Can someone help me out here?

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I have depression and various other mental health illnesses. I've been close to this boy- well, I thought so anyway. We had sex and he knew exactly how vulnerable I was when it all happened and now. He knew I wasn't even sure on whether we should be doing it due to how vulnerable I was but it happened. Put it this way, he has used me. I know it is not rape or anything as I never said I didn't want it. But I can't help but feel he has used my vulnerability to get what he wants and that's it. I'm extremely hurt at the fact he has used me knowing how vulnerable I was at the time and still am now. I don't know what to do, I mean would this even be classed as something?? I don't know, I just feel broken, sick and like I can't breath.

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    Hi yes classify it as a young man wanting sex and that was all he was thinking of.   He wasn't thinking or worrying about your needs as he was only concerned with getting what he wanted.  That's it and nothing more - ok?   You will come up against a lot of that in life coz that is the real world.   

    The secret is to be aware that you are feeling vulnerable and don't be afraid to say no if you want to.  If you do want sex and you think that will help you then say yes. See it as your choice and not the mans.   That is very important - don't let yourself be coecered into it but make the decision YOU want to.  Ok?   You are in charge of your own body not a man!  Always remember that.  

    Bev x    


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