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Bad vibes about THP

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Babylon2015
Babylon2015

How do you deal with negative comments from immediate family members putting you off from doing the surgery who are completely uneducated about hip replacement surgery and do not want to?  I am looking forward to my operation april but I am getting pulled down alot lately!

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  • barbara17317
    barbara17317 Babylon2015

    Posted

    Ignore them!  Tell them to read about all the successful hip operations and tell them you do not want to end up crippled in pain and may be even in a wheelchair.  If you don't have the operation, it will only get worse and worse, do they want to see you like that or do they want to see you happily walking about in no pain?  Tell them if they want to see you having a better life, then they had better give you some support instead of negative feelings all the time and if they can't do that, to go away.  Best wishes for the op, you won't regret it.
  • Mary8610
    Mary8610 Babylon2015

    Posted

    Tell them that the consultant wouldn't put you on list if you didn't need it and that they are very lucky that they are not in the pain you are . Good luck
  • val14381
    val14381 Babylon2015

    Posted

    They are probably just worried for you but there is no need to be. You either choose a life of pain that will only get worse or an op that can help you get your life back. Good luck whichever you decide.
    • deborah33754
      deborah33754 val14381

      Posted

      Well said Val, keep it simple, you do not want an argument ....

      I wanted to do both at the same time and the surgeon agreed, my family wanted me to do one at a time.... At that point both hips were causing significant pain AND it would mean waiting until school let out for the summer for the second op...... No way I could continue with that level of pain and function.

      I am stubborn and stuck to the plan, surgery went well and no pain since (almost 5 weeks out).   I am ready to ditch the two canes but being patient  to let the bones mend (I have osteopenia so bones are less dense)

      i will ill keep you AND your family in my prayers with lots of positive thoughts

    • Babylon2015
      Babylon2015 deborah33754

      Posted

      Good on you Deborah, 2 hips at the same is a lot to handle....

      I am trying to stay focussed and put my energy where it belongs right now.....

    • Paulus1949
      Paulus1949 deborah33754

      Posted

      Respect Deborah.. I bet it's tough going,you've done really well.

      I needed both hips replacing,but my surgeon advised against bilateral.

      Im 3.5 weeks post op on my 2nd THR in a year,and wish I had them both done together,but each day sees a slight improvement, so feeling pretty positive..and hoping it's my last hospital experience, I think I've developed a phobia for them..wonder if there's a word for that?

       

  • Paulus1949
    Paulus1949 Babylon2015

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    Hi there.

    As said don't listen to others, they're not the ones dealing with the daily pain of bone disease,it's your body.

    Even post op lots of people with no knowledge were telling me to do this and that,and that they knew people who made a full recovery within weeks..total rubbish of course.

    You have to be single minded and do what's best for you.

    Good luck.

  • kathee58019
    kathee58019 Babylon2015

    Posted

    You get a new family. This is the time when you need support and if you can't count on your family to be there for you, you just have to count on your self.
  • denise83964
    denise83964 Babylon2015

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    Hello

    that's bad your family should be rallying round and supporting you don't allow them to get you down it's your body and it's something that you need to do so you can have a better quality of life. hip replacement surgery is preformed thousands of time a year it's a. fantastic success rate and the pain you are suffering now will go and you will feel energised after a new person.

    good luck with your operation

    keep your chin up

    take care

  • lindabowles
    lindabowles Babylon2015

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    Unless they have had op they cannot comment. It is the best decision I made. You stick to your guns and go for it. It will be life changing. Sorry you haven't got the support you need, but you will be fine. Good luck x
  • eileen64__UK
    eileen64__UK Babylon2015

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    Hi

    Just tell them its not them that is living with the pain that you are living with.

    Tell them you will gradually get worse......it is a chronic degenerative disease {from someone who has had 2 THR's}wink Do they want to be looking after someone in a wheelchair? Trya and find out their reasons for objecting to it?

    Love

    Eileen  UK

  • dene32609
    dene32609 Babylon2015

    Posted

    Hi 

    people are telling you to get it done on here , i had my left hip done 5 years ago and still in pain i can not walk far and got a power chair had my left one done 3 years ago no pain at all it just how it goes with some people i have both knees done  1 last july and doin good  the other 7 years ago i have that done 2 time as it was not good the first time still in pain ,,to so make you own mind up , you could be the lucky 1 and be pain free ,,, 

    • Babylon2015
      Babylon2015 dene32609

      Posted

      Hi Dene, i have been postponing the operation for more than 10 years since I was 30 and now am 43, i could wait and bear the pain more  but its starting to affect my back and my good leg...sometimes its enevitable and in my case I was born with a bad hip...so lets hope for the best, i wish you well xx
    • dene32609
      dene32609 Babylon2015

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      good luck in which way you go its your body, i do not know if you are married, but a good husband is all you need,i have the best 1 in the world, 

      I am a walking robot lol got arthits cervical and lumber spondylosis  I R B , had a heart attck back in 1998,got a pacemaker fitted thats because i have laughing and coughing syncope i blank out ,i had my cartilage out when i was 30 but to look at me people think i am ok keep smiling  + other things 

    • ginny35168
      ginny35168 Babylon2015

      Posted

      Hi there!!!!  Do what your heart and body tells you to do.  Focus on only your thoughts.  I too am 43 years old.  I had a THR rear entry January 8 and although its been a bit challenging, it is probably the best decision i eve made.  I needed a new hip since i was 13 years old.  Lived without pain for a long while, however the last year had been very difficult.  I am a flower designer by trade and stand on my feet 8-9 hours a day.  it was affecting my back, my knees, my mind, etc.  Once i decided to go thru with the surgery, a flood of emotion filled my body.  I cried, for days and then accepted the fact that i flat-out needed it done to live a better quality of life. I couldnt walk stairs anymore and my limp was horrible.  I couldnt get off the toliet or tie a shoe.  Although these things are challenging now with my new hip, i am seeing improvement every day.  It's going to take a while to get back to "normal", but i can tell you, its the best thing i ever did.  Good luck to you and i hope you do get the surgery.  Feel free to message me with any further questions.  Ginny USA
    • Babylon2015
      Babylon2015 ginny35168

      Posted

      Thanks Ginny for your kinds words and encouragement, my surgery is a month from today, somehow i feel excited about it, same time its challenging with how my boss reacted at work when he knew am going for this operation, my mum is worried, etc etc....if you discount all these i would probably be much more positive....what is rear entry? is this Posterior approcach?...
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