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Does anybody have dark thoughts about the future? I mean I used to have no problem planning ahead and just assuming I would be around to do whatever I was planning. Now I think "hopefully I'll be alive". I'm feel afraid to plan ahead.
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angel368 juanita93228
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Hi Juanita,
Yes ,me too, I still plan things,but constantly feel I won't be around to do them. I have trips planned for February and March which I organised in September,as the dates get closer, I still feel detached from it all. I guess I will be around for them,but I'm not excited and feel indifferent to it all, like it belongs to someone else, the old me.
juanita93228 angel368
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I get it. Me and six other ladies are going to see "Menopause the Musical" at a local dinner theater. It's in June. I almost declined. But I thought maybe I'll get a laugh or two out of it.
ImagineOneDay juanita93228
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The musical sounds very interesting. Enjoy! 😁
juanita93228
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Didn't even bother going in to work today.
lisa68384 juanita93228
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So sorry. What symptoms kept you off? I'm a stay home mom and don't know how i could possibly swing a job outside of my house. I struggle at times just to keep up with my kids.
juanita93228 lisa68384
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Tummy troubles and just feeling like I can't deal with people. I just feel pathetic and low. Thank you for asking. I don't think I'm going tomorrow either. Didn't help that I missed church Sunday and just watched the sermon online. It was basically about preparing for death.
lisa68384 juanita93228
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I just posted this on another forum but do any of you ladies feel a gush of weepiness when getting out of bed and moving around? It's so weird. If i stay in bed and read and work on things from bed then i'm fairly ok. Then i get out of bed and start moving around and it's as if i can feel the emotions rising. I start to cry, get emotional, feel despair and overwhelmed and then I can usually feel it lift after an hour or so...usually. am I the only one who experiences this? I get shaky ends jittery too in the morning as soon as ibget out of bed. This comes and goes as well. Had blood sugar tested many times and no diabetes. This seems to come with weepiness.
juanita93228 lisa68384
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debi14820 juanita93228
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DaisyDaze juanita93228
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That happens to me too. It's awful.
synaesthAsia juanita93228
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I feel for us all. I am exactly the same. My symptoms are very unpredictable. And always something new pops up. My peri is very creative in finding ways to scare me... Most of my friends are much younger, going places and doing things all the time. I used to be the one to initiate adventures and trips, now days I just cancel all the time as I am never sure whether I' ll be in working condition or not. On a hopeful note: I discovered Ashawagandha a couple of months ago and I can positively say that it is the only herb up to now (and I ve experimented a lot trying all sorts of natural remedies) that has REALLY helped especially with my moods and energy. I take two pills in the morning with breakfast and I take 5htp at night. I feel energized and positive during the day and I don t wake up in the middle of the night with all sorts of irrational, racing thoughts any more. Still.... I do have bad days, like today for example that I woke up with cold flashes and getting ready for work feels like a colossal task. Overall, however, I feel much, much better than I used to. Ashwagandha is the best thing that happened to me this year. I' d be interested to hear other women's experiences with the herb.
lisa68384 synaesthAsia
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juanita93228 synaesthAsia
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Like Lisa said it just shows how different we are. Ashwagandha didn't really help me either. But I have heard other ladies say it did wonders for them. It just all depends on our chemical makeup. I was on Trazodone for three years until it stops working(or so I thought). My doctor prescribed 20mg of Prozac. After two days, I stopped taking it. I also stopped the Trazodone. I was waking up depressed. One of the side effects of being on an antidepressant is rebound depression. Some people get it some don't, Like Lisa said we're all different. These SSRI drugs like Prozac, Zoloft, etc. have such horrible side effects when you first start taking them. I've heard if you can make it though the first two to six weeks they're ok. I was feeling bad already, I just couldn't take feeling worse.
laura_05315 juanita93228
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laura_05315 juanita93228
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juanita93228 laura_05315
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Hi Laura. I'm sorry you are feeing so poorly. I can't really give you much advice since I am postmenopausal. Peri wasn't a hard time for me except for the heavy periods. Right now menopause is a mental nightmare for me, I'm also still working, so I couldn't imagine running a business and dealing with it. Just try to be good to yourself as much as you can. Pray and meditate, take walks. I came to menopause later because my estrogen level was high enough that even though I stopped my period in 2010, I had no symptoms until 2014, and I've been struggling a bit since then. Mine has mostly been with mild depression, anxiety, crazy thoughts. Don't get me wrong, I've had physical symptoms too, frozen shoulder, ears ringing, dry eyes, etc. I just wish there was a pill to make it all go away!