. Had an appointment with occupational health at 12 weeks and was told "you've had the recommended time off work if you don't return you will be taken down the capability route" I was completely gobsmacked. At 5 weeks post op I was on crutches due to my knee swelling with no movement at all coz it was that bad. After numerous scans,etc I have cartilage damage and have to go for another op on the 22nd July. My manager wanted to see me so I went and was told that occy health had declared me fit for work!!!!!!!

    I always used to be the quiet one that never really said anything until I got sh*t on from a great height in my last job....I'm not anymore.

    If you don't feel right then make sure you look after yourself your health it worth more than any job. Go and have a chat with your Dr and explain how your being treated at work and your body is still recovering from such a serious op,not everyone is the same. Granted others cope much better and recover more quickly but we are all individual.

    I really hope they ease off you and you find something else soon but don't go jumping from the frying pan into the fire make sure your heads in the right place. Also note everything down keep a log of everything,I have .

    Good luck keep your chin up and go see your Dr.

    Love Lynda xxxx

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    Hi Gail

    I understand where you are in regards to work and how unsympathetic they are x I am due to go in on Tuesday for abdominal hysterectomy I have been feeling really I'll and stressed they just say take a break? I have gave a copy of everything from the hospital and I gave my manager who is female my signed operation letter and I got a little upset she said don't worry it's the Norm nowadays woman have them everyday??? I lost it and advised her it's like saying having cancer is the Norm?? I will return when I am ready I will not fall to pressure x take care and let me know how you go xx Nic

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    P. s can you believe my manager even googled my recovery time? How bad is that who is she Dr Dre? She has no emotion or empathy xxxx sorry needed a rant again ha 😜 xx
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      Hi Nicola

      You sure you don't work at the same place as me? There can't be 2 of the same managers!!! Good god how can they be so vile? The op if the norm, must say my boss said to me "it's easier nowadays, come along way from when his wife had it done, they don't even have to cut you now" well sorry, but I was cut and I had my ovaries removed his wife didn't, and getting HRT right to stop all my aches n pains has been tough! I cannot believe these people are so heartless x

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      Hiya yes think they from the same grow bag x I had my pre op yesterday and my heart rate and BP up so advised to take it easy so told work would not be in until after op my manager the doctor??? Said she didn't understand why I am off now wen my op isn't until Tuesday I thought Really what planet are you on hahaha she actually made me feel worse xxxx
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      Hi Nicola, some of these managers are just unreal, unsympathetic and I actually think these sort are really jealous of the 'attention' you may possibly get, not that we asked for it. Hope all goes well for you, take care and take it very easy. Do as your told! Forget work and enjoy your time off, it goes so quick x
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    Hi Nanny to five....the treatment you have and are receiving is disgusting. Ive been absent from  my work for eight months and although i sure they must be absolutley sick to death of me, they have been fantastic. At seven months i visited my  gynacologist who said i have adhesions which are causing the pain which Im still getting. Prior to this ive been visiting various GPs within my practice and four different ones  have said a hysterectomy can be a large operation and can take this long to heal. How can there remain so much ignorance? Good luck, I do hope that you get yourself sorted out. PS I return to my work tomorrow...nervous now.
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      Hi

      Can I just ask what your pain is like??? I'm still getting pain,I'm 15 weeks post op. I also went back to my gynea consultant with the pain and was told it's probably adhesions and you will just have to live with it. I've also had 2 c-sections.

      It's horrible isn't it. Hope work goes ok for you.

      Love Lynda x

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